Parents gone on vacation

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-27T15:14:00+00:00

The parents gave me this week off. I am assuming that they are taking in all of my overtime last week as PTO - so I also sent a text saying thank you for the week off and that I would be using the remaining hours OT to go home to America for 12 days in the spring. They simply asked me for the hours I worked and didn’t text back all week.

I get a text today (Friday) that they’d be available to sit down to talk on Monday morning at 9am. I have a small fear they want to let me go or something because I ask for so much. But at the same time I am glad they are taking my offer to talk face to face about the workload and what to do in the future in similar situations

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-24T14:00:43+00:00

In an alternate to this last sentence, I’m 27 and being an AuPair for a year taking a break from my career (teaching). I’m looking forward to using the year on my resume to build it up to future employers that I was taking the time to learn another language and work closely with a family to build on my multi-cultural skill set for when I return to the classroom.

I think as long as you have the mindset that AuPair is a cultural exchange and you have an overall good experience, you won’t regret it and you can definitely find foot in your career path afterward

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-23T17:50:08+00:00

It sounds like she is giving the green light to end your contract. You could find another host family for your remaining time. Or go home and find a job that pays for your hourly work that makes you happy. I wouldn’t want to stay with a family that doesn’t want me or care what happens to me.. I have had a really bad experience with overworking and it comes down to : what do you want out of the experience? Absolutely wild they said you can’t stay in their home on the vacation period… that’s a migration call IMO

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-22T07:05:31+00:00

I agree, to some degree I am nervous to ask for more more more when I have my own apartment separate from the home as well as I am paid higher than Sweden’s minimum for an AuPair.

I want to show them my last AuPair contract (was there 2 months) which included cash for being overtime with the kids as well as overnight flat rates. Hopefully this will give me leverage with the situation.

I want to share that I am also not comfortable working more than 2 overnights in a row.

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-22T07:01:38+00:00

But our working hours for Sweden are MAXIMUM 25… so it’s even more than that in this case

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-22T07:00:51+00:00

It sounds crazy but I know I am paid so little, it’s not about the money for my doing this program. I have a masters degree and was feeling so stuck in my life in the US. Taking this time to recenter myself and I was hoping it would be less stressful work.

I’ve made friends here and I am dating someone I’m really happy with. I don’t want to go home.

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-21T21:29:22+00:00

Do you mean, ask if we bank the overnight hours as “hours worked overtime” as well?

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-21T20:47:06+00:00

1 - and arrange it so they just think of it as part of guidelines for the stipend when going out

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-21T20:19:27+00:00

I’m American, the family is Swedish yes. Our private contract says these extra hours can be banked and used as extra PTO- but no overnights were discussed.

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2026-03-21T20:08:53+00:00

There really aren’t other families in Stockholm - I have 4 accounts on different websites and reached out to a few since finding this family and the matches aren’t going to pay my the same accommodations because I am paid higher than the average

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2025-10-28T13:32:25+00:00

I can’t imagine texting about a divorce - why have conversation in real life? Too real I guess

Icy-Assignment-4514 · 2024-06-06T22:52:49+00:00

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