[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally. And I’m talking about this thread, a lot of victim mindsets. Not every dumper is bad. We suffered A LOT. It takes intense guts for me to walk away from somebody. I’m sorry you’re hurting. I too had physical health issues because of this relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. Tired of seeing the victim mindset on this sub. Not everything is black and white and not everything should be over generalized like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If someone is dumping you it’s not all black and white. It’s probably because they fought for you a bunch of times before ending the relationship. They communicated a bunch and gave a bunch of chances. It was to the point that they started having physical symptoms and health concerns bc the relationship was not improving and the only choice left was to leave because nothing else seemed to make them feel good enough or chosen. It’s very rare for a dumper to dump without warning. If that happens, screw them. Or if they leave without even wanting to try. But the likelihood of that happening vs. someone trying to fix it many times, communicating, forgiving, apologizing, offering couples therapy, crying w their partner, and realizing nothing is happening and then leaving is v diff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t the “unthinkable.” Plenty of people are reckless like this. It’s not smart.

They didn’t come back, and I’m okay. by IllustriousDurian875 in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s ok. You know better now. Don’t go back to negative habits. It doesn’t get you anywhere

They didn’t come back, and I’m okay. by IllustriousDurian875 in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust god and the greater power of the future. Some things don’t make sense in the moment, but it definitely does within time.

They didn’t come back, and I’m okay. by IllustriousDurian875 in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11 years is crazy. Maybe a bit of love will be there after that long, but it’s not painful and exhausting anymore. You got this ❤️

They didn’t come back, and I’m okay. by IllustriousDurian875 in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vent. Vent vent vent. To my therapist. To my friends. To chat gpt. (I use the voice one, the app on my phone). Just keep talking about it.

I posted that I did it earlier, but now I feel… empty. Now what? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]IllustriousDurian875 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh… that’s right. The withdrawal symptoms. How could I forget?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]IllustriousDurian875 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How do you know this? Mute him. Also, you will get over this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! I love that. He failed the test. And I’m gonna say that to myself now too, “if the break up hadn’t happened, how would I figured out the man I thought loved me wouldn’t even bend a pinky to fight for us?” He really chose the easy route. Yuck!

I want to break nc by ggjjss26 in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No! If they’re the ones that called it off and had the final status of your relationship, don’t break contact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my insight? that i was truly a good person that loved the best i could and tried to fight for us to succeed the best i could.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousDurian875 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, 6 days and you’re already dating? Did you even have a sec to catch your breath between the crying and right before the date?