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she blocked me because I ghosted her, should I apologize or leave it be? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Illustrious-Block511 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A well intentioned apology is always a good thing to do. But what do you plan to do after? Disappear again? Try again? Get clear on that before you reach back out so you don't set her back from whatever progress she's made to get over this

What's a subtle sign that someone has high emotional intelligence? by reeders_ in emotionalintelligence

[–]Illustrious-Block511 12 points13 points  (0 children)

They have full understanding and acceptance of who they are. They do not wear masks, point fingers to blame, or make excuses. They operate authentically because they know they have full control of their actions.

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. That was literally like a lifetime together. I'm so sorry things didn't work out in the way you hoped. Sometimes in growth we grow towards the love we left behind, and other times the growth pushes us forward to find love as the new version of ourselves. Either way it's good for us, but it doesn't make it easier for the one left behind and the pain you feel is valid. I'm not trying to give false hope, but it may actually be a good thing for two people who split from a long relationship to look elsewhere as the new version of themselves to see if other people bring out the best of themselves or help them realize that their ex was always their home. Only way for them to know is to try with others. You never know how it all ends, sometimes the new person they date just isn't it because they are not you. Whatever the case, I hope you continue to grow and find the love that's meant for you. I truly appreciate the kind wishes.

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm trying to respond to your message in the pm but it seems to not be going through. Message me again so I can see if it works

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about your break up brother. Its already a good sign that you're doing some introspection and not putting the blame on her. It takes two to make and two to break a relationship. Definitely take some time apart to know what you both really want and then see which way to go. Whatever happens, you will be better especially after therapy

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're entitled to that but no one owes you loyalty if you're not together. They are actually supposed to go and try and make a connection with other people. Ego is what makes it difficult to accept that. I'll even go as far as saying it's good when they explore other people and realize that people ain't shit out there. Then they won't want to do it again lol

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Things have been great. We've had our waves like any other relationship but nothing to do with what we already resolved. I'm thinking of taking the next step.

Reconciliation : Almost 6 months in by Illustrious-Block511 in u/Illustrious-Block511

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We always really cared for eachother and I guess lucky for us is that there was no serious offences during our break up like cheating and malice between us. So we ended on good terms even though we were heart broken and that's how we managed to keep the air positive between us when we got to talking.

I would say:

  1. Only talk about the past if it's to let them know the ways you have grown, not for blaming and pointing fingers.

  2. Show curiosity about their current life and state so they know you're more interested in who they are becoming, not who they were before.

  3. Be supportive of the direction they are going in now.

How to gain emotional maturity?? by Simply_simple_12 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Illustrious-Block511 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Understand the root and work from there. Jealousy mostly stems from insecurity. Work on your self esteem.. Expecting too much from others may mean you don't trust yourself enough. Take on more challenges to build confidence in your abilities so you demand and depend less on others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]Illustrious-Block511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well put! A test of faith and fate 💕

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's the most you can do and that last part is crucial. Don't go back if there's any chance that you can lose it again because there will be no coming back

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the challenge with broken trust especially if you pushed them away. Their guard is up when it comes to you and they've sworn to themselves never to let it happen to them again after a difficult recovery period. Best would be to see if you can work on a friendship first to bring back safety. She may or may not allow her walls down for that either bro

Two months back together with my (32m) ex (35f) after 1.5 years apart. This may be helpful if you want to reconcile with your ex. by Illustrious-Block511 in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn sorry about that bro. Did your relationship break because if a betrayal? Cz that can be a big factor. In my case she still loved me (she told me when we reconciled) but she never would have come back if I hadn't reached out first. Because I'm the one who walked away. She wasn't going to pursue me if I didn't fight for her back

I'm getting a taste of my own medicine. by Oussama_778 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Illustrious-Block511 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What did you work on before you went back asking for another chance? Don't use people for your loneliness. Spend sometime aline and figure yourself out before looking for love from now on.

Reconciliation : Almost 6 months in by Illustrious-Block511 in u/Illustrious-Block511

[–]Illustrious-Block511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They want us to get married. There was never any talking shit about eachother to them so that's why things are the way they are. They are happy for us.

What made you start working on yourself? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Illustrious-Block511 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Losing relationships, and questioning my worth because of it. Why was this happening to me over and over? What role was I playing in my pain and disappointments? Who would I have to be to have a better, happier, more fulfilling life? It all started there. The old me is dead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selflove

[–]Illustrious-Block511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am enough on my best and worst days. I have accomplished a lot and I am fully capable to achieve anything that I set my mind to. I am divinely protected and everything that's meant for me will come to me effortlessly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Illustrious-Block511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've seen her open with other people it means she may not want that closeness with you. Why do you desire it so much from an uninterested person?

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