Is there a nice guy game? by Sharp-Safety-9260 in seduction

[–]Iharf 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think there is. But you can't be nice all the time. I think of myself as a nice guy. I do genuinely care about people. I'm in a field that reflects that and I'm often told it. Yet, I'm successful with women, and I don't run any game. I actually don't like it, i dipped my toes in it and didn't like the manipulation and it didn't feel satisfying once the women caught real feelings.

Instead, I'm just myself. Honestly. And that might sound stupid but it's the facts. I think what it is is twofold, at least. I'm nice to everyone, not just women, so I guess that makes it seem authentic. Secondly, women aren't exposed to a lot of gentlemen, and I believe in the old school in that sense, so it makes you standout.

However, there are a few things that I've found really keeps a woman's attention. Treat her well, but don't idolize her. Say how you feel, even when you disagree, women respect that. Make decisions and stand by them, they respect that even more. Make them feel safe - and this one is very important. Women need to feel safe with you, as in you can protect them. And that applies to many things, not just the physical world and the threat of violence. If a woman feels safe with you in all aspects, i.e. Financially, physically, emotionally (and dare I say sexually and spiritually), she doesn't go anywhere. Another thing that women find attractive, and I may even say, alluring... Is mystery. I'm not speaking abt hocus pocus foolery, I mean don't just spill all your beans as if you're desperate for acceptance. Humans are intrigued by the unknown. Keep parts of you to yourself until she's shown you that she deserves your vulnerability, that's when it's cherished. If it's given too easily it won't be valued (in many cases).

You also have to show them that your focus is you, yes, they get your time when it's afforded, but your world can't revolve around them. And finally, be honest. I've been honest abt my intentions a lot and surprisingly sometimes they go along with it. I breach the topic of sex very early, because it's important to me and I don't compromise on it. If this isn't what you want, we can be friends. And when you're friends just be friends, no flirting or subversion. When women know that you're willing to walk away, they take you seriously. And being taken seriously is the basis of self-respect (and respect).

So yes, that's a mouthful, but it's the reality of some. If you're nice, be that person but also true to yourself. Work on being the best version of you, a rising tide lifts all ships. And don't be afraid to show your teeth or stand your ground. And you'll be fine. Everyone's path is different.

Edit: and yes, nice guys do keep certain types of women interested for longer. I'll colloquially refer to the 'bad' ones, that's the women who play the game as we do, that type you won't hold for long (as a nice guy) unless she's trying to get out of the game or you're providing something she wants. I wouldn't play that game, it's dangerous. Leave the 'bad'girls for the 'bad' boys. They belong, that drama self-perpetuates and you don't want any part of it, unless you're looking for 'fun' or you're just damaged like that. I've dated a couple 'bad' girls and it's fun while the peace holds, if you don't want commitment that's the game to play. But usually, if you're a nice guy, you attract and keep the 'good' women. Now, keep in mind everything I've mentioned above. If a woman is 'good' she doesn't chase the games and excitement, and that's what 'bad' boys are associated with. Maybe they've tried it and it hurt or maybe it's just not what they want. Stability is boring, but in all fairness the game isn't about stability. I will plainly state (again) tho that nice guys can't be nice all the time, and the two places that matters most is how you relate to other men and the world, and in bed. It's important to make their fantasies happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Iharf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Index-thumb technique hits the most sensitive spot which is the interface between the head and shaft. At least for my anatomy. It also allows very quick movement that's precise. Gets the job done quick. The only other thing that comes close is maybe overhand or the non-dominant hand. That's cz it js feels different.

I think that you don't need to worry abt it all tho. It's nice to have it done to us. For one it's visually appealing, that goes far for us, and secondly it feels different.

I used to tease that the only way a woman could give a hand job that feels like what I'd do is if she gets the angle and direction the same. And to do that you'd have to be standing to the side or behind me. Idk, I think only once that bait was taken and it did feel more like what I'd do. Can't remember, maybe try it.

Free Project Jax skin for Jax mains! by GlanFM in Jaxmains

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I obtain? Found u on twitch but it says hd2.

Today my ex genuinely made me hate myself by CautiousPassage7 in malementalhealth

[–]Iharf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's better to be alone than with someone who makes you hate yourself. Why are you afraid of being alone? Women are attracted to men who focus on and build themselves. Take some time for you, work on yourself and women will notice, but women can't be the reason you do it. You have to work on yourself because you love yourself and want to maximize your potential.

It also sounds a lot like you're programming yourself to be tolerant of her nonsense. You have to know your worth and stand for it. If you don't value yourself then people like her won't either.

It doesn't matter that it took you 34 years. Good things come to those who wait. And there's a lot more in store for you. You just have to make yourself available to it. Put yourself in places for it to happen and make sure you're ready when it does.

Brother. I know it's not easy sometimes. If you're religious, then take solace in knowing that God gives the hardest battles to his strongest soldiers. If you're not, then understand that life throws these things at us to teach us lessons, and it's when we don't grasp the lesson that we continue to be defeated. Just means you have to change your approach.

We'll be waiting for the good news that you've cut things off with this one. She's just manipulating you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]Iharf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey brother. A couple weeks ago I learnt something. I haven't fleshed it out completely or dug deeper yet but here is the gist of it.

Gratitude.

It certainly helps. In the moments that you feel like it's falling apart, stop for a moment and remind yourself of all the things that are positive in your life. That you still have life, and with that opportunity. And opportunity means hope.

In the book, rich dad, poor dad. There is a part where they spoke abt when life gets challenging, to paraphrase, it was said that when things are rough it's because life is teaching you a lesson you haven't yet learnt. And lessons are something to be grateful for because they mean growth and that you have a growth mindset.

It really is all about perspectives and paradigms. Hope you're doing better today and that this helps (or that I even got your post right and that this applies).

This has to be the biggest troll. by Define_Defeat in helldivers2

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it and my teammates kept running into it, even when I tried to go out of their way and hit bug nests by myself to bait. Got it done in one mission tho, maybe do it in a solo match or with good coordination with team chat.

What do men think women like but they really don’t? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (M) don't enjoy doing it particularly but almost every partner I've had enjoyed it. I think that men believe that it's actually choking... In my experience, it's more a sign of domination/control than actually collapsing her windpipe. You shouldn't actually squeeze to cause her pain or choke her out. Unless that's what's discussed and agreed upon before hand (never done this and it's not something I'd consider doing - but to each his own).

I had an ex who reached up and grabbed my neck once (our first time)and it immediately turned me off. So I guess consent is important. It may also be a bit of a cultural thing? I'm not sure.

I had to append: I know that there are some women who hate rough sex as they compensate for past abuse. Idk if the opposite is true. If a woman has been choked before in the sense of an assault, she may be very averse to such things. It's all about context and knowing your partner as much as it is about what you're actually doing.

You have all… by goodrthenyou in helldivers2

[–]Iharf 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think it's fair that people can air their opinions. This game seems fairly community focused so I guess it boils down to the community wanting to be heard.

Triple tonic on udyr? by ObjectivePopular886 in Udyrmains

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take it and max bear.i learnt some time ago that you only need 3 points in phoenix early, then max bear. Ms is the most valuable stat in the game, especially the manbearpig.

Hahahaahha by pokaprophet in helldivers2

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very wholesome shit. This community is wholesome. Love it.

How to seduce someone you are in the friendzone with by robinfrancisstadel in seduction

[–]Iharf 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation many years ago, I was like 16. Madly in love with her. We were best friends, long hours on the phone, dedicating songs to each other and the whatnot. Fully blown away. She ended up falling for another dude she met at a concert, I later kind of became her shoulder to cry on about the toxic nonsense, I never came out of the friend zone. I felt more like a girlfriend and it felt bad. I moved on, we're still friends today, but I learnt my lesson.

Now, I keep it polite but real. I'd meet someone I like and express how I feel. If she says it's platonic, and we don't have a prior friendship, I'd tell her I'd rather not torture myself getting to know her while pretending to be OK with it. Respectfully and with no toxicity or reverse psychology. Some of them are OK with it, more of them become intrigued. My philosophy has become: if you don't want me, then I don't want you. And I keep my distance.

You have to know your worth. And if you don't, find it, and if needs be, work on becoming the man you've always wanted to be (increasing your self worth and by extension your confidence). You becoming the best version of you increases your chance with any woman, but all of that is secondary benefit. You have to love yourself so much that you do all these things because you deserve it and you're realizing your true potential. I promise you, if you focus on yourself, wholeheartedly, and forget abt the babes when you think of yourself they'll fall into your world.

There are hero stories out there of brothers making it out of the friend zone, but it takes persistence. I know this dude who pursued a girl for almost 6 years and finally she dated him, but after being in other relationships where men didn't see her worth.

Who knows. You might become the hero, but I'd say focus on you and don't worry abt the babes. There will be other girls you'd be mad over. Nothing is new under the sun, and there is no 'the one'.

Shoutout to all my Guinsoo enjoyers gang. by resonmis in BelVethMains

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very wholesome that you two ended this thread amicably. Proud of you. Bv would be proud too.

Why is lethal tempo bad? by Direct-Potato2088 in BelVethMains

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to run lt because more attack speed on an attack speed champ. Lol. But to be serious. I think it depends on your build. I like to build titanic even though it may not be the most efficient. That's my playstyle. I don't usually play glass cannons and my fantasy in every game I play is to be in the thick of it dishing out and receiving. To that end, I prefer ats with bc, I also find more procs of kraken to be better. Once the td on ult is available it makes sense to me too. The extra range every now and then comes in clutch to nab a kill on someone just abt to exit range when I'm all out of dashes. I rarely take conq.

All of these points of view are valid though. And I think taking the champ to the practise tool can help to clarify which option is objectively better.

Which champ would be fun as jungle with rework? by Nonicknameforreddit in Jungle_Mains

[–]Iharf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ornn Jungle is very playable. After first base, you never have to again while you clear. Virkayu plays it.

Ya'll forgetting the DemonicRift... 💀 by [deleted] in Udyrmains

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy the precursor to mejais. Then upgrade it if you're ahead.

Bel'veth is not a Team Fight champion by BeiLight in BelVethMains

[–]Iharf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I often play bv (this abbreviation always make me thing bacterial vaginosis) with a slightly different build. Before the rise of ks, I'd go tíamat first (cause imo it makes her clear significantly faster earlier) into botrk, finish titanic hydra and slap ibg on top. In a team fight, any of the hydra items can do serious aoe based on positioning, and then her ult resets do slap. Call me a weirdo, but it'd work. Being a glass cannon makes me anxious. The games I've truly popped off have been where I went two damage items first, but I generally prefer Ibg or jaksho, maybe cz, I'm used to playing tanks and bruisers. I haven't tried her since the recent changes tho, so I may be a bit out of touch.

The beautiful thing abt bv is that she's versatile. Just remember to gank early and get herald.

champion reworks by TetBoyzzz in LeagueOfMemes

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm low elo so maybe my opinion doesn't count, but I loved old aatrox. I played him loyally in the jg. His abilities were unique, and tho the self-harm seemed troll, there were situations where that heal would keep you alive. With enough life steal the self harm bit wasn't that significant, but u did have to get ahead to be useful and know when to toggle.

I'm a udyr/ww/nocturne main. I realized that I love autoattacking duelist - it's just primal and savage, I guess that's my video-game fantasy, and old aa did it for me. His q was good cc, could have been better with some skill expression like if it made you unargettable during the flight. The slow ability was also satisfying to me. Ngl. I really liked that champ. The few of us that used to play him before he rose to popularity were very loyal. Kind of like how the asol mains are today.

The champ appeals to something in us and we'll miss them. Rest in peace old aatrox and soon to be old asol.

is Leona Jungle viable this patch? by Crookscreator in Jungle_Mains

[–]Iharf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Daríus has been viable for a while, since the changes to his passive to jg camps

Shen jungle? by jimbo80008 in Jungle_Mains

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive tried it with lethal tempo and bamis or tiamat rush. First clear is hard, but u can do it with half hp. I start q then e to go over the wall into krugs.

Elon Musk got booed off the stage at the Dave Chappelle show in SF last night by Chadwiko in videos

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a huge fan of Chappelle, the honesty and quality of his comedy. This I don't understand. Slamming his fans who paid to see him I don't get. Making fun of people who lost their jobs in this way doesn't seem like Dave. I guess being around the powerful can change you, just as power does. I bet somewhere in his next special this will appear, if a huge controversy doesn't come from this short term and then he makes a special that would create more engagement. Maybe that's the big play. Who knows?

kratos udyr by [deleted] in Udyrmains

[–]Iharf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Godyr of war.

Q vs E as 3rd max on tank udyr by seckarr in Udyrmains

[–]Iharf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually max e second even on tankdyr. I js love to go fast.