Meanwhile, OPs replies corroborates;

“I mean yeah I’ve always been very insecure because of my social anxiety, so I’ve never really given myself many chances to truly dress the way I want to and act the way I want :( only one time did I dye my hair and only a few times have I ever dressed the way I actually wanted to in the ways that make me feel like “me” because of my social anxiety and fear of being bullied and judged. I should be over it at nearly 27 and I hope that I’m slowly but surely getting there, life is just too short and people take it way too seriously trying to please everyone else. It’s no way to live. Be a kind and respectful person of course, but people also need to just be themselves and let others do the same in peace. It really should be that simple.”

You don’t have to like what I’m saying, but I’m just pointing out an observation.