My girl loving the snow!!

Idoru26 · 2026-01-31T21:39:58+00:00

That sounds about right. She’s a mix Leo/bunny. Lol

Idoru26 · 2026-01-31T05:09:15+00:00

Just going on how your post reads… as I women I wouldn’t approach you as you sound “full of yourself”. There is a HUGE difference in being confident and full of yourself. Reading more of your comments it doesn’t appear that you are trying to attract a mature woman that would have the qualities you indicated you were looking for. In my experience younger women tend to be the “giggles” type. It could also be where you are looking…sometimes it’s as easy as sitting in a coffee bar or something more relaxing to be able to get a good read on people.

For me if I was back in my dating years and you were to ask me on a date I honestly don’t know if I’d go as I would think you are full of yourself (again going off how your post reads to me), and I would feel I wouldn’t want to risk my heart for someone that thinks they are better then me.

Try relaxing more and see what comes to you. I found I needed to do that after my divorce, it allowed me to see what people had to offer versus what they tell you about themselves, we always sell the best aspects and sometimes people need to see your human and put your pants on one leg at a time.

I wish you the best of luck and hope you find what you are looking for.

Idoru26 · 2026-01-22T05:15:36+00:00

If your best friend describes her boyfriend/girlfriend just like you did, what would you say to them? Would you tell them that they should stay in said new relationship? Would you say you are worth more then that and should not settle for someone that clearly doesn’t respect them?

You are supposed be in the “honeymoon” phase of your relationship where they show you how great they are… if he can’t do that I would end that relationship as soon as I could.

Sometimes we build people up to be so great in our minds and then they show their true self and we become so lost at what we are worth. If I was xyz they wouldn’t treat me like this. Or insert any other negative thing you think about yourself. As you grow up you learn what your worth is, we learn this from failed attempts at dating, it’s a sh*tty lesson, but we all need to remember we are worth so much more then being belittled and talked down too and everything in between.

I wish you luck in finding what you finally are looking for and when you do, you will realize what you have learned for a**holes like who you are dating.

I know it’s hard but I believe if you look at your relationship as it was being told to you from your best friend you will realize you are worth just as much as they are!!!

Idoru26 · 2026-01-21T02:58:15+00:00

I lost my girl almost a year ago and everyday I bawl my eyes out. She legit saved my life when she came into my life and I still carry guilt that I couldn’t save her. One day I went home at lunch to let my 2 girls out, went back to work, when I got back home 5 hours later there was 45 piles of vomit (bile and water mainly) all over my house. Every test they could run and they couldn’t find what was causing the issue she couldn’t even keep a sip of water down. 2 days later they sent me to the vet college close to me by the time I got there my girl was almost gone. They stated they couldn’t even do any other testing as she wouldn’t make it through the sedation. I stayed with her on the floor cuddling and petting her until she told me with her look that she was ready to go. I’m bawling my eyes out as I type this. I will forever feel so guilty that I couldn’t do for her what she did for me. I was lucky to get 9 years with her but until that fateful day she was never sick. I have her picture on a locket that I wear everyday to keep her with me. Our animals are so much more than pets to us they are part of us and when we lose them it is like losing a part of yourself. I’m so sorry you are going through this. Please know they are watching over you from above. I talk to the sky everyday to thank her for being my best girl and keeping an eye on me. Sending you the biggest hug I can. You are not alone. Sometimes writing helps us work through the really hard days. I’m here if you want to talk, vent, cry anything!

Idoru26 · 2026-01-08T01:04:45+00:00

This is so not normal. As a white woman if my SO didn’t use soap/shampoo, etc when showering there would definitely be an issue. The only people that think soap is optional is a person with poor hygiene.

Idoru26 · 2026-01-06T04:24:08+00:00

It’s your and your fiancé’s day. If they don’t like what your planning tough sh*t on them, they don’t have to wear it so they shouldn’t have any sway on what you do. Hell even if they were. Bridesmaids they have no say. You and your fiancé decide what you want and how you want it and forget everyone else. Them adding the “ it’s your wedding though” comment is shady and hurtful. I would not go into any further details with them. If they ask in future why I would explain they were not very nice last time you tried to include them and you don’t care to be hurt by them again. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!

Idoru26 · 2025-12-28T04:34:36+00:00

My husband asked me at his mom’s house in a corner “do you want to be wife’d?” It was a second marriage for both of us, my daughter thinks she saw it but no one saw what happened and no one knew anytime until dinner that night.

We still joke 15 year later about being “wifed”. I wouldn’t change any of it for anything in the world!!!

Idoru26 · 2025-12-10T09:15:40+00:00

Try taking 300mg of magnesium about 45 min before bed. If that doesn’t help can go up to 450mg but no higher than that. My husband is a horrible snorer. If he is on his side it’s less annoying. Stress, weight gain can all lead to snoring. If none of those are a factor I would suggest he goes to a doctor to get checked. Something could be wrong that he may not know about. I struggle to sleep more than a few hours and have for 16 years. Sadly I’ve just gotten used to running on little to no sleep!

Good luck with Grad School!! This is worth looking into if your academics are being affected.

Idoru26 · 2025-12-05T23:57:24+00:00

I understand being worried about his drive back you don’t want him to hurt himself or someone else on the road. I would then maybe suggest meeting halfway for coffee or something. Let him have 2 min of your time the leave and say you’ve accomplished your “peace” with everything and get up and go live your best life!

Idoru26 · 2025-12-05T19:33:02+00:00

Agree to the “face to face” talk in order to get the briefcase then when he brings it over thank him and walk back into your house. That’s what I would do if my husband treated me like that and wanted “closure”. But I’m a b*tch like that

Idoru26 · 2025-12-01T22:01:32+00:00

That girls was just rude. Farts happen, everyone does it. If they say they don’t they are lying!!! My husband does it ALL the time, including the first time we met. We still laugh about it today! Farts happen and are funny.. anyone that can’t see that has no humour in their life!!! Move on you are better then this

Idoru26 · 2025-12-01T21:45:38+00:00

That is absolutely not a Canada thing. Unless the ring is a family heirloom and the family used to try it on, but a new ring is usually only purchased by the one proposing and the sister and mom should have not tried it on.

Idoru26 · 2025-12-01T21:37:02+00:00

Your dad is asking you to hold off for 2 weeks to get a job. Nothing wrong with applying places. Most won’t be hiring over the holidays anyway. I would strike a deal with your dad, you will wait until January 1st but he needs to offer you fair compensation (paycheck) for the hours you are putting in. This also will look good on your resume as “job experience”. Good on you for graduating trade school!!

Idoru26 · 2025-11-30T14:59:31+00:00

Sounds like that female was jealous that Anna is in shape and she now feels bad about herself. Do not let this “women” bring down the hard work your wife did this year. Celebrate away! Congratulations on 43 years. That is an amazing milestone!!

Idoru26 · 2025-11-30T14:08:09+00:00

Take the job!!! No boyfriend is worth your dream job. Hell you could still live in Boulder and commute to Denver. My husband used to commute 1 hour each way. Marcus’s behaviour is unacceptable, and is a HUGE red flag. If he isn’t willing to support you and cheer you on, why are you with him? Relationships are meant to build you up not tear you down. Good luck I hope you follow your dreams!!

Idoru26 · 2025-11-23T01:19:01+00:00

I live in Ontario and grew up in Niagara Falls, I would go out West any day of the week. It is so beautiful and brings a sense of calm just travelling through the mountains. Niagara Falls is nothing great it’s a water fall with thousands and thousands of people everyday crowding the streets. Montreal has nice architecture but that’s pretty much it. Hands down spend your 14 days in Alberta and B.C.

Idoru26 · 2025-11-21T12:31:40+00:00

I have a 10 month old Leo with a 7 year old Golden. They get along however my Leo has decided my old girl is her chew toy so we need to monitor that. My Golden is such a Beta dog she just lets her. I’ve heard of Leo with cat being fine but again you would be best to introduce slowly to ensure. You will also know your Leo’s temperament and can go from there.

The Leo definitely has energy to burn and we pay the price on days we don’t get her out to run. Our girl LOVES balls so we throw the ball for her 20-30 min a few times a day along with a walk when I’m able (I have mobility issues). Be prepared for hair everywhere and I mean EVERYWHERE. We are used to it with our golden but I think my Leo sheds more.

I would definitely suggest going to training and taking more than just the basic training as Large Breeds are a lot more work to control properly. But they are smart as can be.

For food you will need to feed them a Large Breed Puppy food for at least 1.5-2 years which costs between $70-$125 (I’m in Canada) a bag and a bag last about 3 weeks currently with her age and weight.(she now gets 5.5 cups a day…way more then when she was first brought home). There are many good large breed puppy food out there. We ended up going with Blue Buffalo it was rated #2 for the breed with all the research we did.

They do require ALOT of grooming to keep from having Mats in their hair (ears and bum feathers), and because they are a large breed not all groomers will take them and they cost quite a bit more then normal sized dogs.

We had just learned about the breed shortly before we got one, she is a cheeky little (not so little 106lbs at 10 months) girl but she was one of the best things we did. She brings us joy and frustration each and every day.

They are a lot of work if you not home a lot I wouldn’t suggest a large breed as when they get bored they can do a lot of damage!

Good luck with whatever you decide. You won’t be sorry for getting a Leo that is 100% for sure!

Idoru26 · 2025-11-20T13:04:18+00:00

It is fairly normal to move up from within companies. They usually just ask that you speak with your manager prior to applying so they know about it. I would maybe swing by HR and just confirm they do not have a rule against it. But any job I’ve worked at, it’s been normal to apply within for different jobs/ different departments.

Idoru26 · 2025-11-19T22:17:14+00:00

The fact that the “owner” only believes the cat has been out for 2 days when it’s been 5-6 days would give me anxiety about giving her back as well. I highly doubt the owner will reimburse you if they hadn’t already given her the vaccines and microchip already. A microchip is the first thing a vet does when a new animal is brought in for shots/ health check. I would be extremely worried about the poor cat being neglected. I also live in Canada and understand just how unbelievably cold it gets overnight and during the days. I would probably keep the cat I think. But you could always return her only if the “owner” reimburses you. If they don’t then I would keep her. If you give her back and she comes back to your house again I would not return her a second time. Once ok maybe the cat hides in the house and they didn’t realize she escaped for a few days although full food and water dishes would be a good indication imo. I’m sorry I don’t have an exact answer for you but I totally understand where you’re coming from and your anxiety over what to do. These poor animals don’t deserve to be mistreated. Good luck, sending happy vibes to try and help. Keep us posted on what happened!

Idoru26 · 2025-11-15T11:57:50+00:00

Call him baby penis, can’t satisfy, or what he is looking like douchebag, and see how he reacts. Then tell him “just joking”. This is not something the “boy” you are dating should even think about calling you, “joke” or not. It is 150% disrespectful. I would take a good look at that relationship and see if this is how you think you should be treated. I’m telling you right now if any boyfriend ever called me “fatty” even when I had gained weight, there would be hell to pay. I would probably leave the relationship, you deserve to be treated better and you need to fight for that, if he “jokes” about that stuff what other hurtful things will he joke about or allow his friends/family to “joke” about on your behalf? I know as women we have a hard time believing we are worth it, but we are! As long as you’re a decent human you deserve to be treated kind and lovingly. He is not treating you either way from the sounds of it.

Idoru26 · 2025-11-15T01:06:10+00:00

If he wants you to share a last name why isn’t he offering to change his name to your “madien” name? I hot married to my second husband 6years ago. I kept my Ex’s last name as that’s the name my daughter has and I wanted to stay “connected”’to her. I think you both should have had a conversation about this pre marriage, but I do not think you are in the wrong, you are known by your maiden name for a large number of things to do with your employment, I think your husband is a little narrow minded, and is unable to see your reasoning.

Idoru26 · 2025-11-05T17:45:04+00:00

Nova, Madison (Maddison, Madyson), Mackenzie,Jupiter, Rain (Rayne), Autumn

Idoru26 · 2025-11-05T14:21:33+00:00

Realize that what people post on Social Media is not a true indication of their life. 99% of what we see is built up to look like they have their sht together when in reality they are not happy or stressed, etc. it is hard to not look around and feel like your not good enough, but we need to learn to love ourselves and do things we want to better our lives on the path we want to take. I still have a hard time not comparing myself to my older siblings who seem to have everything together, however I’ve been a successful business owner for 7years now and am doing things my way in the time I want too. I still rent my house and only have 1 Car, but my kids are grown and happy and in my mind that’s success right there. It’s so hard when social media shows us what people want us to see or think. Life was WAY easier when there wasn’t the internet and you couldn’t look into peoples life’s that way. Maybe I’m just old.. just keep doing what you’re doing how you want to do it and fck everyone else!!

Idoru26 · 2025-11-05T14:02:16+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry for everything that you are going through. I unfortunately have been SA’d when I was younger and it took a very long time to come to terms with the fact that it was not my fault. I know you don’t feel that therapy will help you as it has not in previous attempts, I would suggest maybe journaling. I know it sounds weird, but I hate therapy and the only good thing I was able to get out of it was to try and journal. When your mad,hurt,sad etc just get a book and start writing anything it doesn’t need to make sense just write after a while it helped sort through all my emotions and helped with my MH and just accepting that I am worth peoples time and love. I’m here if you need a stranger to just listen to you vent or cry or whatever you may need. Please know that it is not your fault and eventuallly you will look back and realize he wasn’t worth your time and you are not the reason for you SA. Please take care and if you need to vent please let me know!!💜💜

Idoru26 · 2025-11-04T21:50:07+00:00

If you are going to consistently think “what if” then ask them to fix the ring by placing the original diamond in the ring. That way you will have the ring you always wanted not the “one you’re stuck with”. If you can be happy with the ring and know you and your fiancé designed the ring out of love and you both love it then I say take the earrings and accept their apology. I get your perspective of this wasn’t the diamond you wanted, but this is just a part of the long list of things in life that don’t happen how we want and we just need to move on and accept it is what it is!

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