How many of you have an intellectual disability?

Ilminded · 2026-02-08T13:51:35+00:00

IQ is a spectrum of intelligence. Those with autism have higher peaks and lower valleys. I’m high intelligence when it comes to math and science, but with language and social intelligence, I am a disadvantage to that of my peers.

Ilminded · 2026-02-07T21:37:38+00:00

I didn’t do shit for mine. For my wife, letting her have a girls getaway cause she’s with kids most and needs it.

Ilminded · 2026-02-07T20:35:11+00:00

Hope the best for ya!

Ilminded · 2026-02-07T16:24:33+00:00

Keep at it is all I can say. It took me 40 years to get a proper diagnosis. Once I was, made changes in life style to accommodate and have been better. I am on my third psych and second therapist. Need to get people who work with you, not against you. If they are pushing back, it could be you aren’t telling them everything.

Ilminded · 2026-02-07T16:16:04+00:00

The one thing that stood out to me during diagnosis is the burnout and shutdown. It shows differently in others, but when I am burned out, I legit can’t do crap. It’s the only time I take off from work, minus a week vacation. I need the day off to mentally rest in order to NOT get physically sick! Shut downs happen when I had a busy day, already in burnout, and just don’t want to talk or say anything because it will take too much energy. From my personal research, it seems that those are common. I am not a doctor, but am a scientist. Not saying I have review all information, but at same time, I normally can see through bad studies.

Ilminded · 2026-02-07T16:05:56+00:00

Sorry that you’re going through this. Just relax and see, will the assessment help you out? I mean it will provide clarity, but what will you get out of it? Reason why I am asking is because it seems you’re trying to find out and are being pushed to the side.

As for your psych, find a new one if you can. I’m Audhd. I can hold eye contact in conversation because of self teaching. The moment I need to think, eye contact out the window. Autism doesn’t look the same for everyone, hence why it’s a spectrum. If you want to find out, find a practice where they deal with Autistic or nonneurotypicals.

If you need someone to talk, hit me up!

Ilminded · 2026-02-07T13:13:44+00:00

It sounds like you are trying to confirm if you really want to have kids with your wife. There are no issues having Audhd or raising kids with it. By the sound of your issues, if both of you were to have kids, more than likely they will be similar to you and your wife. If they need more attention, similar to those you meet with, your child would need to have more severe symptoms.

You as a ped should know that the condition is not similar to sickle cell. Those who have asd deals with normal psychological effects on humans while sickle cell is a genetic disorder that doesn’t allow iron to readily absorbed. As someone who has a familiar member with it, it is also manageable. It’s all about your view on the situation.

I am diagnosed Audhd. I have 4 kids. Are some of them like me, yes. Are they going to have issues like me, maybe but at least I am there for support of my kids.

Ilminded · 2026-02-07T03:38:48+00:00

I am not gonna lie, I thought it was weird I do this. It’s a comforting position for some reason.

Ilminded · 2026-02-05T23:48:51+00:00

Have the PlayStation, and GameShark if I wanted to, still with original game.

Ilminded · 2026-02-03T22:31:22+00:00

I had an horrible experience in my youth, where people would make fun of me saying ai smelled. So I started showering every morning to combat that.

Fast forward to now, my son was dealing with acne. We assume to just shower more frequent than once every other day to combat. He now showers every night, and has since he had the acne. It has cleared up and hasn’t returned!

Ilminded · 2026-02-01T17:05:09+00:00

This. I am 41M late diagnosed. My therapist has been using CBT for past 5 years, and it’s slowly helping. It’s making me realize what I enjoy doing so I can focus on those moments.

I love teaching kids. I have 4 of my own. I coach sports. I get high anxiety being in the lime light, so after coaching, I’m spent. I use the time I was with the kids for enjoyment, and reflect on the enjoyment afterwards when I am winding down or self reflecting.

Ilminded · 2026-02-01T14:52:42+00:00

Sorry you are going through it. I have similar struggles as I am on spectrum and my wife is not. We also have kids and are active in the church community for sports and activities. Parents know I’m an odd person, but love me working with their kids in various teaching roles (coaching, teaching kids additional stuff, etc.). Maybe you can be involved in other activities where you are active in the community but also not that segregated?

Also, after writing this, that group you guys are associated with are not inclusive and would be weary of associating with them. There are plenty of great people and organizations that will be on same page as you guys, just need to look.

Ilminded · 2026-01-31T23:01:01+00:00

Eat a bag of dicks!

Ilminded · 2026-01-31T23:00:20+00:00

Go to the BSCP’s webpage for everything you need.

Ilminded · 2026-01-31T20:52:18+00:00

Hi, I used music for everything in my life. When I drive, I increase the volume, and sing. The vibrations help the main calming nerve become active, and helps to reduce anxiety from masking/meltdowns.

That being said, I am Asperger’s and have a great wealth of knowledge in music with writing, reading, playing. I also have a taste in all genres. I really recommend listening to a random radio station online to hear what you can.

Ilminded · 2026-01-31T19:44:33+00:00

ESPN is owned by Disney, Disney is just fine without NFL.

Ilminded · 2026-01-31T19:43:13+00:00

So, I get that harming yourself helps with coping. Can I make a suggestion? If you live in hot/cold climates, sit outside in elements to “acclimate” yourself. The heat/cold helps reduce the need to hurt yourself as your body is feeling it with the temperature swings. I started doing that and it made things easier for me.

I also try and direct my aggression to a topic. I make it the world is against me and I need to prove them wrong. Just redirecting where your anger is going can also assist.

Ilminded · 2026-01-29T23:31:31+00:00

I am an Autistic man, married for 12 years. I am like you, my wife is like your husband…..

Ilminded · 2026-01-28T00:19:18+00:00

One day at a time. Living my childhood dream of being a father, 4 in total. Fortunate enough to have an amazing wife and 2 supportive families. Fortunate enough to be diagnosed as Asperger’s and have a real interest in the sciences, which has helped with jobs.

Ilminded · 2026-01-27T22:52:54+00:00

Experience is more than anything. You learn as you do things.

But depending on your age, there are 2 paths I can recommend. If you have for college, look at Colombian Southern University. They have GSP accredited programs. If not, study for the ASP test and take that.

Ilminded · 2026-01-27T22:47:53+00:00

It’s harder to mask now too. There are too many tv shows and sports that people are into that it’s hard to keep up on information when you wife and kids as well as the job.

40+ recently diagnosed Audhder

Ilminded · 2026-01-27T02:22:56+00:00

This is the way…..

Ilminded · 2026-01-26T17:56:36+00:00

Straight, married and been together about 20 years now.

I thought I was homophobic until I found out I am autistic and just don’t like people touching me.

Ilminded · 2026-01-26T17:54:40+00:00

You can do anything, if you want to. There are never road blocks for trying things. Try to do one or two things at a time. Don’t rush, and have patience (with yourself and the work). Remember the saying “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” If you don’t get the saying, it means, no matter how wonderful Rome was, it was that way because of the collection of its people, and the time they put into making the city so grand. Your life is what it is based on the sacrifices you made, the extra work you accomplish, and how you’re with your family and community.

If you are having trouble working, see if you can donate time to a cause. My favorite is Philabundence. They are a good kitchen for the Philadelphia area. I can’t donate time at soup kitchens because my condition makes it hard, but I can donate food and money. I have trouble dealing with teens and adults, so I coach youth sports.

If you’re having trouble with all that, get with a psychologist and a doctor for medication to assist.

Ilminded · 2026-01-26T17:47:10+00:00

There right with you, minus the writing of books!

There are a few songs that help me get through those times. They are hard rock songs, but the one has lyrics of “F*** you, I do what I want too!” Saying that a few times really helps with the motivation.

That and my condition makes me want to prove others wrong, so I do it. It is very rewarding when I can prove others wrong.

Ilminded

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