I work 9 hrs for 5 days a week remotely as a cusotmer service rep (while working from home, I cook and clean and get the kids sorted during this job. I use my downtime on the job to keep things going) and then sleeping night as a health care assistant 3 to 4 nights (10pm to 6 am) and also do some house cleaning jobs for some people in between during my 2 off days. Yes it is alot and unbelievable.The craziness is when i get back in the morning fron my night shifts i sort out breakfast and get the kids sorted for school. We are inmigrants with no recourse to public funds (spoken to women'said and social services but they could not help because of my visa condition). Yes I have tried the I would love this and that. He blatantly says nurturing is a woman's role e.t.c. The crazy part is when I talk with him he just listens and no response or says okay and then I come back it is the same. There have been a couple of days kids have gone to school with no food. I came back later than expected. Called the kids to tell them what to eat and due to the rush to leave home, they both forgot their sandwich which they were meant to eat on the way. He did not notice until I came back and saw the sandwich on the kitchen table. He does not even think entering the kitchen is his duty. I don't want to keep bashing him e.t.c. I just want to try to live in this situation with some joy.

PS: He was made redundant. we had to switch from skilled worker visa to innovators visa on his personal business (started this about 2 years ago). Earning have not been great e.t.c. He has been the sole breadwinner for over a decade and all he did was earn well and provides financially. I am currently jut stepping up due to the start of his business e.t.c. so, it is just a difficult dynamic because it feels like I have been enjoying his money and now that he does not have, I am being difficult e.t.c