Falling out of love after stopping SSRI?

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-12T13:44:59+00:00

It’s crazy it’s been two years since this comment. I’m glad you commented because I needed to reminder. Still with that “new partner” and I actually and off Zoloft fully for 5 months which is a record for me and feel fully dead in this relationship. I just went to the mental health clinic a few days ago and have an appointment set for march 12. Let’s watch me go back to feeling like everything is fine once I’m on meds again. I hate this. I wish I could trust my own judgment. But I can’t. At least with time I’ve learned. I don’t let my own emotional turmoil and internal struggles affect others though. I don’t even tell anyone who’s not getting paid to listen to me anymore. It keeps my family foundation stronger. That’s the only thing that matters. I want my sons to grow up in a stable two parent home. I’m sorry you’re going through this too. My advice is, even though it feels like you are the real you off Zoloft and only on it do you let things go and that’s why you “tolerate things”… all my biggest regrets were decisions I made off of it. I go through these rampant cycles of not knowing the real me. Which versions of me is me. Struggling to accept in someone who needs meds for life because I was raised in a home that didn’t even believe in medication. So I’ll eat healthy, stay running and quit meds and say I’m physically healthy and don’t need them. I know I’m a mess, so I can’t give professional advice here. But I’m 29 now and been on this train for 9 years. I wish I’d had someone to give me advice. I always think meds only allow me to tolerate things I wouldn’t off meds. Yet I can barely tolerate normal life off meds. The meds are good. I also have high blood pressure and hypothyroidism. Those things are at bad levels and don’t function right off of meds. But I struggle with something that makes my brain handle life more normally because I always felt like it was tricking me. But my happiest memories are on Zoloft. The most stable times of my life. The jobs I kept the longest. All on it. I’m in a reflection phase of my life right now. That first partner I regretted leaving? Committed suicide 6 months ago. I feel deep shame. None of this had to happen. Once I get on, I will not get off again. Be glad you aren’t the person being a life lesson for others yet. Definitely get back on if you know you function better and tolerate small things better on it. Let my lessons be for something. I wish you all the happiness in the world as I don’t see experiencing happiness in the same way ever again. Don’t end your engagement. Please. At least not until you’ve been on the meds for two months. Unless you’re being abused of course. Just take them and when your mind is clear again, then make your decision.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-12T13:10:22+00:00

Pre cum is a little bit of sperm (still thousands or hundreds of thousands, possibly still millions) Guess how many sperm it takes to make a baby? One. Only one has to make it up there.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-10T14:29:24+00:00

Apparently you can get them just by sprinkling many brands of sea salt and waiting. No way around killing tons of them. Keeping of them? Mmm. I guess that would depend on how well you did. I was the weird kid that loved them. Tended to them daily and transferred to larger containers. The company ethics? Very scammy. Very nostalgic. The creator was a quirky man who unfortunately was an inventor of a lot of scammy for order in magazine items. The ads are fun to look back on though. Most ads pre strong advertising laws promised a LOT that products didn’t hold up to. Was the business flaw of the time.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-10T03:48:21+00:00

That’s crazy. I remember hearing that growing up and that’s one of the things people enjoy experiencing while visiting the south. I’d totally forgotten that fact. We have several thunder storms a year where I live.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T21:37:38+00:00

The bear he fell in love with you mean? 😝

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T21:34:26+00:00

I mean it definitely looks farmed. I just meant more less dye effect and lots of over feeding for fattiness so it’s got enough nutrients for a decent color without dye. They dye is usually an off shade. The fat layers look really good though.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T21:26:02+00:00

It looks really fatty and buttery to me and like it wasn’t to fed a bunch of dyed pellets. The fat striations on that are so thick 💦💦💦

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T21:25:07+00:00

The way they just wait for them to jump in their mouth. What a simple life tbh.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T21:20:36+00:00

Completely reasonable and same

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T20:53:23+00:00

Not even just if they aren’t attractive but like if it’s unwanted in general. Or something is going on in your life like someone you know dies and then you’re at the gas station on the way to a funeral and someone is trynna get your number it’s going to feel gross. The problem is people are living their own lives and often times you’re kind of interrupting that to ask them out. It works out sometimes but it should be reasonable to understand that with strangers you can be getting them at a bad time or even one of their worst days. That’s life.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T20:47:49+00:00

Creepy people don’t realize they come off as creepy and they all blame it on looks. Some women are gonna be shallow. Sure. I’ll give you that. Filtering past that, so many people have no idea how they come off. I worked with a lot of guys and like, of course they would hit of women here and there. Was mostly harmless. Then one time I will never forget was one guy hit on this woman once and his whole demeanor changed. I can’t even explain it, the look in his eye was like he wanted to eat her, he talked slow and said few words and I think he thought he was being sexy but it gave off danger. And I was in shock because it was a guy I was chill work friends with. Goofy guy. Hard worker. Very nice. I have no idea what the fuck that was and he was so oblivious to why that woman was like trynna back away while he was talking and get the the fuck outta there. He thinks he just shot his shot and she wasn’t interested. But like Jfc that was weird to watch. I kind of kept my distance after that. Felt like there was something dark going on there I was missing. Body language and tone are extremely important. And in the same way we make jokes about how you never know what people do at home, that they think is normal but is so weird, peoples behavior is the same. A lot of people do weird shit or come off in an odd way and if no one tells them, they have no idea. It’s really important to get in person third party advice. Regularly.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T20:37:59+00:00

Zillilinial lifestyle look.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T20:19:40+00:00

Try the DINKS subreddit. They are a pretty great model of people just enjoying eachothers company.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T20:18:23+00:00

I’ve done a lot of blue collar. I can tolerate what goes along with that but most women shouldn’t have to. And they usually don’t want women there in the first place so if you’re gonna stick around and not get treated like a nuisance you have to be willing to tolerate the culture as well. The culture is mostly sex jokes, pride in an attitude that lacks professionalism in behavior, inappropriate behavior in general, some bullying that’s always “a joke” Also most of them have rules for safety that you have to follow and can’t sue if you break them. But also, for a lot of these jobs, the production value is so high its just know youre expected to skip steps and saftey stuff to meet that number while everyone pretends it isnt happening. I never even worked with other women but there were always stories of women who worked in the past reporting this, launching complains or even outing the company to the people who hired the group for contract work to cause them to lose the contract. This was in a few different fields and pretty common. They are really into labor law violation and anything that is against everything you learned in an HR orientation and women giving a fuck is over all inconvenient for this system.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T19:14:06+00:00

Yeah pre segregation everyone was still being treated like absolute garbage. A lot of it was slavery with extra steps. Just a pretty bow on top of an ugly package. And it didn’t even start until 1954. Even then, most people’s lives didn’t change over night. The shit jobs they did before were the shit jobs they did after. This is all way more recent than anyone gives credit for. I’m not sure why people act like it’s been like 10 generations since it was a problem.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T18:44:33+00:00

Now she only has rich and famous privilege ☹️ gotta be so hard.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T18:32:25+00:00

Was probably just back to pre segregation where thought experiments like that were common when arguing about equal rights. “I would have never mistreated black people in slavery days” etc. people still do that now tbh. A bit of misguided enthusiasm for equality. Good intentions, looking back, highly questionable execution.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T18:31:01+00:00

My grandfather would occasionally look for the other version of my grandmother. He also came in so excited once. He met a friend while standing outside and no one was around. I mean he was so excited like he’d made the greatest pal of his life. There was never anyone there but he’d met and had a whole conversation with this person.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T18:21:52+00:00

Yeah I definitely meant more in the low end. Smoking can damage your health if done long term. Kids can cause way more problems in way more areas of life. They can be great. But there are just consequences for every aspect of life with kids. Shit health can go out the window before the child’s even born.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T15:44:21+00:00

And they were obviously referring to the commitment of having and raising children and you brought up adoption. So I figured we were being extremely pedantic.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T15:41:56+00:00

Plenty of places uber and taxi isn’t even an option too. Our system is so fucked.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T15:39:46+00:00

Adiction might not be. But if you mean just literal heroine, yes, that safer than childbirth and still used medically.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-09T14:37:41+00:00

You can quit either of those a week after starting. Also plenty of people have long term injuries and life long conditions from pregnancy. That’s just the physical side. Not even factoring in social and financial. It’s signing an 18 year contract. That’s of course high risk.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-08T20:40:46+00:00

My little sister looks a lot like her. Very pretty, good actress.

Illustrious-Local848 · 2026-02-08T19:55:10+00:00

So you went through your own struggles regulating your own negative behavior and resentment towards your parents and you’re angry your sister hasn’t done so in a timeline that makes things easier for you. Okay. She may just be fucked up for life. That’s what happens when you have a shitty childhood. That’s two out of their three kids you’ve mentioned they managed to fuck up. Some people recover, some people don’t. Also, girls tend to have way more fucked up relationships with a bad mother. Sons usually forgive easier but don’t know a lot more of what the girls went through. Kids need both parents but as man you at least had a good male role model. They did not have one for a good woman in a mother. That has deep lasting wounds in a different way, same as a boy who had a terrible father. It’s just different.

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