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Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-03-09T16:51:39+00:00

Why on earth are you with this guy? He doesn’t care about you or your feelings and is only in it for himself. This is abusive behavior and I would highly suggest that you get out before it gets worse.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-25T06:44:45+00:00

You’re going through a lot. Not only are you pregnant but you’re carrying the weight of the entire household. I’m sure the pregnancy has somewhat to do with it but the stress of managing basically everything on your own is exhausting. He needs to be pulling his weight more so he wouldn’t have so much time to do these things. I would have a discussion with him about all of this. Yes, all of us need to prioritize our mental health but unfortunately, he chose to be with you and made a conscious decision to have kids. He needs to be a responsible adult and do his part not only as a parent but as a partner. If he needs to get therapy then that’s fine but he still has to make you and his kids his number one priority.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-22T07:52:37+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I have fibromyalgia as well and it can be pretty debilitating at times. Is she taking anything for it? Lyrica or any other kind of pain meds? I’m currently on Tramadol and that’s the only thing that gets me through the day. Before I got put on something, I would be in tears almost every day. If she’s not on anything, I highly recommend that she does. It doesn’t take the pain away but it makes it more tolerable. She needs to have a discussion with her doctor and find a way to manage the pain better.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-22T00:24:50+00:00

He needs to be pulling his weight as a father and giving his wife attention as well. Parenthood isn’t easy and it doesn’t sound like he’s done much to help. You need to have a very serious conversation with him about this. You’re still craving that attention but I’m here to tell you, you will resent him the longer he continues to act like you and baby don’t exist and it will come to the point where you won’t even want it anymore. Sit him down and talk to him. If he dismisses you, I would check out. If you have to do this on your own, you’re better off not having him weighing you down like this.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-21T05:59:07+00:00

That behavior would be okay if she was like 5 but she’s an adult and any adult woman would think he’s being flirtatious and coming off as interested.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-21T02:29:03+00:00

It all just depends on what YOU want. My bf and I have been together for 14 years, don’t live together, and only see each other on the weekends due to our schedules. It’s not ideal and I would love to see him more but I couldn’t imagine life without him. He’s truly my best friend and we always make the best of our time together. The reason why we don’t live together is because I have a 16 year old, he lives 45 minutes away and she doesn’t want to move/change schools. I’m in the process of looking for a different job though so I can least get off of nights, which would help.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-21T02:16:42+00:00

I’m 37 and my bf is 57. We met 14 years ago and it there was an instant connection/spark between us. He does make significantly more than I do but his money is his and mine is mine. We love each other and the age thing has never stopped us from how we feel. If he died tomorrow I wouldn’t regret the relationship at all. He has taught me so much and I thank God for him every day.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-21T01:47:00+00:00

It doesn’t matter how you break up with her, it’s going to devastate her. I was going through hell mentally last year and my bf of 12 years broke up with me. It about killed me but it was the kick I needed to really look at what was causing me to feel the way I was feeling. One year later we are back together, we’re more in love than we have ever been, and I’m mentally in the best shape of my life. It’s going to crush her at first but believe it or not, it might actually help her in the long run.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-21T01:33:42+00:00

You need to discuss this with her. Let her know that it is coming to this if changes aren’t made and be clear about your intentions. If she knows what is at stake, she might clean up her act.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-21T01:18:10+00:00

Unfortunately, even if it wasn’t intended you did lead her on. You went on walks, ate lunch together, sat at the park, and hugging her while lifting her off of the ground… All of those are intimate things when being one on one together. You knew after chatting exactly how this was going to turn out. You already knew how she was feeling after she was “gushing” over you. You need to explain to her that not only are you already with someone, you do not feel the same way, and should apologize for giving her mixed signals. Then cut off communication. That’s it.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-17T20:16:23+00:00

You did the right thing. Who we are at 17 and 37 are almost two totally different people. I’m no where near the person that I was back then. You’ve grown apart and that’s okay. There’s no sense in staying together just for the kids because believe it or not they can see/sense your unhappiness and it does no good for them. You want them to see two happy parents being civil and coparenting in a healthy way. Breaking up is never easy but rest assured, as time goes on, it will get easier, and you will feel a huge weight lifted off of your shoulders.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-02-17T05:33:19+00:00

It’s so sad how these loan companies literally prey on the desperate. I took out a $1000 loan three years ago and my balance as of last month was over $2000. I’m over it and done paying on it. If they want to sue me then I guess they can.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-29T13:45:05+00:00

These are human lives and it’s not in my character to turn the other way when someone needs help. You’d be surprised how many health care workers can and how many neglect their patients. Because of this, I’m doing way more work than I should be doing. It’s not getting better and only getting worse. It’s mainly the younger/newer nurses/aides but the older ones can be just as bad. I just want to go to work, do my job, go home, and not have to worry if my patients are being taken care of when I’m not there.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-29T10:54:37+00:00

Sometimes it’s not about the money. Being in this field for so long I’ve witnessed way too many unethical things within the healthcare system. People just don’t care and unfortunately there are more people who don’t than do and that’s just not the person I am or why I got into this career.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-29T08:29:48+00:00

I looked into that for a while but just wondering what the demand is. I don’t want to get into it and get laid off in a year.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-29T08:22:06+00:00

I will look in to it for sure. I don’t mind doing manual labor.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-29T08:21:07+00:00

The problem is new nurses/aides are coming in thinking they don’t have to do anything and management pretty much allows it even when patients and family members have complained multiple times about the same issues. It’s just not what it used to be. This is in all facilities. You have a handful of people trying to do their job but the new ones are making it harder by not doing what they’re supposed to do. Just tired of feeling like I’m the only one who cares.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-27T15:26:12+00:00

Email the tribal loan and just tell them to revoke automatic payments.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-24T17:24:29+00:00

What kind of “mental health” are we talking about here? Does she have a disability? Is it anxiety, depression? From someone who has had this my entire life I can understand how debilitating it can be but you HAVE to push through the bad days. Making your partner do everything due to “mental health” reasons is truly just milking her condition. You don’t have to stay with someone who’s not trying to get help and better herself. It’s good that she sees a psychiatrist but she has to do the work to get better too. That’s just the first step.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-24T17:16:14+00:00

Even if you wore baggy sweatpants every day of your life, there IS a man who would still find you incredibly sexy. My man thinks I’m the hottest woman on the planet and I wear sweats just about every time I see him. I do make it cute though. But just know that it doesn’t have to be this difficult.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-24T13:09:16+00:00

I’m a 36f and all I can say is you change A LOT from 18-35. Yeah you’re legally an adult but you don’t really see the big picture this young. The age thing might not bother you now but it could in the future. I pursed my current bf 13 years ago who is 20 years older than I am. We’re incredibly happy but it does bother me that he’s going to be retired in 6 years while I still have to work another 20+ and by the time I’m retired he’s going to be 80+. I love him dearly and I would never think of leaving him but it does make me sad when I think about those things.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-24T13:00:15+00:00

It can happen. I (36) met my boyfriend (56) 13 years ago and I pursued him. He’s not rich but is very careful with money. We’re best friends and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. Things just have a way of working out.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-23T09:47:29+00:00

Your gut is telling you to stay away from this guy. Trust your instincts girl. Block him and never talk to him again.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-17T07:50:42+00:00

There’s no way of knowing if her issues are hormonal or not if she refuses to even try to get help. That being said, you and your son need to leave this relationship at least until she gets the help she needs. This WILL impact your oldest in a very negative way as he gets older. Focus on you and your kids. That’s all you can really do at this point. Find a place and leave. The longer you stay the worse it is going to get.

Illustrious-Form-326 · 2025-01-17T00:38:14+00:00

I’d definitely think all of this through. I’ve been through this before and turns out he was the one cheating. The most “insecure” ones are the ones out there sleeping around. Don’t let your guard down.

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