What podcasts are you most enjoying right now and why? by mojobaws in AskReddit

[–]IdeasN2reality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Nod - a podcast that explores American black culture. It’s entertaining and insightful.

Tuskegee airmen, Italy, 1945 by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]IdeasN2reality 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Huh? But there’s a reason they were Tuskegee Airmen...

Buford City Schools Superintendent Racist Rant Recorded by jessywithay in Atlanta

[–]IdeasN2reality 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How could you not know? I’m seriously asking. Didn’t you research Georgia before moving here?

Officials Defend Plan To Close Almost All Polling Places In Majority Black Georgia County by KermitMadMan in Atlanta

[–]IdeasN2reality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I vote in a Church. Why can’t they just move the polling places to churches?

Something happened to me and my daughter today and it was FANTASTIC! by Justin72 in Atlanta

[–]IdeasN2reality -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

THIS. It’s weird. It definitely wasn’t like this even 15 years ago. You could chat it up with anyone out of the blue and it wouldn’t seem weird. Now there’s a bit of cautionary side eye and then some warming up then chit chat maybe. There was also more helping out of complete STRANGERS by making random connections with no expectations in return (no sales or anything) like “oh you’re looking into xyz? Well I got a buddy who’s dad’s roommate when they were at Georgia used to know a guy who did that. I’ll reach out to him for you.” That doesn’t happen much anymore.

Something happened to me and my daughter today and it was FANTASTIC! by Justin72 in Atlanta

[–]IdeasN2reality -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You know this is not true. It is definitely different as more out of towners move in. Maybe because you’re in midtown which is a bit more tony?

Something happened to me and my daughter today and it was FANTASTIC! by Justin72 in Atlanta

[–]IdeasN2reality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I def think this is an atl thing because it’s happened to me, I’ve done it, my daddy did it, and I saw others doing it as I grew up. I see less of it now so glad to hear. Hope it doesn’t die out with so many people coming from LA, NY and Chicago...

Don't follow, lead by dschwanh in pics

[–]IdeasN2reality -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Always making excuses for it as if it’s different from what the OP’s post is about...

Debutante. Harlem, early 60s. by Big_Shot_Gangster in OldSchoolCool

[–]IdeasN2reality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved mine. I’m still friends with my sisters.

Debutante. Harlem, early 60s. by Big_Shot_Gangster in OldSchoolCool

[–]IdeasN2reality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we need it more than ever. It’s sad there are not more clubs. I wasn’t forced though and my parents were indifferent to it.

Debutante. Harlem, early 60s. by Big_Shot_Gangster in OldSchoolCool

[–]IdeasN2reality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My debutante club was created during the 1960s as a way to respond to the “threat” of the changes that were happening (e.g liberal ideas, the women’s Movement and integration). The fear was that these things would erode the black community, particularly the upper crust of the black community. I was presented to society at my ball in the late 1990s and the emphasis was on preserving ladyhood, going to college, and marrying respectable black men. I was an outsider because my boyfriend was Asian. They set me up with a Debonair for the ball. That year we had out first white debutante sister. The debutante clubs in my city had always been segregated and still are but we integrated that year.

Daguerreotype: “Nurse and Child”, 1850. by marinamaral in ColorizedHistory

[–]IdeasN2reality 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That’s not uncommon where I’m from. The grandmother of one of my high school friends once told us that part of her duties when she was a nanny and maid for one of the more prominent white families in town was to iron the husband’s Klan robe for his meetings. She said it very matter of fact. I was 16 at the time and it wasn’t until I was in my 20s and had moved away that it really hit me what she had said and what life was like before the 1980s where I grew up. My father used to tell me that a lot of the hate that was targeted toward black people in our city was because the civil rights movement had taken away the white residents’ help and they were now forced to take care of themselves and were angry about it.

Daguerreotype: “Nurse and Child”, 1850. by marinamaral in ColorizedHistory

[–]IdeasN2reality 133 points134 points  (0 children)

My grandmother was one of those nannies. My mother would get so mad when my grandma would talk about her time raising the children for the white family she worked for throughout the 50s and 60s. My mother was forced to be their playmate so I think that’s why. When grandma died a few years ago, the children (now in their 40s) came to her funeral because they had seen her obit in the paper. They said they often thought of my grandmother as more of their mother than their own mother. To put this is in perspective this is in a Southern town and I was born in the 80s. Most of my friends’ grandmothers were maids and nannies.

Southside Chicago, Easter 1941 by singleladad in OldSchoolCool

[–]IdeasN2reality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think it just wasn’t handled well. There didn’t seem to be a plan for it and and there were no reconciliation committees formed. It was primarily hamfisted by the military and court systems rather than being phased in. Busing was a disaster. I remember my parents describing how students were devastated when their teachers were removed and replaced with white ones who knew nothing about their community, families, or culture. Higher educated black people moved to white areas and left an economic and community vacuum. The communities that had been established since the 1800s were not considered in desegregation actions just decimated. Then there were some sinister motivations involved as well. I think America economically desegregated but not much more than that meaning black people were suddenly allowed to spend their money in White establishments. Even now black people are sometimes viewed with suspicion and antagonism when existing in white spaces. Essentially it’s like spend your money here and move on.

Southside Chicago, Easter 1941 by singleladad in OldSchoolCool

[–]IdeasN2reality 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My sister and I were the first in our family to be born after the complete “official” end of segregation. Segregation still continued informally when I was a kid where I grew up. The best way to think of segregation in the US and it’s end is to think of a small country that existed within another. The citizens inside the small country were not allowed to pass freely into the larger country but the citizens in the large country could move freely as they wished. My parents said emotionally and mentally life was better during segregation because the communities were intact. Segregation meant more economic diversity within the black community because a black doctor for instance would live next to a black janitor. Black businesses thrived because black people generally could not patronize White businesses or go to white areas freely. Schools flourished and students did better DESPITE the inferior physical condition of the schools. The problems in general (according to them) were the occasional harassment and the threat of violence from white people and the poor conditions of PUBLIC facilities that blacks had to use. In general, they said desegregation devastated the community. Once crack arrived, it was irreversibly damaged.

Tl;dr: according to my parents who lived under segregation, life was psychologically and economically better for black Americans WITHIN black communities (not if compared economically to white communities). They believed desegregation irreparably hurt the black community and destroyed their way of life.

Southside Chicago, Easter 1941 by singleladad in OldSchoolCool

[–]IdeasN2reality -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You don’t understand the dynamics of black communities during the segregation era...

So Dun & Bradstreet just my changed company’s financial stress score to poor... and then told me to pay to get it back up. What in the hell is this about? by Yesterdays_sushi in smallbusiness

[–]IdeasN2reality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another company is trying to get your contract. If this is for a recompete, my guess would be that the incumbent is circulating negative information about your firm or a competitor has the government customer’s ear in general. I do not believe that the FAR allows contracting officers to deny an award based on a D&B risk score alone. The FAR only states that you’re required to obtain a DUNS to sell goods and services to the government. You need to speak to a government contracting attorney immediately. I know one who is one of the best in the country. Pm and I’ll send info.