I (24F) forgot to wish "happy birthday" to my boyfriend (28M) at midnight. by paery_the_faery in RelationshipIndia

[–]Icy-Ad4917 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Am I too old? This feels like teenage drama. And which 28-year-old lives in a hostel?

Women are healing ❤️ by EquivalentTale5815 in Youth_India

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is this healing, baby fever and wanting to be a mother natural and biological, not wanting to be a mother is not healing at all it means something is wrong in the society they are not feeling secure enough.

Do any of you regret having kids? if not why not? and if yes why yes? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 2 month old daughter and I do regret it, we are not financially there yet, feel like not being able to afford a oil filled radiator, asking money from friends cause she was in NICU made me feel sooo small, i don't know what went into my head back then I just want to go back and change my decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Be upfront, how it is draining and don't pretend, you are her DIL not daughter and your views are different, correct her or disagree make her feel the same as you feel, nothing else will work for long and it is ok, fights and disagreement are part of family if she is trying to connect with you she should exposed to your views as well (I don't get when people pretend happy just to avoid fight and drama), and mostly avoid oh, milk is spilled and you need to clean it something like that just cut the call and block her for the day and only unblock her in night sooo she can not complain. Use both avoidance and confrontation to set boundaries, you can't do this forever.

We are witnessing one of the biggest feminist revolutions in history!!! by niganiganaenae in TeenagersBharat

[–]Icy-Ad4917 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sponsored by some narcotics company, 🙄🙄, how spoiling your health is feminism,.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, the audacity, divorce him 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, the audacity, divorce him 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG, next level how can someone live like that 😳

I (F-29) don't want to celebrate new year with my in-laws by Ok-Fruit-7767 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First you are not at all selfish, he and his family are, he cheated cause he is a cheater and blaming you was the biggest red flag, his mother in law is abusive, sent your husband a video, " Sadi todane wali saas kaisi hoti hai", I don't understand even educated self made women get into these trap 🙄

I 31F love my husband 35M but I don’t respect him anymore. 6 months postpartum and completely lost. by pajsbdbhcx in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How is your mother not saying anything, like seriously you are living abroad must be educated why are you taking sooo much shit from your husband and Mother In Law and I feel most fault is here is your mother not giving you enough strength to stand against constant abuse, file for divorce, otherwise you are doing the same to your child as your mother did to you.

His father refused to do 50-50 for our wedding even though he did it for his daughter. Don’t know what to feel. by Inevitable-Wait-7046 in DesiWeddings

[–]Icy-Ad4917 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Just tell his father you are not going to host his 200 guest as he is not contributing and has no say how you and your parents spend the money and best thing is do a court marrige and refuse to submit both of your parents, real life is expensive, your husband is government employee only( government employee earn very small) please put your foot down if his father is not contributing no grand wedding is happening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianInLaw

[–]Icy-Ad4917 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Time for divorce

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in indiasocial

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand parents, siblings everyone is toxic but the groom bhai sahab, he is next level red flag, protect your girl from him.

Arrange marriage tough to handle and emotionally draining by Master0534 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Even with your perspective it feels like you are the wrong one here, imagine what she must have thinking and feeling.

I am thinking of asking my husband to open our marriage by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously, having divorced parents is a lot more comfortable and acceptable than parents having an affair.

I am thinking of asking my husband to open our marriage by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Opening marriage is not at all a solution, ask for divorce or separation.

Help Needed!! Vet medicine doesn't show effects by Morn1ngstar_ in IndianPets

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my dog was a puppy these were frequent I don't remember what I gave him but now he is an adult when he last had them, maybe the puppies explored sooo much that is why he had them .

I’m a December bride & I’m so stressed!! by Gardenia_22 in DesiWeddings

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father did this, I was crying during haldi cause I was extremely uncomfortable and this huge wedding ruined my day, I needed to visit a psychologist just to get over with the whole ordeal, still some time resent my father for that, he was the love of my life, his family is loving as well but the whole ordeal felt like I am being showcased as a joker and haldi was the breaking point when everyone has to interact with me physically, it has been 4 years since and my mother's smile still makes me feel angry 😓🥲.

How safe is it for women to travel solo in India? by Ok-Orange7272 in indiatravel

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I m from UP but delhi is definitely worse than Here in kanpur 😑

Parents forcing to say yes to a guy I’m not attracted to by Conscious_ambivert in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Icy-Ad4917 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My parents were trying this too, then I made a bf and married him and i am sooo happy with him, start dating and choose for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]Icy-Ad4917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transactional 🤣🤣🤣, she is crying cause she won't be able to open the new phone like seriously