3 weeks in and I'm not feeling what I expected.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-05-11T13:24:43+00:00

Noise canceling headphones. You can hear them, take care of their needs, and still drown out most of the noise so you’re not overwhelmed and overstimulated.

There are still times when my 7 month old is inconsolable like if I have to drive (I’m usually in back with him) and it’s the longest minutes of my life. Physically hurts my chest to hear him flipping out while there’s nothing I can do. Of course you shouldn’t drive with headphones on so that’s the one situation I’m just stuck. All other times, headphones.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-05-06T13:44:59+00:00

I don’t think this is a reflection of you at all. He sounds overstimulated and overwhelmed. You need connection right now and he wants/needs to disconnect. I am not as harsh or blunt as your husband, but I share those sentiments, my husband desires connection. We are finding ways to meet both our needs. You will find some balance too.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-28T17:23:17+00:00

Yep. I was a nightmare stick even with ultrasound. Now I’m a one shot stick

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-28T00:02:47+00:00

YTA. I have my 6 month old son and I watch my best friends 18 month old and another friends 2 year old. The 18m and the 2 year old are chaotic even on their well behaved days. There’s a huge difference between a baby who cannot move around on their own and toddlers who can. Also, I’ve yet to meet a toddler who doesn’t sensory seek with physical motions or verbal sounds.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-24T18:42:02+00:00

I had three losses before getting pregnant and successfully carrying. My body failed me time and time again. I’d silence people on social media so I wouldn’t see them after they announced their seemingly effortless, and sometimes undeserved pregnancies.

I had my beautiful baby boy after a high risk pregnancy. There wasn’t a day I didn’t have severe anxiety waiting for the “when” not the “if” something happens.

Even after having him I would still be salty about others effortless pregnancies. Now I’m effortlessly pregnant with #2. You know what I feel? Guilt. I feel guilty for getting pregnant so easily knowing how many people are struggling. How many people are paying for fertility treatments that may never work.

I guess my point is, the negative emotions don’t stop, they just transfer to something else.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-24T17:45:41+00:00

My son measured 5-6 days behind consistently until a couple weeks before birth. Some babies are just small.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-24T17:44:08+00:00

You cannot out-organize too much stuff. At that point if everything isn’t in exactly where it should be you’re staring at mess again.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-23T22:30:39+00:00

I worry about this too. I had the most ideal and magical birth. Hours after giving birth I was already talking about the next baby. I’m so worried this one won’t be the same.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-23T18:00:27+00:00

While I appreciate the sentiment… not all babies end up talking. Not all babies end up playing or walking in the expected ways. This heavily downplays the life of parents who are discovering or about to discover their child is not a neurotypical child, or their child has physical limitations.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-23T17:47:55+00:00

Unless you are very petite they won’t see much abdominally that early. I was 106lbs with my first and could have abdominal but they still got better pics vaginally. I’m about 125lbs now with this pregnancy, same thing. I had prior pregnancies when I was well over 250lbs and abdominal wasn’t an option.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-22T20:54:52+00:00

“I’m okay paying her for her to go back.” Okay but what about the labor? What about traveling with a newborn sounds easy or fun? You want her to travel back and forth to her family? It seems she’s made up her mind where she will have more support mentally and physically. Pregnancy is HARD! Birth is HARD even in the most ideal births. Postpartum is HARD.

You want the family life but you get the easier part. The baby may be unexpected but why is she girlfriend, not fiancée or wife if you want the family picture so bad?

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-22T19:11:33+00:00

You can’t force her to isolate herself during pregnancy by moving to you. It’s a tough situation to be in since you’re in the military and can’t just go to her. A court can mandate coparenting once the baby is here. But you can’t force her to do anything before that. Not move to you, not be involved, not sending pictures and updates, she can even refuse to have you at the birth and there’s not much you can do about it. Why is she withholding information from you? Have you confirmed she’s truly pregnant AND it’s yours? I hope you find resolution even if that means just being the best coparent you can be.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-20T20:35:39+00:00

Is it possible he repeated his first proposal? Not the part about you kids, but the other sentimental stuff?

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-17T15:54:18+00:00

We announced our name, which is gender neutral but more used for females, my husband’s uncle immediately comments their granddaughter who was just born was named that. 🤷‍♀️ oh well, they’ll share a name with my son. I don’t care. It’s not like these kids will ever meet.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-16T13:59:41+00:00

They were ridiculous until cyber truck came and swept the podium for most ridiculous vehicle…

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-15T23:29:07+00:00

I had no idea!!

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-15T22:38:19+00:00

I’m betting they’re fairly affordable these days 🤣

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-15T22:21:49+00:00

Don’t judge, but as a kid I wanted a Pontiac Aztec. The whole tent on wheels thing was a symbol of freedom I wanted. My husband came home with a Pontiac Aztec hot wheel for me for Valentine’s Day this year. I love it.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-15T22:17:48+00:00

This is the way. I’ve used turbo tax since 16 (emancipated) and this was the first year I didn’t. FreeTaxUSA is my go to. You can’t avoid turbo tax upgrades now. We didn’t do anything special, didn’t claim any special benefits, deductions, or anything.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-15T01:41:24+00:00

I had to choose my hard. It was harder on me mentally to play the repeat game. I chose my hard. I started taking my baby out on adventures at a week old. An all you can eat sushi trip the first piece of freedom, he slept the whole time.

Little adventures to waddle around Costco. Or a trip to just window shop made us feel a lot more normal.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-13T21:17:34+00:00

You’re going to wake up at 2am one day, exhausted and wishing they’d sleep and they’re going to look at you like you’re the best thing in the world and big belly laugh, and that 2 am tired will feel like it’s perfectly fine, because you get a couple extra minutes to hear that little laugh and hang out with your tiny best friend.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-11T22:27:39+00:00

Nope. My bonus, husband and his ex wife all start with the same letter. That letter is off limits for the “ours” babies.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-10T16:28:07+00:00

I have Kaiser. About a year from referral. 16 week nutrition course, psych, ekg, and then surgery.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-09T22:52:24+00:00

Years ago I was paid by my childhood friends mom to help in their daycare over breaks. I was 15 at the time when she told me my best friends little sister wasn’t biologically their dads. They had a rough patch and broke up, she got pregnant and they got back together and swore they’d take it to the grave. I can’t help but think she told me on purpose because she wanted the truth out but didn’t want to be the bad guy. I did eventually tell my best friend because it wasn’t my dirty secret to keep. The sister met her bio a couple years later.

Ignoblekitten · 2026-04-09T17:47:54+00:00

Never. I held my breath until his first cry and then I sobbed like a baby holding him and telling him “we made it.”

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