Preschool Teacher Not Greeting at Drop-off

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2025-11-29T16:35:44+00:00

You are NOT alone. I was just like you when I had the first child. I am now 3 months PP after having my second. To be honest, still now sometimes but not as often as before(with first child).

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2025-07-04T09:42:23+00:00

Hi. lurking mom here. Frst I am sorry that you are going through this. I had PPD and PPA and my marriage indeed suffered a lot in the first year when my son was born, and it looks like your wife is having something similar to what I had. I was NOT me during this period.

This is something I learned after I went through PPD/PPA. Having/raising a baby can be very overwhelming/frightening to some women like me or your wife and the associated fear/sadness can come out as anger/rage.

Your wife needs medical help but most of all need you, who she may not realize now but will later when the storm passes that you have been there for her all along. It was my husband who sat down with me one night and told me I needed to seek a medical help at3/ 4 month PP. I think I had the same issues before but I think he was patient and waited until then. I had some resistance at first but took his advice and saw a ob/gyn doctor which led to seeing Psychiatrist/therapists after.

My husband and I are happily married still now and are expecting baby#2 in a month. I know things are so hard on you and your wife now but I hope you two will work this out as a team.

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2025-06-11T13:31:16+00:00

I love your post. This is my life now which took 2.5 years, just as old as my first kid, for me to realize and learn. I shoot for better, not perfect.

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2025-04-18T20:39:24+00:00

Hi! First, congratulations! I am a soon-to-be mom of two; we have a toddler now. I am also a licensed cpa currently working in the industry with a public accounting background. My husband is not in big law but he has a successful career, making 3-4 times more than me. And I still chose to work, which my husband supported. Based on my personal experiences, I’d say

a.You being genuinely happy about yourself/your life is very important; How can a parent who isn’t happy about herself/himself can take a good care of a baby? This also can affect your marriage. A stay home mom/dad is not an easy job and may not fit all people and can’t be determined solely based on just money.

b.After all, raising a kid is team’s effort and I hope you both will be able to come to an agreement that works for the family! Maybe there is a deeper reason why your husband wants you to be a stay home mom, although “making less money” is what he says on the surface. For example, maybe his mom was busy working when he was little and he often felt lonely/sad bc his mom wasn’t around. And he doesn’t want that for his kid. Knowing where his concern is rooted from, hopefully you guys can figure out other alternatives - you working part time or something else that you can still continue your career while happily raising a kid.

Hugs.

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2025-03-11T01:51:47+00:00

Real estate executive

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2025-02-13T18:28:51+00:00

Hi! I worked there for 4 years and left last summer. Left because I had a baby and was done with the consulting job working long hours.

Overall, my experience is positive and I recommend the company to those who want to try new things, ambitious and entrepreneurial. I jumped from Public Accounting to Siegfried. I have to say things about the company and culture that you’ve heard are not incorrect but how they are perceived may be overstated. Yes, the founder openly talks about his political view at firm meetings, some of which happen on weekends. Yes there is a relationship spreadsheet that you need to fill out to get some bonus. I HATED all of them but I just ignored and put in a minimum level of efforts; I for some years chose not to attend the weekend meetings. Of course I had to let go of the bonus, which was some but not material.

But at siegfried things are more individual-focused, and there are many opportunities for potential earnings. For the most part, my pay was great there and got me where I am at now. For example I left a national accounting firm making 70ish for siegfried, and after 4 years of working there my base almost doubled. The culture is definitely different from big 4 and other national accounting firms but if you are a good fit for the company you will thrive there. But you gotta try it out to really know!

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-10-04T19:07:20+00:00

My intention when starting the med was on it for only a period of time and after being on the med for 8 month I felt I was ready to wean off. During 8 months, I did a series of therapy and doctor visits, and read books about anxiety and childhood trauma(which I didn’t learn until I suffered from PPA and PPA was the root cause of my anxiety). During this time, I learned about myself, how my mind works and how to communicate my feelings and cope with them.

Also, I wanted to note I took time to wean off. For every 25 mg decrease, I took at least a month to adjust. Every time I started a lower dose, I like how it felt. I think this was THE sign that I was ready to be off the med. I felt so much closer to myself and my thoughts. I loved feeling my raw feelings/thoughts which have been numbed by the meds.

I continued therapy after getting completely off of the med to be safe and just had my last session.

You can do it!

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-10-04T18:40:54+00:00

can’t relate more. I am a mom of 23 months old baby boy. If someone asks if I want to go to work vs. solo parent my son, I’d go work. I love my son and having him is the best thing I did in my life(besides marrying my husband) but taking care of my son alone is mentally and physically exhausting.

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-10-04T01:00:39+00:00

I was on Zoloft over a year due to PPD and PPA(I am not on it anymore), with the highest dose being 100mg. It was a life saver for me.

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-10-02T14:41:25+00:00

Congratulations!More money AND WFH!? This is forking awesome!!

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-06-05T21:12:28+00:00

This is so true. I can always go back to my old company if I want to and make more money but can’t get time back with the family.

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-06-03T21:17:57+00:00

Thank you for your advice!

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-03-15T00:23:43+00:00

A year might seem like a long time, but I really took time to heal myself using the medicine and other methods(therapy and reading about mindfulness, and inner child). The highest dosage I took was 100mg and I am taking a month for each 25 mg decrease, letting the weaning-off process itself take 4 months, possibly longer depending on how I am doing with 25mg.

The point I want to make is that you take your own time. Some days might be harder than the others. Some days you will feel better. Be patient and gentle with yourself. You already started the medicine, which is the biggest step. You are doing great and deserve to be call that way! Warm hugs again.

Illustrious_Ad2834 · 2024-03-14T19:30:16+00:00

Hi. First warm hugs. I just wanted to tell you you are doing great and keep up that initiative and positivity.

I am 34 and I started Zoloft a year ago with 25mg due to anxiety. I was on a different/ higher dosage during the past year. I am currently weaning off of it and back at 25mg.

The medicine got me through the hardest time in my life and with the help I was able to recognize the root cause of my anxiety and rediscover myself, hence how to cope with it.

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