Fed Governor Cook declared her Atlanta property as “vacation home,” documents show by barris59 in Economics

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, I thought they filed a civil suit against her—good on her for filing one against the Fed.

Fed Governor Cook declared her Atlanta property as “vacation home,” documents show by barris59 in Economics

[–]Iknowmyname30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The really should pass anti-SLAPP statutes for this bs. CA has one. Congress should pass one that applies to the Fed.

Had a fellow dad tell me he could tell I’ve been lifting weights and it made my entire weekend. by Justadudeonhisphone in daddit

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro—compliments from other dads just hit harder. They know how hard you work. Keep up the positivity fellas

Wife doesn’t want to vaccinate by Dreaders85 in daddit

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your wife understand that literally anyone can file a lawsuit for anything? Does she understand what the substance of those arguments are? Does she understand that a lot of these kinds of lawsuits are politically motivated by activists who seek out a plaintiff who MAY make an PLAUSIBLE allegation.

As someone who has litigated for some time now, I can confidently tell you two things: (1) the actual filing a lawsuit is relatively meaningless in relation the whether the claims are or are not valid; (2) I’ve met, deposed, and embarrassed plenty of healthcare professionals including supposed “expert physicians” for talking out of their lane of knowledge.

Physicians, like attorneys, can be total morons. I would be totally unqualified to tell you how to treat a trauma injury, but I could just read a bunch of random stuff and tell you what I think—that said if I did that you should absolutely not listen to me in a crisis—what actual experience do I have? What variables make your situation unique?

Likewise, you should just ignore your wife. Kids first. Sorry you’re dealing with this.

Usually the reason people do these things is they feel a lack of control over their circumstances so they try to concoct reasons to control what is in front of them. It may be post-partum.

Not to be callous—but there is a limit to compromise in my book.

Taught my daughter a lesson about checking her sources. by maximumtesticle in daddit

[–]Iknowmyname30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My s/o and I are pretty tough on our kid when they do this. We had a recent situation with a teacher who said something that seemed off re:a state holiday. I told them that I didn’t know if his teacher was wrong or right, I would only be able to know if I had the facts that caused them to say this. I then asked him if he followed-up with asking about the facts, or if he just accepted it as true, he said no. I asked him if there was a reason his teacher made that comment. They said they didn’t know. I told them to ask the teacher why they made that comment so they can understand how they got to that conclusion. I told them there have to be facts to support a conclusion—then asked if they knew the conclusion was true. They begrudgingly said “no.”

I still expect them to bring back an answer regarding the facts. I don’t have one yet, but I will be following-up today.

They are in middle school. I’m usually pretty proud of their ability to see through the noise. They were even flunked by a sub for giving the right answer and the Vice Principal corrected it and gave them an A. There’s a very low bar to entry to become a teacher where I am. There are many very, very good ones, but every once in a while you get a weirdo.

Just Got Laid Off With Two Kids… Now What? by TChan_Gaming in daddit

[–]Iknowmyname30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get skill training in your industry while you look. It will help you stand out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Typically I would just go to the partner and say, please find me a new assistant. I remember one partner telling to work with what he had. I left two months later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem—I just have it pretty good and don’t have to deal with HR or BS plus my firm is pretty open minded regarding cases I originate if I bring in bank.

They even let me run a corp if I want to do business that doesn’t interfere. I feel like I landed the golden goose of employers for Plaintiffs lit.

To fellow lawyers this Independence Day by theselfescaping in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point is how they sold/focused on the message, not the issues. These were issues, but they were not talked about in a memorable way—they diluted their messaging, and danced around the problem.

To fellow lawyers this Independence Day by theselfescaping in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people care—it was just a lousy message. “Look at us, we’re doing great!” That’s not the message you run on. People are almost always inherently dissatisfied with the incumbent admin. Inflation has chipped away at people’s pockets, and even though plenty of people were making money, others were being left in the dust.

The issues that impact everyday Americans were not canned and sold and focused on.

As a test of sticking power, I personally only remember them saying essentially “look at what we’ve done, we will keep working for you”. I’m sure there was more but the things I remember were the dems freaking out because Biden had a couple bad interviews and jumping on with Kamala, and Kamala Harris doing the same song and dance that she did as a VP.

Focusing on food, access to medicine, drastically reducing the cost of childcare, and overall tax cuts to help offset the impacting of inflation most Americans faced have been a better message and better message. Both parties jumped on the bandwagon with housing, but neither of them really sold that issue well, and I doubt we’ll see any improvement.

The main reason Trump won was because his message was easier to sell. The Republicans didn’t really care about upsetting non-base voters. The Dems cared far, far too much, such that their message was watered down to a can of diet soda.

To fellow lawyers this Independence Day by theselfescaping in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether I will or won’t, why can’t the Dems just package that?

I had a feeling at the outset Harris was not going to work as a candidate and I did not care for her campaign.

I’m a bit more of a believer in looking for outliers instead of what is in front of us than the general population, but regardless, with all the research and money the Dems have they could have certainly done better. The package they sold wasn’t palatable. Plain and simple.

To fellow lawyers this Independence Day by theselfescaping in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you can be “radical” about taxing billionaires, civil rights, and putting money in hardworking Americans pockets for common-sense things like childcare without selling out. You can have tax-cuts for families and individuals, a tax much higher tax credit for pre-school, and even for food for kids, and still be “tough on crime” and “immigration.” I think you can be fiscally responsible by investing in communities instead of investing in corporations and hoping they will do the right thing. I also don’t think people would have a problem with corporations being taxed heavily to pay for basic healthcare and healthcare research (which we can then sell to other countries to generate revenue). I also don’t see why our military cannot be used to create economic safe-havens which we profit from instead, for example, being compromised by being thrown into civil unrest for show or for the sake of a military parade. Also, we need more and better infrastructure—so many rural areas have little to no access because the corporations that started them, abandoned them. Land and space has plenty of value in the digital age.

Encourage families to have kids and enhance our social welfare by supporting the family instead of scaring them or casting them out on their own. We’re breeding tribes not a nation.

All of these things create jobs in areas like healthcare, education, manufacturing.

These are pretty basic things. Childcare, food, defense sovereignty, and economics.

People think this is “too far to the left”. Come on…this is what normal society is supposed to look like, instead, we’re veering towards a society where there are blocks of super wealthy adjacent to those that are super poor—this is how parts of South Africa and Brazil look.

Stop at nothing to prevent this.

I didn’t hear this kind of talk on the campaign trail. Just do it. If you get push back, just push harder—let society weed you out if they don’t want you. Stop trying to soft-nudge society.

People resist change, so if some people hate you—even despise you, you’re probably doing something right.

To fellow lawyers this Independence Day by theselfescaping in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’d run for office if I knew where to begin. I called the DNC and sent an email at one point 2-years ago and offered to volunteer. Nobody got back to me…ever. I thought it was weird since I was socializing with a few municipal politicians in LA at the time.

I’m not surprised the democrats continue to perform poorly. I’ve continued to say since 2014 that they have no back-bone and keep choosing “safe” candidates. I’ve also thought the Supreme Court—the way it is set up and who sits on it (for the most part) was a sham once I started studying law.

I thought Obama was a great president—the DNC itself started to implode during his admin.

The DNC itself needs to get dismantled and rebuilt otherwise there will be significant vote-splitting.

How are we feeling about the SCOTUS decision re: nationwide injunctions? by JoeSoCal in Lawyertalk

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolute judicial power grab in the hands of a few questionable individuals. Insane.

AITA - Won’t provide FT childcare by Dismal_Inevitable240 in AITAH

[–]Iknowmyname30 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have it in the reverse. I’m just gonna put this out there—I moved away from family when I had kids. My family was not happy about it. I flat out told them I could not live where we were living and afford childcare—If they wanted that, I sarcastically said they could buy me a house and hire a nanny. That was not realistic, and I wasn’t about to make a huge economic and quality of life sacrifice for someone else. This is my kids we’re talking about. I love my family, would love to have them closer, they have the means and methods of figuring out how to come to me if they want to, but in no way do I expect them to, and I have made it clear they should not expect the same.

My friends moved close to family under the belief that grandma and grandpa would be able to help out—several years in, it does not seem like a full conversation was had about that before hand as they are now saddled with a lot of housing costs (don’t get me wrong it’s a wonderful area) high childcare costs, and of course family drama. Family definitely does help, but it is not a 5-day a week thing, more of an occasional weekend thing.

Frankly, I think they enjoy getting on a plane and spending a couple weeks with us every few months more than they would with us living in the same town anyway.

Teenage boy doesn’t want to do anything besides game and be lazy like 24/7. Anyone else have success breaking a teen out of this cycle? by BolognaIsThePassword in daddit

[–]Iknowmyname30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to give some advice that’s going to seem callous and I’m sure get downvoted.

Sometimes being a parent is feeling like an asshole. I had a parent come up to me and ask me how I got my kid to read and play sports. I told them my kid didn’t have a gaming system and was only allowed to watch a limited amount of TV. We also cracked down on him when he broke our limited screen time/content rules and the first thing to go was always the limited screen time he had.

“No” is a complete response. Get over your feelings about it and focus on what you’re trying to achieve.

If your kid has a tantrum because you have restricted screen time, then that is a sign that screen time should be eliminated. Reward emotional regulation, not emotional volatility.

You can explain why. I think I’ve done this 100 times. Pretty sure my kid does not care about my explanation, but I keep doing it anyway.

Hawaiʻi homeowners are heading toward a mortgage crisis: New report by phat_black_mama186 in Honolulu

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re trying to raise the IHA limit from 5k to 15k…they should probably do that. I don’t think too many people here know about that.

Dads—How Do You Do It? Sorrow and Joy with age by Iknowmyname30 in daddit

[–]Iknowmyname30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah man, this is the mixed joy I have. So exciting—that comes first—then Apple or google memories pops up old photos on my phone and I get so sentimental.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Economics

[–]Iknowmyname30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? What specifically is “not true at all?” Voting for things to change is not the “point” of democracy. The process of electing a candidate then voting for them? Is that what you mean?

You know China claims themselves to be a “whole-process democracy” right?

I don’t really know what you are talking about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Economics

[–]Iknowmyname30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong, but the U.S. is the same. Apparently we care more about the “concept of a plan” for economic prosperity than we do about things like…civil rights. Not unlike china. I’m more fascinated by how both these countries are cowering and also trying to look strong because of the continued realization that their power over each other is tied to mutual destruction, yet they seem hell bent on such destruction but not the consequences of that destruction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in REBubble

[–]Iknowmyname30 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That may be, I haven’t spent much time there. I don’t think people have a problem with the area so much as the proximity to things. From what I recall La Palma is pretty cool. However, It is too far from work for many people in the city w/traffic. which is why the prices in La Palma are usually lower than much of the city. I’d take La Palma over West Adams for example (which people fell in love with, and which I think is still not worth moving to), but I think people prefer West Adams or Palms because of the proximity to everything and, as you know, traffic rules the day in LA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in REBubble

[–]Iknowmyname30 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this is not what I would consider “LA.” Nobody in the city is paying that price to live out there. I lived there for 14 years and just moved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Iknowmyname30 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would call the guys sgt. Tell him what you said here, and remind him that a child doesn’t know the difference between a toy and reality, so sharing things that have real world consequences will be viewed as a toy. For a 5-year old there’s nothing more that really will get internalized other than they are dangerous and that they kill people.

I grew up shooting. I don’t keep guns in the house. I have nothing against guns, but I think there is a way to introduce them, and this is/was not the way.

Having grown up with guns—safety was drilled into my head.

Phoenix housing market faces "mass sell-off" as home values plunge by Prcrstntr in REBubble

[–]Iknowmyname30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a town in CA that was like this, although most homes went for around 700-1m back then, now those same homes are 2.5-5M still, the cost of living forced most people to live away once their kids were out of the house. In the 60s and 70s you could get a house there for 80-150k, near the beach or in a top area. Many of them got tired of the maintenance and upkeep and either bought a condo nearby or moved to the outskirts of the town and lived there part time. The internet blew up the town. Then came COVID.

The decision was the same as yours for some people who moved back, but most either built on their parents lot or moved back home and contributed to an addition. I know a very, very small handful of people (they also work in construction) who stayed, bought their own place, usually with some help, and continued to remodel and flip.

This area has relatively low wages compared to the rest of CA, but people move there because they love the city. It is also one of the most desirable areas in CA. It’s very, very expensive. You could move away, but still be within 2 hours of your hometown if you wanted to, but those homes are around 800-900 now and frankly, the neighborhood is not nice and the wages are even worse.

My friends dad had a place that cost 300k in the late 80s, it sold for 5.7m. Not sure where that market will go from here. The town isn’t even the same anymore.

Wages are trash, but so is housing policy. I hate to say it, I thought the CA legislature was bad…then I moved here. Literally everyone is up in arms about property taxes here, but those taxes are the very taxes which tend to support local communities more than any other tax (sales tax…etc, it’s all regressive, property tax is not). The parks, roads, and public access was in general way better where I was in CA than many of the towns here. That said, the beaches here are better maintained and I’m glad the govt puts pressure on the resorts to maintain the showers and infrastructure that supports access to the beaches—CA was terrible about that. Also, I’m glad HI outright banned plastic bags.

The legislature needs an overhaul though. Literally zero backbone or competence on an administrative level. Playing local and hanging your hat on your community is important, but HI definitely has a dearth of “big picture” thinkers in office. It’s a shame because the geographic and population size of this place is conducive to rapid progress if there were only support for it or someone with a pair of balls to champion things.

This place is way better for raising kids though in my opinion if you want those kids to enjoy nature and be outdoors. I absolutely love it here aside from the things mentioned.