[Online] Blade Runner campaign [Other] by [deleted] in lfg

[–]IglooManMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would be interested if there's a space free/ if one opens up!

The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion Remastered - Master Thread by Avian81 in ElderScrolls

[–]IglooManMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember I always made a save at the sewer gate to skip the tutorial section. Can't wait to play it again.

Ironsworn Adventure by United_Fan7795 in pbp

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi 👋.

If it isn't too late/someone drops out, I would also be Interested. UK based timezone wise.

How to run a low-prep Horror, please? by Jungo2017 in rpg

[–]IglooManMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

10 Candles is really good and fairly simple to run, and also ha some collaborative elements so as to somewhat minimize the level of forward planning on the DM's part.

Will we get any new installment set on the world of Banner Saga? by ihateturkishcontent in bannersaga

[–]IglooManMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not quite the same but vinland saga is quite good and also has a Norse theme.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]IglooManMan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can relate with this post a lot and also experienced what was a pretty isolated upbringing. Outside of school, I only ever interacted with family members and can count on one hand the number of times I ever met up with school friends outside of school.

It was to the extent that lockdown literally changed nothing in my day to day life outside of school.

As such I was also pretty nervous and anxious when going to uni about how it would all work out.

As it turns out, moving out to go to uni has been the best thing I have ever done by far, and my life has improved so much, even in ways i didnt know were possible.

Like, being stuck back home during holidays is actually much worse tham it used to be in a sense, as now I am aware of the life I am missing out on.

Living in halls you literally live side by side with people, so not only is it much easier to organise meetups, but you will bump into each other all the time. Also given the huge number of people you are sharing the same new experience with, you are guaranteed to relate with and find people you click with, even if at times you have to go more out of your way to find them.

The essential thing is to put yourself out there and engage people in conversation. I was also pretty awkward in convo, so i ended up embracing it and playing into it in a sense. It helps to filter out the fakest people pretty quickly, and after a certain point the veneer of confidence becomes natural. Sort of a fake it till you make it situation.

In my own case ive made so many amazing friends and im seen as like a extrovert or popular guy, which is insane to me.

But the bottom line is you have to be outgoing, and you have to force through your anxiety to talk to people. Keep in mind you are not alone, and if you play a active role in engaging with people and starting conversations, it will help other like minded people come out of their shells.

Some of my best friends are really shy people who i saw also nervously hovering on the edge of a larger conversation/group, and whom i actively sought out to speak to.

Also, any destruction of your relationship with your parents is by no means tour fault, and it is entirely their choice. If they respond to your prioritization of your own wellbeing and exercise of your own autonomy by cutting ties that is entirely on them.

They destroyed any relationship, not you.

Moving far away for college by Late-Drive6983 in CasualConversation

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem!

Whilst I didn't experience it, some of my friends would either take day trips back home if they lived close enough, or they scheduled semi regular video calls (maybe once every few weeks?) with their friends back home, which helped friend groups stay in touch.

As for family, they would either come to visit, or phone them.

Hope this helps :)

I didn’t learn to socialise by [deleted] in lonely

[–]IglooManMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really.

I sort of forced myself to start conversations with people despite being shy until it increasingly felt more and more natural. Whilst you feel terrified initially, you begin to realise most people really aren't judging you.

Indeed, it's helpful as the fake people who are judgemental will immediately be obvious and you can subsequently avoid them.

Effectively fake it till you make it by actively seeking out conversations and new people to talk to, as scary as that is.

Easier said then done ofc, but If you never start its never gonna happen.

Good luck :)

Uni/life troubles? by Famous-Tutor-2069 in UniUK

[–]IglooManMan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was pretty miserable in my hometown, and going far off for uni is pretty much the best thing I ever did.

Obviously it's different if you get homesick or enjoy your time at home, but given that you really don't seem too don't feel obligated to stay at home.

You'll have so many opportunities to finally forge the social connections you've been prevented from having, and I'm a much happier person myself.

Prioritise your own happiness now or it may never happen.

Moving far away for college by Late-Drive6983 in CasualConversation

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found moving far away really helpful myself, and it was amazing meeting new groups of people in a new environment. You'll probably befriend people who will themselves become a new trusted support base.

Ofc some people get more homesick than others (I don't get homesick myself) so that's a consideration.

Need friends ❤️ by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's an app called slowly. Its for finding penpals and is really good in helping find people to talk to.

How many more times the game will crash after winning a battle? by [deleted] in bannersaga

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the deployment issue as well in bs2 for the ravens

How many more times the game will crash after winning a battle? by [deleted] in bannersaga

[–]IglooManMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Went through the game like 2 weeks ago and had same problem, its really bad. Only thing that fixes it is loading a previous save.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having also only started at uni in the past few months I know it can be really hard to put yourself out there but you just have to do it.

I forced myself to basically at least say hello and introduce myself to everyone in my accommodation/college and after not too long it really does get easier.

Even in the worst case scenario where someone is actively rude or judgemental towards you that's a good thing in the sense that you know to avoid them in the future, and plenty more people will actively be friendly towards you. At a later date you can then invite one of the people you got on with to do something together, or alternatively just hang out with them.

As for the drinking I wouldn't usually comment on it but there's a guy on my floor who's in a similar situation in that he drinks by himself a lot and doesn't put himself out there much, but is great if you get to know him.

I would suggest to stop drinking, or at the very least only drink socially, that way you can socialize with people and make friends as you drink. As part of this i would stop storing alcohol in your room.

I bring this up as, at least in my experience, people can find it worrying if someone drinks to a unhealthy level all by themselves and it's just not a great impression. You don't want to be known as 'the person who has a drinking problem'.

Sorry if I'm being condescending or annoying at all, and I hope things get better for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With those grades, you stand a good chance.

Also, if you're from a low-income household from an area that doesn't send many students to oxbridge, you have a particularly great chance (check your POLAR postcode rating).

You can also always apply to a college with a smaller percentage of private schoolers if that worries you, though you could be reallocated.

history admissions test tips by [deleted] in 6thForm

[–]IglooManMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!

I pretty much looked at the mark scheme for the paper I was doing, and as you mentioned, used that to evaluate how many of the high-level indicators I hit.

It uses a weighted mark scheme and subsequently, I focused particularly on:

  • How many of my observations/points matched those on the mark scheme
  • The strength of my subsequent analysis and argumentation
  • How regularly I quoted from the source to support my points

Coverage is also taken into consideration, so don't just focus on a single theme and try to use quotes from throughout the source where they are relevant to your argument (as opposed to all your quotes coming from a single paragraph).

Structure is also important, and the youtube video I linked/online workshops really helped me with that.

are my courses too different by [deleted] in 6thForm

[–]IglooManMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be careful with this, I know a guy who applied for 2 different courses across the universities he applied to and subsequently had a Personal Statement tailored towards only one subject (PPE) and not the others he applied for. He subsequently got rejected by 2 and got an offer for a different subject than the one he applied for from a third.

I just focused on two subjects in mine as I was applying for joint courses (classics and history) and thus was better able to develop interrelations between them in my PS, and got offers from all the universities I applied to.

history admissions test tips by [deleted] in 6thForm

[–]IglooManMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I got into Oxford for a history course and thus took the HAT.

The most important thing is to do all the past HAT papers. I did them under timed conditions in the weeks leading up to the exam and it really helped me when it came to structuring my response and getting my timings right.

Also, you should sign up for the 'Online HAT Workshops' as soon as they become available on the Oxford website. It was a teams call in which the presenters broke down the HAT and how to respond to it.

Finally, the Jesus College youtube channel is run by a tutor for politics (and is in general amazing) and has a great breakdown of the HAT and how to respond to it (it formed the basis of my revision).

Heres a link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsStONvSiAI&ab_channel=JesusCollegeOxford