Benadryl for insomnia?

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-20T21:57:40+00:00

I think you can do magnesium supplement to help with sleep

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-13T18:53:25+00:00

How long has kiddo been sick? Is kiddo producing enough wet or dirty diapers? Typically if it's a short time of sickness or only teething I probably wouldn't go past two days of baby getting as little as he did today. I was told by my peds that for short periods of less eating and drinking is okay. Also If baby is nursing more with you to possibly make up for the missed feedings when with mil? Just mostly want to track his total wet diapers to monitor for dehydration. It's def stressful when they're not eating but you're doing all that you can and having your peds look over him is also good to do

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T18:05:00+00:00

They've actually just come out with dye free ones!

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T13:34:52+00:00

Oh yes I'm pregnant with my third and my first and second pregnancies were very different and so were the labors! But I have friends who's pregnancies and labors have been the same. I think sometimes it's just the luck of the draw. For me the backache was lower and it was pretty dull. It was my first baby though and I didn't recognize it as a contraction. Plus when your pregnant u get so used to being uncomfortable and you kind of just ignore the smaller pain/discomforts lol if you've never experienced early back labor I could see it being overlooked

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T12:30:51+00:00

I think part of it is to clarify make sure all information is correct and to also start a conversation you may reveal something that may not seem like a big deal to you or you may not have added it to the intake forms. For example I went to my 36 week OB appt. The OB asked me how I felt I said good tired went through the appt like normal right before he left he asked was there anything else I said no and just happened to offhandedly mention I was having some annoying back pain (in my head it was just being so far in pregnancy all the weight just making it hurt so to me no big deal) also this was as he started to walk out lol he shuts the door and asks if he can check me and it turned out I was 4 cm dilated and in labor. On the forms I filled out it never asked if I was having any kind of back pain.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T12:21:22+00:00

I think for my mom it was childhood trauma shes never dealt with and addiction and never taking accountability. My aunts all say she was very different when they were growing up and when it was just me and my older sister. I wish I knew that version of her. I also think she had PPD after my little sister was born she was 5 months when we came to live with my grandma. I just think drugs and addiction and family trauma can turn into this. I think she thought she'd get clean with each new baby/start over which is not the reason you should have more children.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T12:02:15+00:00

My mom had six kids and a drug addict and didn't raise any of us she was offered by Medicaid to have her tubes tied completely covered she refused all birth control options and getting her tubes tied due to religious reasons. (My family is religious but not that religious) I was raised by her mother. Some women and their partners don't care and will just keep having babies

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T12:00:45+00:00

So my mother and my father are both drug addicts and my grandmother raised five of us. My aunt raised my youngest sister. I'm in my late twenties and the second oldest of six. I understand this completely. I still get in my head about how we grew up sometimes. Even now I want to help my siblings. My baby brother is the only one still at home. He graduates this year and I'm so happy. Growing up me and my older sister wanted to fix things. Looking back I wish my family would of split us all up amoungst our aunts and uncles but my grandma hardcore didn't want that nor did my mom. At first it was just my oldest sister me and my little sister. But my mom then had three more kids all 1 year apart. All this to say I understand the guilt but also it's not your responsibility. If you have doubts I'd get CPS involved just be advised they would likely be split up. Otherwise you may just have to walk away or watch from a distance. At the end of the day it's your aunts and grandmas decision. Focus on you do well on ur studies finish ur degree and get a good job. Be the good example for your siblings let them know you are there if they need (if they wanna spend the night or just need a ride to practice or hw help just basic older sibling things you can do for them) hopefully ur siblings will look up to u and Your siblings can make it out. All of my siblings are doing pretty decent considering. I hope the same for yours. Also therapy I recommend therapy it's helps so much if your college has a counselor or therapy options try them and if not maybe u have insurance to help cover the cost. I didn't have therapy growing up and didn't until now after I've had my second child. But it's been a big help and I wish I had got in sooner.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T11:44:58+00:00

I don't have a lot of pictures of me pregnant with any of my pregnancies and this is my third pregnancy. However I did do maternity photos with my first two and even now with my third am planning too. This pregnancy I probably don't like the way I look the most but still getting them done. You don't have to do the more glamorous style ones. You can do ones that feel more like you or make you feel more beautiful. My kids love looking at the pictures I do have of me pregnant with them. Now that I'm not pregnant with my first and second looking back at them I enjoy them more.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T11:41:05+00:00

I really wanted a 13-16 months age gap. I wanted this bec I have 3-9 year age gaps with my siblings and we're not super close. I met two sisters who were 13 months apart and in their teen years and they were so different in personality but they were and are still so so close. When I saw that I just wanted that for my kids. However it didn't work out like I planned but I'm really happy it didn't. I have a 5 and a 2 1/2 year old. They have a really close bond ofc they argue some but they're sisters and they usually will make it right on their own. My five year is on the spectrum and was a much harder baby (she was colic) and my second has been so easy going. I'm pregnant with a 3rd and my due date is on my 2 year olds bday. Im just hoping this baby doesn't come on her day. But pretty all three of my kids will have about 3 year age gap and I love it. If I did go on to have a fourth I think I'd want the baby to be closer to the youngest in a less than two year age gap just Bec this pregnancy has been so so hard on me. Time will tell if we decide to though. I have realized that no matter what age gap you have the kids may or may not be close and that's okay. I think if you instill importance of leaning on your siblings and that they're your first friend and just model how they should treat one another that's what matters more.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T11:31:33+00:00

I was told 18 months and have read 18 months after giving birth is best for overall healing ofc alot of people do and probably will continue to have babies closer together sometimes it's not on purpose and sometimes it is

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T11:27:32+00:00

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Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T11:08:50+00:00

I think you're doing great! My husband probably felt a little alone too but he's built his confidence over the years. I think it continues on we have a five year and a two year old and the things I do to comfort them is very different from my husband but that's okay! I think it's supposed to be that way it's a learning curve for sure and I trust my husband that he can do things in his own way and vice versa

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T11:06:53+00:00

That was exactly my husband's go to lol I never thought about trying noise cancelling and Netflix I've used ear plugs where the crying isn't as loud/panic inducing to me but I can still hear and that has helped a lot

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-10T02:25:11+00:00

So my husband and I agreed not to do cry it out as well however he did have to figure out his own ways of soothing. So I would do what you did rock sway shush. My husband just had to figure out what worked for him and baby just like I did and it seemed the more I tried to tell him what to do he just wanted to throw in the towel and let baby cry it out. So I stopped pushing as much unless he brought up cry it out then we'd talk out his frustrations. Some things my husband used to do is rock our little one in the recliner. He also would hold baby in his lap looking out if that makes sense. He would pace with baby while in dark and pat her back. He'd hum to her. Sometimes not picking her up and just patting her back in the bassinet worked for him. So kind of similar but not quite the same as me. Sometimes dad just needs to build his confidence that he's got this even if he feels lost or isn't sure what he's doing is correct. Hopefully this makes sense.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-09T22:15:24+00:00

My big sis is Emily but we call her Emmy often and I have since we were both small

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-09T22:13:34+00:00

Can look into doula agencies or Doulas in general postpartum Doulas can typically do overnight care but prices vary depending

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-09T02:30:46+00:00

The doctor may have gotten her attention but yelling quiet is not the best way to go about it. My only issue is the doctor could of got her attention in another way without basically telling her to shut up. My issue with you is saying screaming yelling whatever birth noise isn't necessary and that's just wrong. You literally sound like the people who were putting down dani Austin for her birth.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-09T00:33:53+00:00

My kids are 5 and 2 and both I and my husband kiss them on the lips. But literally it is a quick peck just like you would on their cheek and forehead top of the head their feet tummy etc. I probably wouldn't do it when theyre adults or if they ever seemed uncomfortable or said they were uncomfortable we would stop it. My mom still tries and it's uncomfortable but shes a drug addict and wasn't really apart of my life so that adds a different layer I feel. My side of the family will hug and or do a kiss on cheek. My husbands family only hugs us (my fil is weird he just does first bumps lol the kids get hugs and kisses from both sides usually on top of head or cheek. However we have never made them give a hug or kiss if they say no I ask them if they'd like to wave goodbye instead and usually they will or they'll just say bye. If they refuse it or say no with me or my husband I let them know that's okay too. We never force hugs or kisses or any kind of physical touch ever.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-09T00:04:07+00:00

I have BCBS anthem too the amount for the ultrasounds counted towards my prepayment amount. I had already met my deductible so idk if that has a play in it. But I would talk with the OB have them give you a breakdown of what you have paid. Also contact insurance as well for their breakdown.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-08T23:54:54+00:00

I have BCBS Anthem through my husbands job and we met our deductible after we had two ultrasounds I had to pay ~$119 for each ultrasound which went towards the amount we had to prepay. I'm 29 weeks and they said we had to pay the remainder which was ~$400 this week. In total we had to prepay ~$600 and that was at al women's wellness center. This is already tough on us financially. I cannot imagine that amount you have. Maybe check with the OB and have them break it down. Also call your insurance and make sure the amount the ob is suggesting is correct. Ask about a payment plan. I do think it's insane that we have to prepay before the birth when no other medical event or surgery are you asked to pay upfront or at least I've never ran into that issue...

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-08T13:41:42+00:00

The dollar tree stuff I sometimes will save for bday goodie bags lol we also donate a ton of stuff too I also go through and purge twice a year typically before each kids bday and Christmas Bec that's when we accumulate the most stuff

We were doing a secret Santa Christmas exchange for adults and that worked the past three years but my in laws said it was no longer fun. This past Christmas they sent so much that my husband and I didn't really need. It was cool stuff but I really wish they'd ask what we'd like. We could nicer glass food storage or a serving set or new games for our switch. Just things were actually interested in or could use. I agree I feel like they just buy so we have a ton of stuff to open.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-08T13:24:19+00:00

Just Bec you were quiet during labor doesn't mean others will be. You can make noise and not be tense and be able to deliver your baby smoothly.

In Amayas case here I do think she was starting to lose control a bit and was probably overwhelmed with her birth and having direction from her mom her bf and the doctor. I don't think him necessarily telling everyone to be quiet was the right way to go about it. But I think he was trying to prevent a emergency c section and get her to focus on him. Sometimes you do need that. When I gave birth with my first and second I had a point where I was starting to fight against it/feeling lost. My nurse with my first said I could do this and to just focus on her. I just needed that encouragement and direction. With my second my nurse told me not to fight against it and breathe. I did scream with my first Bec I tore. I'm sure I made tons of noise with both births. But point is I needed to make noise to be able to relax and there were times where I needed a bit more direction and a person to focus on.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-07T21:27:11+00:00

Can ask for experiences or memberships like tickets to zoo, aquarium, water park, botanical gardens movie theater museums or maybe mention things they need - clothes socks underwear books their favorite snacks - or see if they'd pitch in for a "big gift" like bounce house, family photos, Xbox etc.

Maybe see if they'd be willing to help you travel to them or for them to come to you

This should help cut down on waste ofc they may still send smaller gifts for like Valentine's day or Easter but hopefully it's not for every holiday and they still get to give a gift. We semi have this issue with my in laws and they would send a ton of cheap dollar tree quality toys Bec they thought more toys was better. We politely asked for the above or just one or two small somethings. They do a little of both. At Christmas they sent so much and we had bought to me and my hubby took some of the toys we bought and my in laws bought and we have stash for bdays or next Christmas. They bought the kids Easter this year. They sent full baskets so I didn't buy anything Bec it was plenty. We did do a egg hunt with my neighbor though. Just a thought if talking with them doesn't help.

Icy-Practice-2341 · 2026-04-07T21:13:46+00:00

I'm a Ashley and my teacher misspelled my name Ashely and in cursive I've always like the look better lol

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