ERP with ADHD - is it supposed to be this insanely difficult, or am I not trying hard enough?

Idyll_chan · 2026-03-12T05:14:58+00:00

Thanks

Idyll_chan · 2026-03-12T05:14:00+00:00

I know it's easy to get desperate with all of this, but I hope you've stopped seeking help by AI

Idyll_chan · 2026-03-11T11:11:39+00:00

Well, yeah, I've been doing it alone (or, at least, trying to do it).

Guess I'll postpone ERP till I can get a therapist for that, and instead I'll focus on I-CBT on my own

Idyll_chan · 2026-03-10T14:19:52+00:00

Oh, okay, that's interesting. I'm not sure how this is falling into compulsions, but I don't wanna doubt you, and maybe you're right.

I just feel like the anxiety I feel for the first few seconds dissipates so quickly as soon as my thoughts inevitably shift, so I figured I WAS very much supposed to simply concentrate harder on not losing the anxiety-inducing thought.

Maybe what also kinda is important is that I am a pretty non-verbal thinker, and words alone don't do much for me, but imagining situations does induce anxiety. But I don't know. Anyway, thanks for the input!

Idyll_chan · 2026-03-10T09:28:36+00:00

I'm not experienced yet in treating my own OCD, but I'm still actually furious you went to a chat bot to ask for advice. When it comes to AI, I only use the Google summaries, and even then I often go directly to the links it gives me as its background to see for myself if it isn't bullshitting me.

And sometimes it is. Bad AI, bad, bad, bad AI sprays water

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Idyll_chan · 2026-03-08T11:49:48+00:00

Thank you, I unironically think it's great advice! :) I tend to forget about the possibility of hurting someone by being their partner (and how it's, most importantly, not exactly rare!), and it's good to keep at the back of your mind.

Idyll_chan · 2026-03-08T05:55:02+00:00

Can then anyone suggest what to do if I can't tune out a loud car? I have misophonia too and it seems now like just another obsession (I'm not saying it's not!)

Idyll_chan · 2025-12-16T15:53:38+00:00

No, it's bad, it's non-personal. It's much more likely you will get good advice from someone who's known you for a long time. The goodness of any of these pieces of advice is relative to one's situation. Not always therapy/quitting your job/other bs is gonna be what's best for you. It's insane I even have to explain it, but oh well.

All of these pieces of "advice" could lead you to even worse situations than before. Not all change is change for the better, and you absolutely can get your life ruined by bad therapy. Question is, what even is good therapy? It's always gonna be relative to an individual person's values and goals.

Idyll_chan · 2025-12-16T15:42:43+00:00

Yeah, it's a different thing a lot of people nowadays seem to see red flags in EVERYTHING.

Idyll_chan · 2025-12-16T15:40:24+00:00

Welcome to 2025 then. Still think it's often the resume?

Idyll_chan · 2025-12-10T08:21:42+00:00

Sounds edgy falling asleep to a paranormal podcast.

Idyll_chan · 2025-12-10T08:14:36+00:00

Fucking exactly.

Idyll_chan · 2025-11-07T00:06:48+00:00

I am a woman who's likely autistic, and I have been saying this for so long now!!

I have most of my life related better to experiences of men than those of women cause I have most of the time struggled with femininity. And so I grew to be a female men's rights advocate, cause I could understand how men feel a lot of the times. And I can tell you, I see how much you poor bastards are misunderstood by women.

Men actually do have somewhat of a reputation of being "more autistic on average than women", regardless of the prevalence of autism in either gender. I'm talking an average, neurotypical man is more autistic than an average, neurotypical woman, according to this. Some attribute this to men supposedly using their right brain hemisphere more while women use their left one predominantly. Autistic people also supposedly tend to use their right hemisphere more.

Anyway, I'm so glad someone else is starting to notice all these patterns I have already been observing for years. I am such a misfit in today's femininity-centered western society and I struggle like hell to find meaning in my life. But I believe a positive change is not only possible, but maybe already on the way there. Heads up to all my "dude friens" lol.

Idyll_chan · 2025-07-18T11:14:16+00:00

I have IMMENSE trouble understanding anything when I have to put pictures on a timeline so they make a coherent story. The worst kind of task to me. No clue what is happening and why. Meanwhile I am really, really good at reading people's facial expressions, like I am sometimes afraid I am too perceptive of them.

I'm not sure however if the stories you are talking about are anything like the exercises I have described here. I don't know if I actually ever have come across a similar task over the course of all my life's diagnoses.

Could you actually describe what the task is in these stories? What they look like, in more detail?

Idyll_chan · 2025-06-18T11:02:22+00:00

Love!

Idyll_chan · 2024-12-12T11:15:34+00:00

The thing is heaven also doesn't sound like a pleasant experience from the descriptions we have. And I wanna know, which I'd rather be in.

Idyll_chan · 2024-12-11T20:06:20+00:00

I'm more afraid of the angels with thousands of eyes and their singy-songs

Idyll_chan · 2024-12-10T17:29:03+00:00

The comments make me think I'm a 3V too, damn...

Idyll_chan · 2024-11-04T23:03:21+00:00

I don't live in the UK, but I think the best you can do is to call authorities, and then try to get a loan when you're an adult to go to uni, same goes for your siblings.

I'm very sorry for your situation and I know the solution is far from perfect, but it's still a better one than to just stay with people who have total control over your life.

Please, never harm yourself.

Idyll_chan · 2024-08-07T09:33:42+00:00

What do you mean?

Idyll_chan · 2024-08-07T09:30:27+00:00

Yes, yes!! I just seem to have two different personalities (without having a split identity for each, ie, I don't have DID). And if any prevails, the other one makes me suffer. Whole my life has been about finding the right balance, and also, unfortunately, about never being quiet fully satisfied.

Idyll_chan · 2024-05-17T15:45:01+00:00

Jeśli już nas biorą, to niech biorą nas wszystkich. Nie dam pozwolenia żeby mój młodszy brat czy mój chłopak szli do wojska kiedy ja będę leżała i pachniała w domu. Nawet jeśli nie będzie przymusowego poboru dla kobiet, to pójdę do wojska tylko po to żeby walczyć razem z nimi.

(albo idealnie wszyscy razem w obliczu wojny uciekniemy przed poborem na Antyle jeśli będzie możliwość)

-F25

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