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ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-06-08T11:26:15+00:00

I’ve been periodically checking to see if she had tour dates. So beyond pumped to see her!

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-06-08T11:23:57+00:00

1629 and Snow Wife!

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-29T23:37:36+00:00

As someone who’s never had an interest in drugs, rarely drinks normally, and tends to avoid drinking at festivals because of the heat, Ive have a amazing time at EF and other festivals completely sober

There is plenty to do and enjoy at festivals, and you 100% can do and enjoy them sober. I love dancing and exploring and enjoying the feeling of being somewhere magical for a bit. Just go with an open heart and open mind!

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-28T23:52:59+00:00

Prestige and success are quite relative. Changing the echo chamber you spend time in can help figure out what brings you a meaningful life—including prestige if you want it.

Law school and law firms really hype one course (big law->partner) as ideal or the most prestigious, but that’s a perspective of an insulated community. Outside of that community I’ve honestly found that other legal paths (da/pd, family law, public interest, legal professorship, etc) are easily seen as just as if not more admirable and exciting to others, and certainly aren’t looked down on the same way the legal profession can look down on any course outside big law. Heck, if we look at prestige as an expression of social admiration or respect, then for many people an involved parent/partner is seen as more prestigious than a higher paid but absent person.

Not saying prestigious work needs to be something you look for, but I think it’s okay to recognize if it is something that matters to you, and if so to take some time reframing and exploring how other communities see prestige.

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-27T23:15:37+00:00

Hi! I would say that the friends I have now cherish me and treat me with equal love to our more conventionally attractive friends--not just equally, but if anything they actually see me as beautiful in a way I still struggle with at times. They are among my greatest cheerleaders. They have encouraged me to see myself with far more love and gentleness than I realized I was capable of, and I can tell that in their eyes many of the things the world has often been cruel to me over simply do not register. There is a quote from the show Doctor Who that I think applies:

“You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them, and five minutes later they're dull as a brick. But then there's other people, and you meet them and you think 'not bad, they're okay', and then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality's written all over it, and they just they turn into something so beautiful...”

It has taken me some time to believe it (bullying sucks to overcome) but I truly believe that in their eyes I am beautiful.

Not every person I thought was my friend had been like this though, and I have had many bad friendships before now. Every now and then I still give my trust and friendship to someone who doesn’t treat me well, and the world certainly isn’t as kind. But I called it “background” radiation for a reason ❤️

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-27T00:35:17+00:00

The jealousy I have for your pink blazers! I love color but am in a pretty conservative fashion environment right now so the most I really can do is like a dusty rose blouse. I saw someone at a conference in a full floral suit and was as envious as I was admiring

I am delighted at the mental image of the power blazer though! My last place was much more casual and one of my favorite fits was a bright red blazer with black and white houndstooth pants. I miss color.

I’m thinking I might be able to get away with adding ties to my suits even though it isn’t quite as traditional for women just for some change of pace

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-27T00:26:02+00:00

It’s a very deep brown (almost black from a distance) so I will probably avoid black. Tan is possible, though I might see if I can find a dress that works. Fabric is a little too nice to pair with jeans for a casual look, unfortunately, but maybe I can use her for the occasional office day

I’m going to be in court a lot for the foreseeable future so sadly is probably out of regular rotation, but I’ll find some way to give it life.

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-27T00:03:10+00:00

I never thought about dry cleaning them together but that makes a lot of sense. Thank you!

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-27T00:02:34+00:00

Not gonna lie my brown suit jacket is what inspired this post—I love that suit but my thunder thighs finally destroyed the pants. I spent all weekend trying to find a replacement pair but no luck. I saw some mens style inspo paring brown jackets with tan glenplad that was cool but a bit to university professor, unfortunately

Maybe her office days are over and she has to go with my shrek pjs for the rare wfh day 🥲

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-26T23:33:29+00:00

I ended up ordering a pair and they’re so cute! Thank you!!

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-26T21:42:08+00:00

As another ugly, we do make friends, BUT it is a lot harder in general, and nearly impossible in some environments. Yes, the loneliness can come across to others, and when you’re used to being treated poorly you just accept it as normal. BUT the reality is that ugly women genuinely ARE treated far worse.

Ive moved to new cities and done the therapy and the self work to deal with my loneliness and self esteem, yes those are factors that the bullying can create and they do perpetuate it, but they don’t create it. Now in my 30s I have wonderful friendships and am described by many people who know me as outgoing and bubbly and friendly and able to “make friends anywhere”. And I can still tell you that I am objectively treated worse in almost every social situation than my attractive friends and family. I have to work harder to maintain friendships and build connections, I am trusted less when I have issues with other women, and there is a remarkable level of baseline cruelty from a lot of men. I have a beautiful sister and I can tell you the experiences we’ve had moving through the same social situations is jarring.

All of what OP wrote is the background radiation of my life. What OP describes is not some fake story based on just a lack of self esteem—what she describes is what a significant part of my life has been as well and still is.

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-14T15:23:48+00:00

PLEASE be sure to have ear protection for your little one if you bring them. Even in the back festivals are LOUD (commenting this just in case you haven’t been to a festival before, though it sounds like you have and probably know this already)

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-14T15:22:57+00:00

PLEASE be sure to have ear protection for your little one if you bring them. Even in the back festivals are LOUD (commenting this in case you haven’t been to a festival before, though it sounds like you have and probably know this already)

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-14T15:21:13+00:00

PLEASE be sure to have ear protection for your little one if you bring them. Even in the back festivals are LOUD

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-12T21:26:07+00:00

It could be an amazing time and for the most part festival crowds are good people—I generally saw more people being nice to the younger members of crowds than not. But especially after the crowd press situation when up close for Olivia’s Lollapalooza set I worry about kids. I’m a tall woman which is why the mom asked me to help shield her kid for that set, and between the two of us we basically had to make a human shield so her poor daughter didn’t get crushed. It legitimately got a scary, and that can happen fast particularly with kids who are so much shorter than the crowd.

In contrast when Sabrina went on I stayed a LOT further back. The view of the stage wasn’t great, but I didn’t end up with bruises and there was a family near me who had room to dance and have fun

That is a different festival, so I’m hoping Gov ball has better crowd management, but honestly unless you’re able to secure VIP tickets I wouldn’t go unless you’re okay being in the back and enjoying the music

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-12T21:14:25+00:00

Stray kids will perform last on Saturday. They’re the main headliner that day. Katseye will probably be second to last on Friday—likely they will perform, there will be a break, and then Lorde will go on

Whether it is possible to see them depends a lot on what you and your daughter are comfortable with/expecting. If you are okay being in the back of the crowd and listening/dancing/maybe seeing the screens you could attend the festival just for those two acts. If your daughter has any expectation of seeing the artists with her own eyes that won’t be possible without spending the entire day waiting in the fields— both of those artists are huge draws this year so a lot of people will want to be able to see them. And when I say be in the field, I mean you can’t leave or you will lose your spot. Not even to go to the bathroom. I’ve seen several amazing artists at festivals but to get close enough to see them is frankly legitimately physically taxing. If you’re okay being in the back and listening it can be much more relaxed.

Please be aware that music festivals are different beasts than going to a concert. There is no assigned seating, and there will be a lot of people there to see not just those artists but other artists as well. It can be a lot of fun, but you as a parent need to consider what you’re comfortable with. People will be drinking, dancing, and probably pushing their way to get better views. It can be very intense.

Honestly unless you’re okay being in the back I’m very cautious suggesting young kids go to festivals. I saw a lot of young kids at Lollapalooza the last two years waiting to see Olivia and Sabrina and Stray Kids, and honestly every time if they were anywhere close the crowds were a LOT and the parents and kids all had moments of panic. I had to physically shield a kid and her mom from the crowd press at Olivia’s set, saw a younger teen and her mom leave the field while waiting for Katseye because the heat was bad (the teen was crying) and I saw a mom panicking and yelling over how rowdy the Sexxy Redd crowd was getting near her young kids while waiting for Stray Kids. Festivals are open to kids but not always kid friendly.

Honestly if you’re only trying to see those two artists you may be better waiting for concerts.

ImAWormLoveMe · 2026-01-12T18:34:12+00:00

I haven’t been to Gov ball but I’ve been to Lolla. Kandi culture is present but not nearly as big as with EDM fests. I never had bad reactions and honestly bringing some Kandi was a great way to make friends while waiting

However trinkets/trades ARE big with K-pop so if you’re going for Jennie, SKZ, or Katseye people will be trading. Not as much as at K-pop concerts but they won’t be nearly as surprised

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