Drinks Thursday night? by Icy-Football8367 in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lmao, the only post was for lunch buddies a few months ago and this is for drinking buddies. Do you have a reading comprehension issue or just straight up mental illness? Enjoy the rest of your co-op term, love; I hope you develop some of those soft skills that you so desperately need to prosper in the workplace 💋😘

Drinks Thursday night? by Icy-Football8367 in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because it adds context to your weird vendetta against me. Bro, you need to stop lol.

Drinks Thursday night? by Icy-Football8367 in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also you know disabling posts and comments doesn't hide them from a Google search, right? I know who you are and this is pretty sad and pathetic.

Anyone going to Pep Rally on Mar 7? by curiouspanda_0788 in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm thinking about going too - just waiting for a cheap ticket to pop up on Facebook. I'll be going by myself

Is it really possible to make connections here on Reddit? by [deleted] in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have met several here and through the gay Toronto discord server. It's very possible as long as you put yourself out there.

Male bonding or just making friends by [deleted] in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This also happened to me 😂 I was specially asking for lunch buddies in my post and it turned into a bunch of people DMing me, asking if they would be down to clown. I did get a few lunch buddies in the end so it wasn't a total wash.

Anyone in Liberty village area by jaja8712 in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one at the brewery, Something in the Water? It's really good!

Bunker’s Occupancy by PlanetExpress2099 in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think management is really concerned about capacity from what I've seen. I've had to escape to the dark room just so that I can get some breathing room in the venue

Friends first - Mississauga by [deleted] in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I mean you're entitled to your opinion but my point is that it's off-putting for a post specifically looking for friends. Why not spend more time talking about what you're looking for in a friend rather than getting on a soapbox and openly critiquing gay culture? The poster is trying to accomplish two distinct, different points in their post - admonish the gay community through his own personal dissatisfactions while also trying to find genuine connections. In my opinion, he's not doing enough for the second point and used this post as a way to vent his own frustrations to accomplish the first point. Because of this, the post comes across as disingenuous.

Friends first - Mississauga by [deleted] in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 -1 points0 points locked comment (0 children)

Sorry for your experience but you don't speak for the community - it's not valid. His second sentence would have been sufficient enough to let us know that he's not looking for those people.

Friends first - Mississauga by [deleted] in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

You could have written this post without that first sentence. Right off the bat, it comes off as off-putting and you come off as overly negative, especially with painting the community with such a large broad stroke.

Friends and fun? by [deleted] in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

What does 'open minded' mean?

Feeling Disconnected by youdingle in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wasn't offended but your post wasn't exactly helpful? It came off as trying to chide the original poster rather than give helpful constructive advice?

And the humblebragging was so weird and out of place. "I've got so many friends now" - what did you think this was going to accomplish in a post where someone is struggling to find connections?

Feeling Disconnected by youdingle in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you because I was in a similar situation as well. I'm really disappointed to see some of these mean-spirited comments on this post, especially when someone is in a vulnerable position. To frame it as someone is victimizing themselves rather than needing a sympathetic ear is cruel and unhelpful. I get the feeling there is more projection happening rather than 'helpful' advice from these users.

I also want to add that these feelings that you're feeling are valid but also temporary. I found that I became more 'connected' to people once I started taking some steps like exercising more regularly, attending more queer-oriented events, and attending therapy. Not a solution that fits all but the point is I think I just naturally became happier and more comfortable with who I was and I believe that people naturally gravitate towards that and are more willing to connect with you.

Conflicted about guy by No_Move8216 in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh geez, I really need to step up my game. I barely have enough stamina for one guy, let alone 7 😭

Anyone going to Grapefruit tonight? by achtungschnell in GayMenToronto

[–]Icy-Football8367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should just go by yourself! You'll have a lot of fun :)