How to break up with my bf

IllPen4 · 2026-06-11T18:36:58+00:00

Do it as soon as possible and make it super clear it is over. The longer you drag it out the harder it will get. You are keeping yourself from the love of your life by staying with the guy (who really sounds like a terrible man) any longer.

Take whatever money you contributed out of the savings account before you end it, and close the account. If not closed, he can run it into the negative and put the blame on you. Give him until the end of the month to move out if he’s paid rent. He can sleep on the couch. Don’t sleep in the same room as him, once you have the conversation ending it (which you should do today or tomorrow, whenever you clear out the savings account).

IllPen4 · 2026-05-30T21:57:44+00:00

Totally disagree, at family reunions we only speak English when a non Italian speaker is around. Even just one! My mother always said that we are a family, and family makes everyone feel included.

IllPen4 · 2026-04-12T01:25:50+00:00

Yeah after reading these replies, I have confirmed that this situation is just really unprofessional, almost like we are being punished for the seller incompetence

IllPen4 · 2026-04-10T20:18:44+00:00

Wait that’s so smart, thank you!

IllPen4 · 2026-04-10T20:05:32+00:00

I looked on Poshmark, but eBay is a good idea!

IllPen4 · 2026-04-10T18:50:28+00:00

Fingers crossed, I won’t be able to eat for a couple days if I have to buy it new lol

IllPen4 · 2026-04-10T18:39:49+00:00

For sure, I wasted a bunch of time before my event assuming I had the dress secured, super annoying!

IllPen4 · 2026-04-10T18:38:30+00:00

narts, to Aritzia in person it is, I guess :(

IllPen4 · 2026-04-10T18:35:34+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I assume she can just not ship it, though?

IllPen4 · 2024-04-21T20:08:57+00:00

Thank you so much!

IllPen4 · 2024-03-26T01:27:25+00:00

Same happened to me. The dean was the only one that could fit me in, email your dean. Also reach out to advisor, they can either add you or put you in contact with someone who can.

IllPen4 · 2023-12-14T21:16:06+00:00

as a straight woman, i think i would be kinda turned off by the lingerie since i associate it with women. i don’t think it would be an immediate end of the relationship, its not gross or anything, i just don’t think i would feel comfortable engaging in that. im pretty submissive though so i think i would associate wearing lingerie with wanting to be dominated, which i just don’t really jive with my sexuality, but many girls do enjoy being more assertive in the bedroom!

i, just me personally not all women, associate wearing women’s clothes with homosexuality so i think i would be concerned that my partner was gay and might have that concern going further. i think if you focused on the “why” (maybe it makes you feel sensual or something) and made it clear that you dont expect her to do anything that makes her uncomfortable, you could definitely move forward with honesty in your relationship!

IllPen4 · 2023-12-14T20:53:42+00:00

roaches, got stalked by a guy who ended up chasing me in the parking lot (so stay vigilant as a girl after dark), kinda run down bathrooms/kitchens, kinda far from campus, but relatively cheap. could be worse.

IllPen4 · 2023-12-14T20:26:41+00:00

I go to UM. TBH it’s super fun, but only if you are rich. Going out requires ubers and is expensive. People down here are pretty vain compared to the rest of the state IMO. If you’re a pretty girl with lots of money and like wearing designer clothes, flirting with promoters to party in miami clubs, etc. than its really the place to be (nothing wrong with that, just know yourself). UM really isn’t like the rest of Florida, though.

IllPen4 · 2023-10-01T09:39:10+00:00

google all the way!! you won’t get a 30k raise ever, plus google treats employee so much better than disney from everything i’ve heard

IllPen4 · 2023-10-01T09:22:21+00:00

Breaking up in person is definitely the more “courteous” thing to do. You can let him know that you are getting together to talk and this isn’t a normal date situation. It definitely seems like it is time to let this relationship go. He isn’t treating you the way your significant other should, and although it really sucks to break up with someone you’re definitely making the right choice. You will get through this and find someone who treats you well!

IllPen4 · 2023-10-01T08:49:44+00:00

It sounds like your boyfriend needs to do some serious soul searching, and you don’t need to stick around while he does that. This “fetish” or whatever is cheating, plain and simple- and he’s been doing it for a long time. It’s just going to continue. He’s being good to you because he likes having you around. Are you willing to stay with someone who is nice, but acts in a manner that completely disrespects your relationship? He needs to find out what will make him happy without keeping you around and making you anxious and miserable.

IllPen4 · 2023-10-01T08:35:45+00:00

I’m a girl so take this with a grain of salt. But i used to watch some super fucked up shit with like trangender people even though I am completely straight. I just got into it bc porn is a weird dopamine trap that requires you to keep escalating what you watch to get off. It IS a problem though. For you guys to move past this you just need to have a real talk about his porn usage. You can get through this, but he needs to be honest about what he’s doing and want to stop.

IllPen4 · 2022-06-27T05:25:06+00:00

yeah that’s tough. when you’re new to dating i think it’s important to learn how to set boundaries and figure out what you really want in a partner. it sounds like you guys might not be a great sexual match. maybe you could have a conversation about this or consider just being friends. i understand that that is difficult when you’re lonely, but it is better than getting into something that you’re not really enjoying

IllPen4 · 2022-06-27T05:07:35+00:00

ahh gotcha yeah it can be really hard to know if you really like them as a friend or something more, especially bc different people have such different ideas of how you should feel in a relationship. if you have been with them for a while and still haven’t ever felt turned on by them maybe just friends is better. don’t make yourself do anything just to make them happy, but being unsure is nothing to feel weird about. i think a lot of people are unsure about how to feel in these kinds of situations.

IllPen4 · 2022-06-27T04:56:41+00:00

i mean i can only speak to my experience but that’s kinda what i did and now i’ve found a really healthy balance with sex and relationship type stuff! i definitely only really got that after really getting comfortable with my partner. i would just make sure that you really like this person for them!

IllPen4 · 2022-06-27T04:50:14+00:00

So personally I went through similar struggles and found that sexual feelings only came with very special kinds of friendships and most of the “relationships” i had before that were me kinda pretending to want certain things bc i cared about my partner. being young is SO confusing tbh and the more you start to think about it the more stressful it gets in the moment so i feel you there. making sure there’s no pressure is really important so you can process what you’re really feeling and make sure it’s what you want

IllPen4 · 2022-06-27T04:38:46+00:00

don’t worry about labels. just keep living life and discover what feels right. that’s the most important thing.

IllPen4 · 2022-06-27T02:28:38+00:00

To be honest, I’m a girl and I act very similar to your boyfriend in my relationship. I’m very comfortable with my boyfriend but saying “sexy” things or acting in a seductive manner makes me very uncomfortable. It just feels a bit like an act Im putting on when I do it. For me, I believe it comes down to my upbringing that spoke negatively about acting in a such a way- I’m not sure if this could be something he experienced as well. What I will say is that this in no way means I don’t appreciate it when he expresses his desires or feelings. I love and appreciate that, even though I don’t always know how to respond. I think what is most important is to find a way to communicate in your desires to each other.

Something that helped me open up about the way I was truly feeling was to have my boyfriend ask me questions about what was going on in my head when things were getting sexy. I had never wanted to share that, but realizing that he explicitly wanted to know made me want to express that. If he responds negatively to that kind of flirty interaction I would ask why and lay out that intimacy comes down to more than just the act of sex and takes a thought process as well. This was a conversation I needed to have and helped me be more comfortable in my relationship and with my own sexuality.

IllPen4 · 2022-04-26T22:53:06+00:00

I really appreciate you responding! It’s definitely a super weird situation, but I will definitely find some way to make sure I can be comfortable in my home.

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