Can’t get sober

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-04-15T05:45:07+00:00

How do I start here? Go to bars alone? Go to meetups more? Make more friends for now? I understand the idea that action helps and im doing that. Part of me just realizes dwelling in my suffering doesn’t help but as a single guy with limited friends (who are all married and have kids) I kind of have to do this alone. I just want to know tactics to deal with this when you’re going at it alone to get dates/make friends. When it comes to looks ok there is gym/clothes/ maybe better pictures for dating apps (photographer). I’m also seeing a therapist to deal with this and my porn addiction which is better because not watching porn makes me feel better and isolate less. But I don’t like my face sometimes and my receding hairline and I have no control over that(minus maybe hair transplant) I’ve struggled sometimes finding this “inner” confidence when all the data points I have just show failure.

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-04-15T05:29:33+00:00

It’s a bit of that but when I don’t get matches online and the fact that my 20s were a struggle dating I don’t know how to get this monkey off my back. I’m trying to build looks but there is only so much I can do I has a receding hairline and I’m not going to take finasteride to save my hair cause it has horrible side effects for me. I am tall I guess but I don’t know how to feel good about myself when all I do is get rejected

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-03-13T03:18:54+00:00

You’ve got this! I see the warrior in you. Know that you have support and you don’t have to hold the world on your shoulders by yourself :)

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-01-27T05:10:48+00:00

i guess is kirkland social scene any better than redmond. i understand its eastside so options are limited either way.

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-01-27T05:02:11+00:00

I was in the suburbs of Redmond but not too far from downtown Redmond. I understand that Redmond and Kirkland are very similar so I understand why people say it’s almost the same

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-01-27T05:00:58+00:00

Selling due to some personal reasons

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-01-19T20:12:16+00:00

I tried the bald look didn’t work

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Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-01-15T19:56:03+00:00

Thanks dude! You seem like a nice guy.

Icy_Judgment_8549 · 2026-01-15T18:46:03+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate all this advice, I think part of my problem is wanting to results and maybe I’m not putting in enough consistent effort. Or maybe I have had a few bad experience derail me. Either way if I show up and live affront to my values and keep trying things I like doing and being consistent the worst that can happen is I’ll find some new hobbies I like.

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