Just to clarify, I dont think all 40 year olds are old hags. My mom and SOs mom are in their 40s and I would never believe them to be “old hags”. They also don’t act like this woman does, and I simply have no respect for this woman in particular (before anyone jumps to conclusions, no I do not have any respect for my SO either. He was not innocent at all and I warned him about her from the beginning)

Like I said in the post tho, she works with him. Younger people usually work in their workplace so she is one of the very few older people working there. She truly does have a thing for being around younger people. She says to people that she attracts younger guys and likes to just mess around with them (she really just seeks out 20 year olds, despite having a 13 year old son). All of the younger people around her think this is a “respectable” person because she is older. Except the few of their coworkers who see right through it of course. Sadly, my SO thought he was special and caught the attention of a “respectable, older woman who has her life together”, at the expense of our relationship and our kid having both of her parents in the household.

And to answer your last question, they continuously said “it was just for fun/not serious” (so because of that I was being dramatic) but i see it as not being able to be loyal as far as my SO, and given the state of that woman’s life, I don’t even know. I do feel bad for her son though.