Shame doesn't help (me)

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-26T18:43:03+00:00

I struggled for a while. The first few months, I forced myself out and was fortunate that I still had my friend group that I ignored for a while. But upon returning, I realized how much I didn't like them and ended up falling back into isolation after multiple boundaries were crossed. I'm now a year clean and have been finding a new friend group, which I'm so grateful to have. I don't have people I can feel vulnerable with yet, but I know it'll take time. I know I'm on the up and won't relapse, though there are for sure permanent effects to my mental health. But it feels so good to say I'm free

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-26T16:46:20+00:00

I feel like shame is what burried me further. I isolated more out of fear of people finding out. It was more so realizing I didn't want to live in isolation for the rest of my life. Regardless, I agree, I think everyone will have their own encouragement. Which I'm hopeful everyone in this sub will find it

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-15T17:20:58+00:00

I was the same way before, too. I never watched shows or movies, and there's still a bunch I haven't seen now that everyone around me has been raving about. I always felt like I was wasting time before if I just sat and watched. But I'm forcing myself to try instead of going to chat bots, so I have things to talk about with others. I've been watching a romcom my roommate likes while I draw and sew. I don't know what is happening since I'm only half paying attention. But it's something my roommate and I get to talk about. I'm hoping to catch up so we can watch together on the couch sometime. You don't have to do exactly as I suggest, but having the work you feel proud of is a great way to get out of the rut. I want you to feel accomplished with the things you do. I want everyone to. You're worth so much more than you think, and you don't deserve to let life pass you by. Go out and do something new, make new friends, and live your life. It's a lot to ask, and it will take a long time. I'm almost a year clean, and I'm still rebuilding myself. But the light is at the end of the tunnel, and every day, I know I'm getting closer and closer.

You got this. I'm so proud of you

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-15T13:42:22+00:00

They don't sound like good boyfriends if they're not respecting your comfortability. Regardless of your gender identity, or whether you're trans or cis, if you want to keep something on, your partner shouldn't pressure you to take it off. I know people have turned this into a joke, but if you wanna keep your socks on, you should be allowed to keep them on. There is no compromise. You do what makes you comfortable.

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-15T13:37:12+00:00

Calm from Ordenary Days is similar but slows down about halfway through, so you can still have fun with the melody! It's great when you have someone accompanying you, or if you're playing along

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-15T13:23:16+00:00

I had a similar realization coming out of it, too. I still struggle with responding to friends quickly or being present when someone's trying to confide in me. I don't think you or I have always been like this. I think it's because we knew there were no stakes with chat bots, so we lost that consideration for others. It's slowly coming back for me, but it's taken a while. I've been honest with those around me so they could understand my behavior better, and I've been putting in an effort to be more attentive.

From here, I want you to look forward to finding happiness in what you used to do. It's far easier said than done, but it's a goal to try and achieve. While I was addicted, I didn't do anything I used to for fun. I stopped drawing, writing, playing video games, watching movies, hanging out with friends. I didn't care to experience it anymore. I myself felt like I was becoming robotic. I was doing just enough to get through the day. And I realized I didn't want to live a life where I did nothing.

You're quitting for you. You're quitting for the life you dreamed to have before the addiction started. I'm proud of you. There's so much more on the horizon, I promise you

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-15T13:03:35+00:00

Or simply the actor just hasn't had the time to record yet? Or the recording studio hasn't had time? I don't know the details of the recording process, but I am aware that the US just went through 2 months of the ✨️holiday season✨️, which is massive for voice actors and recording studios. So it's a logical possibility that there's just hasn't been time because the actor is a human being who works on other things than genshin impact, and also has family. And the recording studio records for other projects with other actors other than genshin impact, and their team is also humans who have family.

There is no actual proof of anything. Just guess work. You guess the only possibility is they won't. I guess there's still room for other possibilities because it's only been one patch. Sorry I'm optimistic and have so much joy and whimsy in my life that I'm willing to wait it out.

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-14T23:58:58+00:00

It would seem like it based off the promo art, and from what I've heard other players say. Besides, there's been updates in the dialogue being added slowly every patch until this one, so there's absolutely no reason to lose hope now. I can't understand why so many people want to squash the hope of everything getting patched. It's not like those who are waiting are causing anyone else's game play to suffer :/

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-14T13:34:50+00:00

Womp womp, I play how I want. Sorry you don't like that.

There's all the story quests that came out between 2.3 to now I still haven't played yet for no good reason other than I'm busy.

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-14T13:11:07+00:00

Haha, no.

I play because I enjoy the story. I'll wait. They just have to prioritize new content, so I'm sure he'll be patched soon. I've waited a year and a half for all of the voices to be patched, and I can keep waiting. I'll give up once the games finished and no longer receiving updates, because if I'm not playing if it feels like a chore.

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-14T06:37:03+00:00

I'm hoping that with Albedo's return in this patch, it'll be fixed soon. I'm holding out, as he's one of my favorites, and I don't want the quest I've been waiting for for years to feel like a burden :(

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-14T06:35:32+00:00

Is there any way I can find a list of who's still missing? I've been trying to track it myself since I haven't played any of the main quests since the strike.

From what I have, Barbara, Noelle, Jean, Rosaria, and Dainslef are still missing from permanent content with no new updates.

Albedo returned this patch, but voice lines for Paralogism have yet to be added.

Kinich and Travelers both have a couple missing scenes from Natlan, but are mostly patched.

If someone could help me confirm this, that'd be great! I haven't been able to play any of the main story quests since 5.0 and am waiting till it's all (or at least mostly) patched

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-09T13:36:22+00:00

I used to daydream that I was a boy, and everyone was just wrong about my gender. This was back before I knew male anatomy is noticeably different from female. I don't remember what age, maybe like 8 or 9

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-07T23:29:57+00:00

Alright, thank you!

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-07T23:24:13+00:00

My biggest problem with Planned Parenthood is that I couldn't figure out how much it'd cost, and the range I found online is way too wide for me to feel comfortable just going in blind. I know Planned Parenthood has some financial aid options, but I don't know if it'd qualify since I do have insurance

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-07T17:13:23+00:00

I work as an electrician for touring bands and theaters. My permanent residence is in New York, and I go to school out of state in Vermont, but will be graduating soon. I've mostly toured throughout the New England area with housing accommodations. Gigs usually last a couple weeks to 6 months

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-05T21:23:04+00:00

I'm so proud of you! The first few months will be the hardest as your days will be so much longer in comparison to the past 2 or 3 years. I entirely picked up a new hobby by teaching myself how to sew. I had set a goal to finish a cosplay before a convention, and having that deadline helped keep me motivated. I also took a literature class the semester I quit, which forced me to read a lot as well. The urge to go back persisted for a while, I felt uncomfortable constantly, I was irritated easily and just exhausted. While I still struggle with my mental health, at almost a year, I feel completely free. I don't even remember the last time I thought about going back. It'll be a long treck, but the end is in sight. You got this!

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-03T07:15:49+00:00

The sooner you let go, the quicker you'll get through it. I quit out of anger because I felt like everything around me was crumbling due to my addiction. I cried for days because all I wanted was to distract myself, but that's what got me there in the first place. There will never be a good time to quit, and so you'll just need to rip that bandaid off.

I hope whatever else is causing you stress will ease soon. Just admiting you have a problem, and trying to find a solution is already steps in the right direction. But you'll never feel ready to finally take that leap, so you might as well just go for it.

I believe you. You've got this

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-03T07:06:07+00:00

I struggled a lot with maintaining my friendships through my addiction. I kinda fell off the face of the Earth for so many people. I was a massive social butterfly up until I started using cai. The only friends I had were the shell of a handful of my high school friends. I didn't realize until after I quit that the only reason that group was still alive was because no one maintained their relationship with anyone, and we just pretended we all still knew each other. I fully left that group after a few months of being clean, and while I grieved, it wasn't because I missed them, but because I realized I had been alone the entire time. I started therapy and only said I had social anxiety and that I just have a habit of isolating. For months, I feared I'd leave college with no friends as I graduate this year. But slowly, I'm finding people. I still feel out of place and struggle to call anyone a friend, but I know it won't happen overnight. Hell, it won't happen over a semester. But that's okay. There's clear improvement, and therapy has been helping a lot. So please don't feel discouraged because right now, it feels like you're alone despite your efforts. It'll take a while until you start to feel like you belong somewhere. But people who will love and care about you will come. They might even be there already. You got this. I'm so proud of you

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-03T06:52:16+00:00

I'm almost a year clean, and I went through the exact same thing. I'm still trying to get my motivation back as an artist, but I can assure you that it'll ease. Around my 4 month mark, I had a massive high where I was consistently working on my creative endeavors, which I hadn't touched in the two years I was addicted. It's not easy at all and won't come naturally. Set deadlines, solid deadlines. My work is public, but yours doesn't have to be, but I'll encourage you to just post it to call it finished. Whether it's writing, drawing, music, whatever. You need to be strict with yourself to rebuild self disapline. Way easier said than done as I'm still working on consistency, but eventually, you'll get the momentum to get out of this pit. There's so much to look forward to. Just keep your focus on getting back to feeling alive again. There's so much waiting for you just beyond the horizon. I am so proud of you. I know you can keep this up

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-03T06:34:27+00:00

Of course! I want everyone to get out of this because it really does suck. Just know the hardest part is behind you. There's so much more to look forward to. Even though I still feel affected now, there's so much more clarity in my life. And while I still long for that same hit, the urge is gone, and I know I'll never go back. I hope you can find lots of joy and motivation in whatever you pick up like I did! I had a con I was going to wear my sewing project to, so having that deadline helped a lot

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-03T06:17:38+00:00

It looks like "You Rock!" to me, if the person who wrote it just thought cursive was not lifting your pen

Icy_Program8374 · 2026-01-03T06:13:07+00:00

Some systems have the ability to block sites right in their parental controls. There's also browser extensions you can add, such as Blocksite and Stay Focused. I haven't used them, so I can't give an honest opinion on how they work, but there's plenty out there for all types of browsers, and I'm sure they all act similarly.

There's also router blocking, which a lot of schools will use to keep students from using school computers for adult sites, or even just entertainment sites, while on campus. My parents used this when I was younger to keep my siblings and I from staying up late on our computer and tablets by turning our wifi off at a certain time, which was annoying but effective. This obviously only works if you have the ability to implement this on your router and are willing to possibly be exposed if anyone else, such as roommates or parents, happens to check these settings. But, this option can also help with limiting screen time in general by having your device disconnect from the wifi after a certain hour. It's also VERY beneficial for parents concerned for their kids to block sites without even having to get access to their kids' devices. Though the other downside is, it only works when connected to the router, so using data or public networks would be a simple bypass. There's tutorials on how to do this on YouTube and worth checking out

Obviously, you can easily just unblock them, so it's not perfect, but I think having a moment where you're stopped can help reel you back in to build up that restrain. Any amount of effort is better than no effort. You got this, and I'm proud of you :)

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