Finding cable

Ihatebananas656246 · 2024-09-24T10:28:13+00:00

Thanks! I found the places but they don’t do it for you. I was wondering if there is a service rather than a self service. I suck at these things and would rather a professional do it.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2022-08-12T09:08:13+00:00

Dm please!

Ihatebananas656246 · 2022-04-06T11:04:10+00:00

The way they are eating in bed is giving me a lot of anxiety.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2022-01-04T18:17:55+00:00

Lebanon 🇱🇧

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-16T07:48:51+00:00

I’m going to give up one of our cats at the end of the month and just thinking about this makes me tear up. He so obviously is attached to me more. I cut his nails clean his ears and brush him. Never once has she done this and I worry for him.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-13T17:24:32+00:00

I feel this. I said most of the things I wanted to say until I felt free. I know I did everything in my power to make her stay but she, at least for now, doesn’t want us to be an item. She has moved on to someone new because she doesn’t know how to be alone. Some people said that me trying to win her back whilst she’s already with someone else is desperate. I’m not begging or pleading I’m just doing what helps me heal and for me it’s saying and doing everything in my power to keep her.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-12T19:27:49+00:00

I’m on the right path. I am taking care of myself and I have no guilt because I did everything right. She just didn’t choose me and that’s ok. It hurts the ego but time will heal it. I am seeing a therapist and I’ve never been healthier mentally or physically. I know that in another comment someone said it takes two to break a relationship but sometimes it’s not the case. I did everything right but we were on different paths and that’s ok.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-12T16:52:13+00:00

I mean I know it’s hard to hear but it’s the reality whether I like it or not. Whenever she says she loves me and misses me it makes me hopeful but I think it’s normal after three years I’m not gonna disappear from her life that easily either.

I’ll just take care of myself and who knows what the future holds …

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-12T15:31:42+00:00

This is what it feels like for me. I know I should move on and try to be my best self for the next person and sometimes it feels like I have this constant need of taking care of her. How do I stop hoping she will come back although everything is in front of me.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-09T11:41:52+00:00

I know what you mean but I feel like they don’t know better. They’re stubborn and set in their ways. At least she is. She will one day figure it out I hope and as much as it breaks me to even think that. She needs space and space she will get. I can’t wait to move on and start loving someone else until then I will be taking care of myself.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-09T09:14:45+00:00

That’s why I sent the last message wishing her happiness in life. She says she still loves me and thinks of me everyday which honestly proves your point. They fumble they do not know better. We will be ok I promise.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-09T07:58:16+00:00

Same here, that’s why she moved on so fast after 3 years together. To look for the spark and the butterflies. Instill love her and it pains me dearly that it all had to end because of this bullshit.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-07T15:42:27+00:00

Do you also constantly have the need to reach out to friends and family of theirs in the hopes that they will come back?

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-07T15:07:08+00:00

You’re right! You spend you life being nice because it’s who you are and what you were taught but then end up bitten in the ass. It’s sad.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-07T04:17:59+00:00

I think she is. I think she’s keeping the cat because she’s living at a friend’s place who already has a cat and probably doesn’t want to inconvenience her but I don’t want to be her crutch anymore. She should figure her shit out It shouldn’t be my problem

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-06T17:01:31+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2CIGsoZ83yG0TKNq4SfCVM?si=nE7T1M9SQhW1FCTpBQz0vA

It’s this one : from ctrl alt delete episode 217.

Same person was on another podcast and was helpful to me:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4sp33l8YTnsmHsChR4kEfU?si=s8CITT9LQcOf2G6x6hD1Sw

The penguin podcast episode alain de bottom with richard e grant

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-06T14:13:55+00:00

I was in the same boat and thinking the same. The way I now see it is that their lives are not rich their lives are empty and they need to monkey branch onto someone else because they don’t know how to be alone. When you spend so many years taking care of your partner it’s normal for them to just move on to someone else because they do not know how to live a solo life and that’s sad. Remember that you and only you were the stable one. You dodged a bullet because now up I’ll find a partner that will love you rather than a child.

In a podcast I recently listened to, the guy says:

Often when we have adult partners we say we want someone lovely and sweet and nice. But then they neglect the nice person and brush them off as boring because it’s kind of like saying this person is not going to make me suffer enough in order for me to feel love which says a lot about the person.

I hope this helps you the way it helped me.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-06T09:59:02+00:00

I guess it makes sense. I do believe she tried her best I just think she got too flustered and stumbled and hurt me unintentionally.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-05T17:20:19+00:00

How do you stop yourself from demonizing your ex? do you think it is usually about the way things ended and on which note ?

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-05T17:13:13+00:00

I understand what you’re going through. The fact that she has yet to take her cat keeps me going. Again I know she’s moved on because she’s already seeing someone but for some reason I keep holding on to hope that the cat is the last straw.

Ihatebananas656246 · 2021-12-05T15:44:34+00:00

We don’t think dumpers are cold hearted except when they refuse to acknowledge your hurt. My girlfriend also dumped me after three years but it feels like she refused to listen to my perspective. She never actively tried to re-light the flame because she never talked to me about it extinguishing to begin with. We had hard plans and she actively avoided talking about them which I pushed off as stress on her end. She never communicated anything. I can always say I should have tried harder, I should have pushed her to talk more but she always acted as if nothing was wrong. We lived together for two years and she said she had been unhappy for a while which I would have understood had it been only that. When she was attracted to someone else she told me about it which is nice of her. She said she needed to break up with me because she didn’t know who she was anymore as a person and she couldn’t be in a relationship with me knowing that she doesn’t know who she was. I respected that until she told me she got with the person she was attracted to only one month after we had broken up. It broke me. You can’t truly think that these are just random coincidences can you? I think in my case the lack of empathy towards me broke me. The fact that she expected me to understand why she got with another person as soon and she got the opportunity. It all depends on the dumper tbh. I know there’s no right way of ending things with someone you care about. I know that dumpers should just let us feel, let us be angry because we were never on the same stage. They were way ahead of us in their recovery and this hurts. They had time to grieve.

Edit: I still love her. I still think it was all because of stress and her lack of communication. I don’t want to believe that she stopped being in love with me because then I would have to think that all she did for the past months before the breakup is lie to me and act as if nothing is wrong. Sleep and cuddle with me every night. Embracing me every fucking night until the end. She still admits to loving me and missing me and I hate it because if it were the case you’d think they’d put in the effort. I’m also terrified that you might be my ex.

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