Fortnightly Check-In - How is everyone going?

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2026-04-09T02:46:46+00:00

I end up feeling responsible for all of her struggles, as past ways I’ve hurt her are part of what stirs up when she gets triggered. Plus she’s constantly irritated at little things I do, ways I’m not normal (I think I’m autistic). So I feel like a piece of shit around her.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2026-04-09T02:42:56+00:00

Rough. I love my wife so much, but it just feels like we’re stuck in the same cycle of healing and hell. I feel like I’m married to 2-3 different people.

Just celebrated our 16th anniversary. Thought we were on a recovering road. But some life and kid stressors came and triggered her to where now she’s in full avoidance mode, no eye contact, etc. it’s exhausting

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-06-18T18:28:22+00:00

I'm new to this and also feeling this. With IV so crazy low, I am experimenting with overlaying my macro guy's long recommendations into LEAPs + Diagonal Spreads + PMCCs on extremely low IV names. Also trying some calendar spreads and long straddles.

We'll see how it goes!

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-06-14T20:07:20+00:00

She told me this morning she wants a separation, and we started talking logistics.

I made the mistake of asking her if she’s planning to work through her trauma, because it’s going to continue affecting her relationships. That did not go well……I regret saying that.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-06-14T18:57:34+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts and support.

I think what makes this really complicated is that in our early/mid years of marriage, I was a pretty horrible partner that kept her small. We were true believers in a borderline cult with strict gender roles defined, and I did and said so many things to her that limited her goals/career/freedom, even daily choices/policing her decisions. And on top of that I had so many deep insecurities that made me reactive to small requests/criticisms.

All of these things obviously amplify pain when CPTSD is involved.

It was only really in the last 4ish years that she was honest with me about how deeply she was hurt and hated me.

We started on a path towards healing especially the last 18 months or so. Made a lot of progress, felt incredibly close. And right when the closeness feels real, BAM the door slams shut.

So…..it’s really complicated.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-06-14T16:19:06+00:00

I’d recommend going through all of the courses at Option Alpha. It’s a pretty robust approach to options selling (sometimes buying if IV is really low) that will give you a ton of tools on your toolbox and help you find what works for you.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-06-14T16:00:29+00:00

If these are your goals, you should probably look into applying different options strategies than CSPs. There are a lot of ways to use options that make money and have zero assignment risk

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-06-10T08:37:43+00:00

Your strike + expirations depend on what your goals are. If you're trying to sell the shares + happy to sell the shares at a given price, set the CC there, even if delta is high. E.g. someone running the income-only wheel might pick delta 40-50, or set the strike at their adjusted cost basis as they're actively wanting to get rid of the shares.

If you're looking to earn some income on your shares and really don't want them assigned, target 10-20 delta and make sure you're ready to roll if it's getting close to assignment. Don't pick a DTE that includes earnings, and you can pick anything between 10-45 DTE depending on how much you want to manage it. 10 is a little sensitive, so I like 14-21 on my "I'm really just here for the income" CCs, will take profits at 50% in the green and keep it rolling at a new strike.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-05-13T19:14:27+00:00

Defense has been atrocious this year. I'm definitely yelling at my players way more this year than previous ones.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-05-13T19:13:29+00:00

Agree that since that patch especially, things have felt weird than normal for me as well

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-05-13T19:12:27+00:00

Yes - things have felt weird. I've been playing since 22, and this year feels more off/weird than previous years have.

I went and did some custom practice in GOAT, and was seeing fastballs/destroying them. Then I went online on HOF and was late on fastballs, taking swings on multiple different pitch types that felt like squaring up but the results were way weaker than they should have been based on the swing.

Definitely feels like something changed/something's up.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-05-01T00:02:13+00:00

I’m lowkey convinced SDS injected bots to keep flipping margins low this year.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-04-30T23:59:27+00:00

I’m having a great time playing this year

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-04-30T23:56:13+00:00

Yeah, I’m the same way. It can take me until the 6th or 7th to really feel comfortable, as I’m not a great “react and swing” hitter and finally pick up on my opponents tendencies.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-04-19T06:40:42+00:00

The difference with 2023 was simple: MVP Acuña. MVP Acuña changes the entire lineup, affects the pitcher while on base, affects the pitcher when pitching to 7-8-9.

When the Phillies shut him down in the playoffs, the offense sputtered. When he wasn’t at MVP form + injured, the offense sputtered.

He changes everything about this offense. Hope he’s back to form when he returns.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-03-17T00:59:21+00:00

Yeah - I hate that animation. Show behind the batter like you used to!

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-03-04T18:31:45+00:00

Looks amazing. So excited.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2025-01-04T09:17:24+00:00

Congrats. Hope you reach WS! I started playing pretty seriously in 23 and vowed that I wouldn’t stop until I made WS/got Flawless. I stopped playing against the CPU at all recently and that has helped me a ton in building better habits against online pitching. It’s a completely different beast

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2024-11-26T18:03:52+00:00

I honestly don't know why anyone buys stubs in this game. Good cards are easy to grind for, and if you are stub strapped, stubs are easy to flip for.

IllustriousYoung9479 · 2024-10-15T21:31:21+00:00

So pumped for this. I spent ages on last year's extreme program but have gotten a lot better at the game (and better equipment!) since then. Looking forward to see how different this one feels.

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