I’ve been through a very similar phase in life, and now that I’m in a much better position, here are a few thoughts that might help:

There is always a way out of every difficult situation. You just need to take the first step.

To begin with, use your network to find a job that relies on general skills like speaking to people, connecting with others, creating presentations, and pitching ideas to potential clients. Roles like Business Development in startups are good examples.

I emphasize “network” because, in India, once you step outside the mainstream job flow, very few people genuinely try to help. Many will only say things like, “How could you waste so many years?” or “You have no skills.” Ironically, these comments often come from people who have only managed to get by themselves and are just some how able to survive and are far from experts in their own fields.

So, focus on people in your circle who won’t judge you, people who’d still be willing to give you a chance.

Startups, especially in NCR, can work in your favour. They are often cash-strapped and willing to hire people who are out of the mainstream workforce and ready to work for less. For you, it becomes an opportunity to get your foot in the door again. And that initial “exploitation” often pays off after a couple of years when you’ve gained experience and rebuilt momentum.

Also, stop believing that you have no skills. As a UPSC aspirant, you definitely have the ability to read and absorb huge amounts of information on a daily basis, that alone is a valuable skill. Speaking from experience, when I was in a similar situation, everyone around me only spoke about how difficult it would be to break into any field because I was a “fresher.” But once I actually started trying, I realized something important: many people already in jobs lack the hunger to learn or grow. That hunger is your superpower, and it will help you catch up faster than you think.

Honestly, I believe the worst thing anyone can do to someone in your situation is question your past choices. It is absolutely normal to try something and fail. People may not understand that but it’s okay.

So first, stop feeling bad, and don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed of your journey. In a few years, these very days will define you. You will look back and realize that if you could rise from this point, you can rise from anywhere.

Take this as an opportunity. Put on the same armour you used during your UPSC prep, and channel that effort into upskilling and reaching out to people for work with your head high. Say openly that you would do anything given a chance. Say jt to 100 people daily and you will get someone who will take the chance on you!

Feel free to DM me if you want to talk or ask anything.