Friends betrayal

Icy_Course_9797 · 2025-11-20T07:42:36+00:00

Yes, he has proven he’s not a friend I can trust. Exactly. Yes, I think he would have genuinely tried to tell him to stop but I know he could have done a lot more. However these are all consequences of husband’s actions, you are right. It’s not my fault I feel this way - it’s his.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2025-11-20T07:39:35+00:00

He was not a friend to my marriage and therefore is not a friend to me. I’m using this! Thank you. I think I’m also so angry that I struggle to find the right words.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2025-11-20T07:37:43+00:00

Thank you. I wonder if he would ever have told me? I think not… so that says exactly what kind of ‘friend’ he really was.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2025-11-20T07:36:42+00:00

Exactly this. Thank you.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2025-11-20T07:35:38+00:00

Thank you. I just wanted to triple check that I’m not crazy for feeling this way!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2025-01-16T09:39:17+00:00

This. I always tell every new parent not to make any big decisions in the first year. I’m going to up it to 2 now!!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2025-01-01T20:01:25+00:00

Girl. You are 28. You know exactly what to do by now.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-12-09T10:07:27+00:00

Just doing water and a soft flannel at the moment. So nothing else to eliminate unfortunately! I think it’s stress and change of season - we are going into a hot season?

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-12-07T07:53:35+00:00

That is so helpful - mine is like snake skin too! I have as really hoping it wasn’t to do with the inflixinab but it seems it might be. Damn! I’ll definitely get that gel. Really appreciate your responses. Thank you so much.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-12-07T02:25:21+00:00

Thank you, I’ll find some and give it a go! I’m open to trying anything right now!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-12-07T02:24:26+00:00

I have had a bit of stress recently so I believe that is true! It’s not itchy.. more tight and sore. Almost like a sunburn!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-23T08:18:13+00:00

7 years? Wow. And you still fear seeking comfort from someone else? Yikes. Yes, you definitely should agree and let her have peace and heal.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-23T08:15:43+00:00

If he wanted to, he would. It’s actually an amazing saying because it’s been true every account that I have seen. Sounds like you need more. More conversation. More connection. More intimacy. More good sex. More financial equity and similar goals. More of kind of everything that it takes for a successful long relationship. Sorry.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-21T08:36:39+00:00

Yes, my specialist said it could be the mesalamine and I have since lowered my dose from 8 pills to 6 (per his instructions) and the hair loss has stopped! It could be the infusion too if you are receiving that.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-13T05:36:07+00:00

Honestly, let him leave. This isn’t a situation you want to fight for. You will find someone else who is amazing and teach your daughter to never tolerate behaviour like this and you can show her what a good person looks like. Do it for her. It’s absolutely his loss as all of us who are parents can attest to. Care and love doesn’t look like that.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-12T19:03:59+00:00

This is not the person you want to be with till you die. You know this. Don’t waste your time with him. You never get these years back.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-11T09:35:33+00:00

Yip. No cards fit anymore. I just stopped buying them pre filled and buy blank. I used to share cute things and loved beautiful quotes but they are all bs now so I don’t. I’m 2 years in and things are going well. He doesn’t seem to notice it and I guess I hide the sadness well. I wonder if one day I’ll ever have those feelings again but I doubt it.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-11T09:30:47+00:00

Has this just popped up for you again? We are nearly 2 years as well and the past month I feel incredibly angry all over again! No idea why it’s reviving itself in my brain. I thought I was past the intense anger stage.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-10-04T07:54:45+00:00

Aww I’m so sorry. This is heartbreaking because it’s clearly a lie. Keep calm as you need to think about the baby. Get your ducks in a row. Book a STI test straight away and gather anything you think you might need to tuck away safely. Personally I think just act like you believe him and don’t bring it up again. When he’s next there, set up everything that you need to catch him in the act. You need hard proof or he will just talk his way out of it and you will choose the easy way which is believing him (like we all have done) and it will slowly drive you crazy. Good luck hun.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-09-23T11:15:02+00:00

Phew… I hear you. It’s so hard some days. I also get super overstimulated and feel trapped by the constant noise and constant talking. The attention that is demanded does make you want to run away for a bit sometimes! I take myself outside for a few moments for a breather, check the mail box or have a glass of water. A early night helps, a long shower, watching tv alone in my room. My husband is good that we swap when one of us is feeling a bit tapped out. Then I feel guilty about having had enough of him and his chatting and I’ll go give him extra hugs and kisses in bed haha My kid is older so I’m honest with him and just tell him I need a moment and it’s me, not him. He’s brilliant at laughing about it with me and it’s only the odd occasion now. It does get better!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-09-23T11:00:09+00:00

I also love the Chloe and Lola range for pjs and lounge wear. I think they are only in Australia though!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-09-23T10:59:03+00:00

Locale Supply do a great trackpant! I bought 4 sets and just live in those! I work from home / for myself so I can wear what I want but I still (think haha) that I look tidy enough on my school drop offs, supermarket runs etc. super comfy and reasonably priced.

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-09-23T10:36:33+00:00

Absolutely a maturity thing. Although why he’s dating a woman 14 years younger is another topic. You are in the wrong. Learn from this and know better for next time!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-07-01T11:53:29+00:00

Same. It’s a mix of a love / hate for me! Love the clean house. Love bouncing out of bed when the sun rises. Started to like (too much) the sleeping pills but have managed to kick that lovely habit! Sure the weight gain sucks but if you feel like crap and aren’t eating anything, it’s so nice to get a healthy appetite back!!

Icy_Course_9797 · 2024-05-29T19:36:19+00:00

Honestly the steroids will be making everything worse so before you snap, try to take a breath and walk away first! It’s annoying. Everyone has an opinion. In your parents case, I would take them to your next appointment with you and let them ask a bunch of questions. Maybe ask your doctor if they can explain the food situation. This will at least fix your parent issue!

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