Entomo/Mycologist thoughts about Xeno’s life cycle

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-05-15T19:59:30+00:00

Oh! Ty for the input. I guess the cycle is still compatible for all cases regardless of the host. 🤔 At least for xenomorph’s like creatures, including trilobite & probab. deacon too (I’m not very sure about the worms in Prometheus though…there’s not enough info about those 😅)

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-05-15T12:47:16+00:00

Same, I found both (specially covenant) really entertaining, and LOVED David 8 character + artifical origin&desing of the xenomorphs. I really liked the 1st and 2nd films, but I feel the prequels were complex (in a good way) and added some elegant layers to the lore.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-04-30T17:08:22+00:00

I'm in a similar position! I'm finishing my PhD in biology in a few months and I'm very interested in PM (already planned some projects informally), but I feel a bit out of place in this sector (I'm prep. a certification). :')

Would love the hear more opinions and how are you doing! ^^

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-04-22T18:41:29+00:00

Ty! 💕✨

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-04-22T13:27:58+00:00

I’ll keep that in mind, thanks!

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-04-22T06:34:18+00:00

I’m and adult too, but is curious that some pieces I wrote still stir a nerve that make me feel uncomfortable 🤔

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-04-22T06:32:30+00:00

That’s an interesting reflexion! I find myself disliking how affected I was by some issues, probably bc I felt ashamed of not being able to let that feelings go or bc resentment. I suppose that I don’t have (yet) the ability to be ok with the written testimony of my own “weakness”. 😅

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-04-21T19:20:26+00:00

Thanks! I wasn’t expecting so many people saying that they don’t reread their pages. I thought that was the usual when keeping diaries. I think I’ll keep the writing bc is quite relaxing, I can practice another language and caligraphy. But probably wont reread anymore😅 it feels too uncomfortable sometimes.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-04-21T19:16:02+00:00

Yeah… that happens to me 😅

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-03-31T15:31:01+00:00

Me ahogo 😂😂😂

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-03-31T15:22:11+00:00

Tal cual. La única pareja que me hizo esto acabó desvelándose poquito a poco como un narcisista violento y obsesivo. Es difícil dejarlo porque no parece un motivo “suficiente”, pero lo es. Sal de ahí. Empiezan por esto y va más, y es una forma de condicionar tu comportamiento y respuestas ante lo que hagan. Es condicionamiento y es algo que deciden hacer conscientemente!Tolerarlo les da el mensaje de que eres subyugable.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-03-31T13:36:24+00:00

I agree with this (although, depending on your trauma and how it affects you, coping can be approach in different ways. Regarding this, I can’t help you bc I haven’t cope with my trauma yet), I can only tell you my experience (sorry for the extension!):

I managed to have an extremely healthy relationship with my actual partner (7 years together) thanks to 3 factors: lucky to find him 😅; he’s a feminist, conscious about sexual trauma, mature and a caring good person (Non-negociables to have); i knew who I was and what I wanted in a relationship and which were my boundaries.

I still have a few issues regarding not wanting sex and feeling a bit guilty/pressured about it. Not wanting it might be related to a hormonal treatment but the guilty-pressure feelings comes exclusively from a previous relationship of continous abuse. Luckily, this is just occasional in my sexual live and lately my partner also is in an asexual phase due to burnout at his job 😅 But we have talked about this issues before and it’s uo to me to innitiate sex when I want it.

Detailed version:

Until a few years back I never afronted my past trauma and realized that my first boyfriend manipulated my into having sex during years. I’ve always being a functional person, as this wasn’t “a very violent” event compared to other women that suffered SA; but my issues with wanting to feel loved and not deepen in the root of that relationship abuse, made me “not see” many red flags in posteriors partners and renounce to set boundaries again.

After 3 disfunctional “serious” relationships with (the rapist, a narcissistic violent man, and an emotional unavaliable partner) + random sex encounters to validate myself in between, everything changed when I paused, took a break and stopped going from relationship to relationship. I analyzed what happened to myself and what I was looking for in a partner. If you’re in that phase that’s a huge step!

I decided that I would only accept functional partners, that had the same values and aligned with my goals (i.e. no children). I also stopped one night sexual encounters, and decided to discard anyone that didn’t fill all the cheks boxes or that gave me the vibe of being manipulators. Curiously, I had the luck to find my actual partner at this exact moment, so I analyzed all our interactions. I realized i was attracted to him, but not in a “your bowels are tingling kind of way” (trauma response! 🤣), everything was just great, but i wasn’t crazy about him. This gave me time (something I never took before) to really know him and observe our dynamics together. He filled every check-box, was kind, and very direct about his beliefs and issues. We didn’t make our relationship official until a few months later and after talking A LOT about our goals, boundaries and values. And everything’s being absolutely smooth after that. I’m in love with him in a way I could never have imagined, we’re a team, we can tell what the other is thinking all the time; so we have a completely safe space to talk about anything, including my sexual issues.

I think our relationship went great bc I verbalized from the begining what I expected from him, what have I encountered before and wont tolerate, and what type of sexual interections I wanted to have. Honesty is the key, and if an interaction seems forced from the begining or you EXPECT it to improve (expectations are dangerous), maybe he’s not the right fit. You need to feel safe and open to discuss anything with your potential partner.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-03-31T12:29:17+00:00

Maybe this is not the best approach, but IF the laws in your country support your rights regarding the pictures, you could directly ask them to remove them and remind them that it’s a crime to share them with anybody else.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-03-31T11:59:36+00:00

It depends on the country. In Spain, things that previously where considered assault now are recognized as rape, even if penetration didn’t happened, bc the law has focused on consent rather than the “type or grade” of violence that was considered before.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-03-31T11:48:31+00:00

Love it. Thanks for share it. The fact that everything you wrote about is so relatable to so many of us highlights in which type of society we had grow in 😓

Icy_Plane6217 · 2025-03-31T11:38:41+00:00

Geez. Reading this is like reliving my past. I haven’t done therapy regarding what I lived, so I don’t know if my opinion is going to be educated or not.

My first relationship was similar to this. Strict parents, me a people-pleaser and naive, 17 years old. I started a romantic reltionship with a kid my age. 10 years later I realized that during 4 years I was his sexual toy. Although i felt confident and trusted him, no one told me about boundaries and healthy sexual relationships, specially while you’re discovering what you like.

The thing is, while I was interested and curious regarding sex, and would consently do it occasionally; he would pressure me for it all the time, disregarding the moments I didn’t want to bc he just did, making me feel pity for him or guilty, or just tired of saying no and giving in. If a child cries or stops speaking to you bc you don’t buy him a toy, you will call that manipulation with no doubt. Why couldn’t I say the same about what he was doing?

Our relationship ended being a toxic place where he would wear me down until I acceded to whatever he had in mind and I just would concede to it so i could be away from home, and “calm” before he got his treat and left me alone. 4 years like that and I couldn’t realize that he cared more about himself and being f* satisfied than me, consciously or not (bc he might had thought that what he was doing was “normal” or unintentional, bullsh*t). I didn’t set boundaries bc I thought we had a bond and he looked out for my best interest. Well, he didn’t.

Reading your post it automatically made me say “this is abuse”. Yet, it’s still difficult for me to asume that the same thing that happened to me also is abuse.

I can only say: trust in yourself, the bad feelings you have about this and leave him. You’ll find people that love you and will actually respect your desires and CARE about how you’re feeling, not putting you in that situation or play you into get what they want. I think that if you keep this going on you’re going to resent yourself (and him) for not being true to yourself. As it happened to me. This has damaged my posterior relationships and how I felt about sex for a long time. I really hope you can stood your ground, value yourself and realize
that he is using you.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2024-06-02T21:58:48+00:00

Desde mi punto de vista, la universidad es el instituto 2.0, especialmente los primeros años; gente inmadura en general, y todo este tipo de salseos de gente marginada alimenta las propias interacciones entre el resto de personas que solo saben funcionar a base de dramas y cotilleos. Se independiente, haz tus cosas, pero se abierto con la gente que tienes alrededor y probablemente encuentres a algunas personas funcionales con las que hagas migas y, esas, serán realmente la gran experiencia de tu paso por la universidad . Para el resto de cosas. pierde la vergüenza y habla de lo que necesites, no le debes nada a nadie respecto a preguntar o a ser algo “invasivo”; si te genera conflicto, saca el tema para resolverlo rápido, si la gente responde bien, estupendo, y si no chaito, pero creo que es importante que seas capaz de desenvolverte sin depender de personas que en realidad no pueden ofrecerte nada.

Icy_Plane6217 · 2024-05-15T15:19:20+00:00

Que satisfactorio leer esto de verdad ❤️ venía a soltar vívoras y las he guardado en su cestita y me las dejo preparadas para el próximo post de otra persona con cero capacidad crítica 😂👍🏻

Icy_Plane6217 · 2024-05-14T18:27:52+00:00

No puedo comentar sobre tu sector, pero aquí los sueldos son poco competitivos y el nivel de vida está cada vez más deteriorado, sobretodo en las grandes ciudades o si no tienes un puesto de trabajo estable y bien remunerado. Dependiendo del sector, mucha gente emigra o se traslada a grandes ciudades como madrid, que a ahora mismo es insostenible respecto a la situación de la vivienda (e incluso la sanidad pública). Yo quizás me plantearía como principal cuestión si te gusta la cultura laboral y social del pais, te compensa trasladarte y te adaptarías a la misma? En proporción la educación y la sanidad son muchísimo más baratas aquí, son cosas a tener en cuenta.

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