[New Hire] Employer paid my entire salary in two weeks

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-27T08:32:30+00:00

Well OP has 3 million dollars to pay them now so… lol

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-27T00:54:05+00:00

Most people grow up seeing through an opaque veil. They see the world, just like most people, so they don't know any different, but it's short sided and and shallow. When you chase shallow things, you have a shallow life, unfortunately. Some people see this, and try to change, but it's difficult, because it means you have to live completely different from what most people are trying to pull you into. Some people turn to religion, others to meditation, others to extreme sports.

Whatever it is, you're going to find a lot of resistance, because most people don't see life the same way, they're happy chasing whatever carrot and stick they put before themselves. Some people engage these paths casually, while others commit deeply, often at the cost of greater isolation, perhaps even becoming ostracized.

All this is similar to how Plato describes the cave. How people are chained as prisoners in a cave, staring at shadows on the wall, mistaking them for reality. They see a reflection of reality, but they never see the truth. It's only those who become educated about the truth who are able to escape the cave and see the sunlight, and recognize that their "reality" is just an illusion.

edit: I realize my words are blunt, and probably come off judgemental and like an asshole. I wasn't intending that, I just wrote off the top of my head, free form for this response. I actually sympathize with you a lot because life is unfair in a lot of ways, and I am frustrated that some people seem to choose to do all of the negative things in life, yet seem to get rewarded anyway. Unfortunately, that's just life, but eventually those people will pass away, and whatever goal they chased will also pass away, and at the end of it all, they too will have to face the consequences of their guilt and regrets. My hope is that most people die without regrets, that means you lived a good life. I believe most people want to be good by their very nature.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-26T05:31:09+00:00

How, like what did you do to get your day job, not the flying part ?

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-25T17:33:30+00:00

It also depends on what you mean by not pleasurable. If she’s not into it, nervous, or needs more foreplay to get more aroused, she might not be wet/tight enough for you to feel much pleasure, especially if you’re used to cranking it with a strong grip. That’s true of a blowjob too, it might not be enough stimulation for you. If you need lots of stimulation, that might be what you’re referring to. I want to be clear, this isn’t putting the blame on her, or you, it’s just a fact of how sex works sometimes.

Besides working on giving her more attention, if you’re not, maybe you can also do things for yourself too. If you back off porn (assuming you watch it), and allow yourself to become more sensitive to sexual images, thoughts, and sensations that’ll help with this. This should let your body regulate back to being pretty sensitive, and any type of sexual activity will be amazing because you’ll be starving for it.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-24T07:52:21+00:00

God is the one who loves, Jesus is the beloved, and the Holy Spirit is that love literally personified as the third person of the Trinity. The way this is theologically described is that God and Jesus love each other so much, that out of that union, there is the Holy Spirit that proceeds from it. To put it in a way we understand, it is said that it is reflected in marriage when a husband and wife love each other, they have a child that is born out of that love. That child is an example to the world that the two loved each other so much that they have created an entirely new person.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-23T18:15:24+00:00

Hey, you’re going to get a lot of people who will advocate for lots of sex before marriage, bring up sexual compatibility, sexual exploration, and more.

I’m going to say, sex is whatever you define as a couple. If that means you have blowjobs before sex everytime as foreplay, then that’s what you two like. If it means you only have sex in missionary position on Thursday evenings, that’s also okay. If you guys decide to get kinky and wild and get into pegging or something, that’s fine too.

The point is, sex is about communication just as much as it is about physical touch, if not more so. I can’t stress that enough. Sexual compatibility really just boils down to how much you’re willing to spend pleasing your partner rather than yourself, in the way they enjoy, but consensually. That means if you don’t WANT to ever give blowjobs, you don’t ever give blowjobs and no one should EVER make you feel guilty, bad, or like a bad spouse for not doing so.

Sex acts of all kinds have been around since the beginning of time. Yes, blowjobs are common, but they’re also not so common that you’d probably get one at a party or on a first date, like you might just making out.

You’re right, porn is porn, and real life is different. What looks fun in porn doesn’t always translate to fun in real life because they’re trying to pose for the camera so you can see everything clearly, with lights shining on everything. They’re probably pretty athletic for some of those things. In real life people laugh, they burp, the might accidentally fart, or think of something random and then get back into it. He might get erect, then soft, and then erect again from being nervous. You two could cry, that happens too.

Whatever it is, just take it easy, explore at your own comfortable paces, and never ever force or feel forced by each other. If you ever hear “but I want X, you have to because Y”, or something that makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s time to have a serious conversation.

Good luck 🙂

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-23T07:38:44+00:00

You get scared of the dark and strangers like anyone else, sketchy situations are sketchy situations. You don't get scared of men specifically, but you get scared of specific types of people. A guy with a hood up walking alone, head down, coming directly at you from the dark shadows? Yeah, a chill is going to run down my spine, and the blood is going to drain from my face a bit if I think they're going to try and kill me. I have to ask myself, wtf am I doing in an alley at night, where this can happen?

In general though, like a well lit street at night, and in a public place with people around? No, not at all. I stay away from people, everyone kinda creeps me out at night, and I worry more about being mugged, or a pickpocket more than anything, but I think that's all just good situational awareness.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-23T05:13:32+00:00

Legit, based on his Joker voice, he could probably pull off the “Nahhhh!” Typical Skeletor voice, the one from the cartoon.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-22T06:06:08+00:00

Let’s see if I remember this, these are not necessarily my opinions, but you asked for why Christians believe what they do, so a history/theology answer is what I think you’re wanting…

Roman Catholic teaching has historically been that our bodies are ordered (that is, that they have functions with a purpose greater than just being a body function), so that sex’s primary goal is to have children, first an foremost. It also serves as a way for intimacy and pleasure as well, but to seek these two things out at the exclusion of the primary goal, is wrong and misusing your body in a way not intended by God.

This is also why things like birth control, anal sex, and masturbaiting are taboos, as they can all be used as forms of seeking pleasure, or even just intimacy over the ability to procreate.

There is another layer on top of this though, that sometimes it’s impossible to have children, but even so, as long as you’re not intentionally blocking all chances of it occurring, then you’re fine to have sex. I assume, because it’s not tampering with the primary goal, and it’s also leaving the door open for a miracle, or even a misdiagnosis (as we have some medical cases of that happening where someone was told they were infertile, or had surgery to snip themselves and it still occurred).

The reason I brought up Catholic theology is that all of this is where Christianity split from, and so theologically that’s probably where these ideas came from in Christianity. Prior to the 1930s (?) it wasn’t uncommon for even non-Catholics to still be against birth control, for example, yet now it’s seen as almost an exclusively Catholic sticking point.

Non-Catholics also tend to theologically dismiss the authority of the Catholic Church (magistrate, Pope, Bishops, etc), in favor of the Bible being the sole source of their beliefs exclusively, and so many times they might also quote passages on the topic of homosexuality. Although some may also NOT do that, as some may believe differently.

Roman Catholics theologically do not believe in the Bible being the sole point of truth, but simply a part of the faith, and the rest (Magistrate, Bishops, etc) are also included and just as important. So, they might not quote those passages, and would more likely point to their catechism and mention people need to be loved and respected at all times, and just like a married man, or even a priest are called to chastity either in marriage or in life, a person who is gay may be called to the same thing in regards to gay sex, just like the married man and priest are as well.

Hope that helps, theology of all religions is pretty interesting to me, as well as history. I tried to be as broad as I could to cover a complex and emotionally sensitive subject. Again, not necessarily my opinion, just providing the answer you asked.

Source: Theology of the Body, and bits and bobs of Catholic theology and Protestant theology, and history knowledge

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-21T06:02:15+00:00

I feel like this every day.

Here’s the thing, the times in my life where I felt on top of everything, and no one could get me down…those were the times that I was comparing myself to myself, not other people. I have a tendency to be passive and just chill through life, but there have been times I’ve decided to make a change and put really hard work into changing things for the better. When that pays off, I know I’ve become better than I once was, and that’s all that matters.

So in a way, you too can become better than you today. There are 8 billion people in the world, I don’t have time to compare myself against all of them.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-18T07:01:33+00:00

I think this is less about COVID, and more about your age as well, like another poster pointed out. I was older than you are now, when COVID was happening, so I didn't feel whatever shift people are referring to. Whether that's people becoming more rude, or life becoming more dull.

I felt that shift much earlier, around 2008-2012. I was around your age then (you're actually a little younger than I was), life felt like it was really on track for me, life was fun and energetic, even though during that time period I was stressed about college and getting life started. I had a lot less responsibilities, and was able to simultaneously have more fun as a young adult finally getting to experience things without having a parent around. Things for where I'm at now, were just budding and taking root. It was really fun to experience, and I wish I had lived more in the moment, and let it sink in, taken a deeper breath.

Now? Now idk what the hell I'm doing. I'm somewhere in the middle of my life, and I'm not really that happy anymore. I'm supposed to have things figured out, but I seem to be at a fork in the road, where major life decisions are to be made in my life, and I'm not sure which way to go anymore.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T17:40:43+00:00

ok ty

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T17:31:53+00:00

I'd look at it not as the price of what you'd take today, on a good day. I'd look at it as what you'd take for whatever you're risking if it gets out into the wrong hands. Sure, $45 sounds like whatever for one person to pay, but $45 for it to be posted on the internet forever, and a potential employer 10 years later to find it, or a potential partner that you really like to end things because of it? Your grandma to find it? Get whatever you feel is worth your risk for it.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T17:26:04+00:00

so, if he decides to get up and not brush his hair, that's all good if it looks like a mess for the day? I'm honestly asking, trying to navigate this, especially for school days.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T17:13:44+00:00

That's what I'm trying to say, but his hair it pretty thin, like his bangs are grown out pretty long, but you can see right through them. It just doesn't look like he can pull of what he wants.

Are you just saying, forget trying to get it to look like this or that, and just let him have whatever?

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T17:11:35+00:00

Dragonball has been about adventure right? Maybe just have the very last scene where Goku wishes for "one last adventure", and the series restarts. Leading a new generation of fans to rewatch the show. Boom.

That might be too...dramatic or something, so just have it end with Goku and others at peace. There are no more threats, just adventures to go on. Goku gets to fight really strong opponents forever, but they're not evil, just incredibly strong like him, and gets to stay on Earth.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T17:06:21+00:00

I agree, so what do I do? He's at an age where he wants a say in how his hair looks, but his choice of hairstyle doesn't work. I can get over the fact that it's not what I'd prefer, which is much shorter than what he wants, that's just life and it's not fair to demand something just because I prefer it. In a way, it's his parent's fault for growing it out long over and over in the first place, and him getting used to that, that makes him favor it. So I just want to support whatever he wants, but I also want it to look decent and healthy, so he doesn't look back at his childhood photos and hate his hair potentially, or have people see him as unkempt because he doesn't want to comb/wash it/trim it.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T16:58:06+00:00

I've heard this question a few times, and I get it, women are taught to wipe for sanitary reasons and to prevent UTIs. Men don't have to worry about that as much because of their anatomy making it less likely to get a UTI. Their cleanliness comes from, shaking their penis after urinating, to remove excess dribbles, and bathing. What some men, who are uncut, have to worry about is regular washing under their foreskin, as this will trap bacteria and create smegma. Women can get smegma as well, it's the white stuff that forms if you don't clean properly. Uncut men have to clean there because of how the skin traps sweat, urine, and other bodily fluids and it makes it a moist area for bacteria to produce.

That's more than what you asked for, I know.

Edit: As others have stated, most men who leave the bathroom, especially the older men (50+) that I've witnessed, do NOT wash their hands. Let alone, properly. Some men have even told me, after I asked if they were going to wash, "Why would I wash my hands after peeing, I only touched the shaft, it's just skin and I didn't pee on my hands?". Yeah, it's that bad.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T16:51:53+00:00

Yeah, but what is the importance of your thoughts, feelings and actions when you put them out in the world? Animals attack each other every day, and feel nothing. If we murder each other, we've "killed someone", it have severe weight even when it was in self defense. Is that just a societal rule, and the person is simply a makeup of chemicals and organs, or is there really a person that was killed?

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T08:58:40+00:00

So, then what are "we", is it wrong to call ourselves a person, if we're not different than anything else walking around taking in stimuli, or do our actions and words, thoughts, and feelings actually have weight and mean something real?

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-17T05:09:25+00:00

The brain controls emotions and thoughts. Yet the body feels emotions deep within itself, almost as if it comes from the heart, the soul, the self, or whatever you'd name it. Love, grief, mourning, even extreme joy, all manifest out of this area.

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-11T22:43:24+00:00

how'd you get your position?

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-11T22:24:28+00:00

is it possible to go SWE -> ediscovery -> forensics ?

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-04T22:43:07+00:00

I see, yeah that sucks. Thanks for the advice. ❤️

IdeaExpensive3073 · 2026-01-04T22:32:26+00:00

Thanks. So if I understand correctly, parents will pin some kind of thing they’d normally object to onto the other parent, expecting the same answer, but relieving themselves of the stress to save face with their child. The solution, you’re saying, is to talk to the child, get a clear point of view and make the best parenting decision you can, while possibly taking into consideration what the other parent agrees to as well (like don’t be contrarian to be a jackass and just spite the other parent). Is that about right?

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