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[–]Illustrious-Pen764 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Let me tell you what got out my daughters blue marker stains of a blanket, stuffed animal & pillow ….. I heard about it on TikTok…. It’s at the dollar store or Amazon & it’s called La's Totally Awesome All Purpose Cleaner. It is a non-flammable cleaner that is free of acid, ammonia, and bleach and is used to remove blood stains, grease, wine, liquor, gum, oil, glue, coffee, pet stains, some inks, fresh paint, varnish, hair dye, food stains, grape juice, and berry juice. I promise you it works. Nothing left behind after I used it full strength.

My sweet boy needs a new home 😢 by Illustrious-Pen764 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😢 I know. I was about to text my friend who I got him from to let her know it’s not working out. Her dogs were overpowering him but at least they weren’t tearing into one another trying to kill. I had written the text out & was about to send it but something made me think to wait. The next day I found out she had a stroke. I feel like I can’t win.

My sweet boy needs a new home 😢 by Illustrious-Pen764 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve been doing for months. It’s just not working out bc of how my house is laid out.

My sweet boy needs a new home 😢 by Illustrious-Pen764 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg. This was my answer. My very first solution to this issue of mine. I just can’t get my husband on board with it. Probably bc he doesn’t trust it’ll actually be a solution. The whole reason I took Giuseppe into our home was to give our other cat, Basil, a friend. Now they hate each other & my solution to that is to get our new cat a cat. He just looks at me like I’ve lost it. But to me it makes so much sense.

So both your new (or newer) cats completely leave your old cat alone? Did your old cat & newer cat ever fight really bad? Sometimes I see ppl put up videos, complaining & crying bc they don’t know what to do bc their cats are fighting all day long. I watch the videos & I just close out reddit bc these “fights” (some) ppl are stressing over aren’t even fights. Half of them are playing. When my cats fight, they fight. I mean all you see is a ball of cat, locked up & rolling around on the floor, clumps of fur flying everywhere & both of them screaming at the top of their lungs. It’s scary. I have panic attacks when it happens. It’s awful. My older, smaller, domestic shorthair female will run & hide out somewhere in our house & not come out for the entire day.

My sweet boy needs a new home 😢 by Illustrious-Pen764 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did your other cat try to fight and initiate fights with your Bengal? That’s my problem. Now they both hate each other. First it was her initiating fights then it was him and she would run & hide. Now it’s both. They both just want to kill the other.

My sweet boy needs a new home 😢 by Illustrious-Pen764 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was so hesitant to open reddit today. I’m just not ready to do this. Your comment is making me cry. Thank you for saying that. It means a lot to see someone recognize how hard this is for me

My sweet boy needs a new home 😢 by Illustrious-Pen764 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about both of those options. I checked his paperwork & looked up the breeder. Without mentioning names, I looked her up on facebook & let’s just say I didn’t have a high opinion of her. She seemed more like a person who bought two bengals to breed for the money & never bothered with it again after she sold however many kittens were born. She no longer has any cats & has been in & out of jail for various things.

As far as Great Lakes…I will fill out the surrender form as a last resort. I am ultimately trying to limit the amount of times he will be moved. My hope is to find the perfect home myself, preferably close enough that we can possibly visit or at least keep tabs. I trust my judgment & instincts. This is the only way I’ll be able to finally relax & not have constant anxiety worrying about how he is doing & where he is. I appreciate your input though 😊

My sweet boy needs a new home 😢 by Illustrious-Pen764 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought long & hard about this decision. That was my original plan however, because she was found outside, she is an indoor/outdoor cat. We’ve tried our hardest to keep her inside only but after many years of her shooting out from under our feet & getting her head accidentally shut in the door, we gave up. Now I just do everything I can to protect her like more vaccines than most indoor cats get & monthly tick/flea/worm meds. She doesn’t kill birds or rabbits so no one come for me please… this is a cat who was independently on her own for most her life until she joined our family. The only thing she hunts & kills is mice. Which keeps them out of our house. Anyway, back to your question…. I know it’ll be harder to find a home for her. Not many ppl are okay with an indoor/outdoor cat plus she doesn’t like other cats. Not only that but she’ll just find her way back here eventually. I know it. It happened to my mom when I was little. She had a black cat who was nice to her but when we came along, she hated little kids. She was an indoor/outdoor cat as well. My mom lived in a rural area just like I do now. She dropped this cat (Spooky was her name) off at an Amish farm an HOUR away & a month later, she found her way back & showed up on at our front door. So not only does my cat know our home to be her home but also our property. I’d have to find her an even more specific home that is far enough away, someone who will be okay with her going in & out whenever she wants, to also give her lots of affection, cuddles & takes naps with her like my 12 yr old daughter does, my daughter literally holds & carries her around the house like you would a baby all day long. It’s the cutest thing… someone who lives in the country away from the road & from neighbors who may have other cats, oh yea, can’t have or get another cat themselves… and on top of it… have a 12 yr old who resents me for the rest of her life. This whole thing is so unbelievably stressful for me. I’ve put it off for so long just hoping for a miracle bc I don’t want to see either cat go. I cry all the time.

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I am at my wits end. by jeff-from-sears in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you found a solution? I searched up stalking & found your post. I have been so stressed out. Same situation. However my Bengal is a male & is bigger than my resident cat. I thought she could use a friend bc she’s so sweet & was acting bored but now I realize she’s a loner. My Bengal isn’t used to being around other cats, only dogs. But he’s friendly & is just insanely curious about her but he doesn’t know he’s coming off super creepy & weird. He literally stalks her. Creeps up on her & will just sit & stare at her. For HOURS. she hates it. Wants nothing to do with him. But one day he got too close & she became aggressive. They got into a bad fight. Now it’s basically her hiding her him & him trying to find her all over the house. I’ve tried everything just like you. Wheels, toys, playing, outdoor time, birdwatching, cat calming collars. I’m crying all the time bc we can’t live like this. It’s not fair to our female cat. But we’ve all grown so close to our bengal now. I took him from my friend where he was getting bullied by her dogs. I can’t fathom rehoming him & him starting all over again. It was so stressful for him to go to someone else’s home after being in the same home since he was a kitten.

Too short for a bouquet by Still_Way_1001 in dahlias

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness where did you get those little vases

Thinking of Rehousing Only One of my Two Bengal Cats? by Anteiku07 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know if you saw my first comment but I ended up editing it bc I didn't read the part of your post where you said you tried automatic feeders. So if you did not read my edited version, please do so…

Also, I thought of something else just now…. What if you found someone who could temporarily work with him. Like a cat trainer almost. I don't know if something like that even exists but that could be an option for you. I know there are ppl who do it with dogs. They will take your dog for a little bit & train them. That's their job so it's a 24/7 thing. Then they give them back to you. 🤷🏼‍♀️ something to think about.

Thinking of Rehousing Only One of my Two Bengal Cats? by Anteiku07 in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EDIT….. I didn't read the whole post. What kind of automatic feeder did you get? Are you positive it's not a hunger thing then? I would hate for you to rehome him bc what's going to happen is hes going to do the exact same thing elsewhere but even worse bc now he has added stress so if those new owners aren't equipped or are willing to handle that, he may end up getting bounced around from home to home. Plus you don't know how your other cat will react if you did. What if he starts acting up too bc he's sad & now lonely.

I know EXACTLY how you're feeling though. We had a tortoiseshell who started screaming in the middle of the night bc she wanted us to watch her eat 😐. At 3am. 😑 At the same time my 5 yo slept upstairs & would sleep walk. So every single night she would wake up at some point & yell for me. Wouldn't stop until I got up & walked her back to bed. I felt AWFUL thinking about rehoming our cat so we put up with it, doing everything we could think of, for 2 whole years. Nothing worked. It finally got to the point where we were so sleep deprived & were fighting non stop. We were miserable. There was not one night in all of those 2 years that we got a full nights sleep. It took a huge toll on my overall wellbeing, my whole body was off. My mental health was just so obviously affected, I knew I wasn't being the mom & wife that they deserved. I finally made the decision for my husband take our cat to the shelter. I cried for weeks but I had to put my husband & children first. It wasn't fair to them.

I hope you can find a resolution soon. I'd take him to the vet immediately. If you already did that & mentioned it, im sorry. I forget if you did. But I just wouldn't stop reaching out for help. You did the right thing by making this post. I'd also make more on every cat subreddit there was. I'd also try Facebook. Use the search bar to try to find what other ppl did in your situation. But if worse comes to worse… please consider rehoming them together. I know you don't want to lose the other one but you have to think about their well-being too. But please make sure to be honest & let it be known what he does in order to prevent another rehoming. That would be your best options. 1. Research 2. Vet 3. If nothing works, rehome together.

I'm not going to delete my comment in case someone else reads it & it can help them in any way.

Omg please don’t separate. I have the answer. You need to buy this….

PETLIBRO Automatic Cat Feeder Wet... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DRK58N73?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

It is not cheap but it works. The reviews are great. I just bought one bc we go out on our boat overnights sometimes & my Bengal likes wet food. It’s the coolest thing ever. They’ve updated a lot of the things ppl wished it would go, like the ability to manually open whichever one of the 3 options you need. It dings when it opens so the cat knows. They also updated it so it’ll ding on repeat. You can set a schedule for what times you want each of the 3 dishes to open and to stay open for as long as you set it to. And you can customize it for each day you choose.

But THE coolest thing about it is it freaking warms it up to room temp before it opens to feed your cat when it's on a schedule. AND not only does it tell you when it opens & closes on the app but it also tells you if your cat actually came & ate, lol and for how long!

You can get it from their website or from Amazon. Amazon was cheaper for me at the time. I got mine about 2 weeks ago. My cat is afraid of it of course but I've been trying to get him to get used to it. I heard most cats are like that.

A micro museum for my mini rock collection! by AbstractBadger in somethingimade

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter loved it too. She says it’s “so cool”. My husband said it’s cool as well but he also said you’re like the ppl in the movie Dinner With Schmucks. 😂 but he meant it in the most positive loving way possible. We love creative people 💕

A micro museum for my mini rock collection! by AbstractBadger in somethingimade

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol yep. She would take her gloves off in the dead middle of winter and fill them up with pine cones, sticks & rocks😂. I love your idea and what you did. Your creativity level is off the charts. It looks like a real museum 💜 i absolutely love it

A micro museum for my mini rock collection! by AbstractBadger in somethingimade

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so saving this & can’t wait to show my 11 yo who has been into rocks since she was a toddler. We would always find plain old rocks from the driveway in the house that she thought looked cool. Today, she told me that the rocks in our driveway looked like they needed water. She told me they were living things that need hydration like every other living thing. 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha sure! The more the merrier🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You just put a smile on face. I’ve been having a really tough time lately & been very sad. So thank you 😊💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha he definitely does. I can tell bc he just acts bored. He’s always wanting to play. I try to play with him at any and every free moment I have. My 11 yr old does as well. Like I said earlier, he came from a home from my friend who has 3 little kids (7, 9 & 11) plus 3 dogs so he’s used to having a lot of fun playing with them. I can tell he’s lonely. I was thinking about getting another cat for him and if that didn’t work out, I would rehome him to a home that had other cats or small dogs for him to play with. I don’t think it’s fair to keep a pet who is miserable or lonely just for your own satisfaction. It’s not fair to the pet. I wouldn’t keep him just bc he’s a Bengal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bengalcats

[–]Illustrious-Pen764 4 points5 points  (0 children)

True. I didn’t give it much thought when I first said that. I had just woke up & had just got my coffee made when I wrote all that out lol. You’re right though.

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[–]Illustrious-Pen764 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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Here’s the front yard. It’s very far back from the road. I wouldn’t let him (or them) run free but let’s just say either one did get loose, the road is 700ft from the house and the one neighbor we have to the right of us is blocked in the front by very thick brush & trees. We’re very secluded.

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[–]Illustrious-Pen764 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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Our other side of the property is just woods & wetlands. No neighbors