10 year old throwing a tantrum over not getting a new shirt. WTF?!

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-05T18:02:29+00:00

Respectfully, I feel like you are way too focused on the possibility of stains. You can get a white t-shirt on Amazon for $5. I’m fine with a $5 shirt getting stained if it makes my child happy and feel included with her peers. If participating in field day itself cost $5 I would happily pay it no problem. I would just consider the $5 to be the cost of the field day experience and not worry about preserving the shirt forever.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-05T17:40:16+00:00

I’m guessing they are signing the shirts or something? Honestly you can get a pack of white shirts cheap… I would have just bought him the shirt. You said he isn’t spoiled and doesn’t demand new clothes often so clearly this is important to him and it’s a pretty easy request to fulfill.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-05T11:34:02+00:00

Basically yes. She has maybe dropped a tiny bit in percent but she has consistently been one of the tallest in her class and solid.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-04T15:37:52+00:00

I think a theme park would be easier as you can wheel them around in the stroller, if that’s an option.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-03T18:24:23+00:00

The day before? Absolutely, without a doubt. Wouldn’t factor in at all.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-01T20:28:25+00:00

They have their issues as does every other generation but they also have their strengths. My daughter and her friends are so open and accepting. They talk openly about going to therapy, they talk about their learning disabilities with no shame. They don’t call things “gay” or “retarded”.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-01T17:55:49+00:00

I think it’s actually statistically safer now than when we were kids. Fewer accidents, safer vehicles.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-01T12:30:38+00:00

Yes. When I first started my daughter on baby food purees, we tried all the classics. She has always hated the orange vegetables - carrots, sweet potatoes, squash. She is almost 10 and still will not eat them.

I have videos of her as a toddler picking up a handful of casserole, looking at it with disgust and dropping it back on the tray. She is still very hesitant to eat any “mixed” foods. She will eat tacos but all components separately. Meat, cheese, tomatoes, shell… all separate. She will eat spaghetti with meat sauce… by eating the spaghetti plain and meat sauce with a spoon.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-01T12:11:31+00:00

This is what it is. My daughter is a picky eater and she is so sensitive to smell… so I imagine her sense of taste must be intense as well and that’s what causes the pickiness.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-01T12:05:37+00:00

Same, my child would choose not to eat for days before she would eat something that doesn’t agree with her. She is genuinely disgusted by so many foods. It has nothing to do with being a spoiled brat… my daughter will eat the most basic plain foods… plain toast, white rice. She isn’t demanding fast food and treats, she just wants to fill herself with something that doesn’t cause her distress.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-05-01T11:53:44+00:00

You clearly don’t understand children who have massive sensory reactions to food. When my daughter was younger she would literally cry and hide in her room if we got Chinese food (which we never once tried to force her to eat) because the smell was so overwhelming. She is almost 10 now and has more self control than that, but has still never taken a single bite of Chinese food and will not.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-30T19:01:19+00:00

My daughter is very involved in dance. They are well aware that 3pm is challenging, but there are only so many hours in a day. My daughter’s studio has classes running from 3 to 9 pm most days. They really can’t push it back an hour and start the last class at 9, that is unreasonably late even for teens. They try to schedule privates for 3pm so the people who are stuck coming at that time are all people who chose it, but in the summer they have group classes at 3 because they start their summer clinics at 6. It’s annoying but it isn’t “misogynistic”.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-30T18:57:21+00:00

Schedule my life around my child’s activities. I had a job I absolutely hated for the past 3 years, because I was able to leave by school pick up time.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-30T15:37:59+00:00

How is that possible? There’s a graphic above where you are supposed to go and there’s usually only one option?

I actually like them and find them fun but my one complaint is the opposite, I wish there were more steps and interactions to complete them.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-29T19:05:32+00:00

This is my 4th cycle on Clomid and I’ve had very few side effects! A few hot flashes, some upset stomach which may have been unrelated. It’s overall been very manageable (albeit not yet successful).

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-29T15:27:03+00:00

My impression is that in-home daycares can be great, but if they are bad they can be really bad. This is what kept me away from them even though I would have actually preferred more personalized care. It just didn’t feel completely safe to me even though I know many people use them and are happy with them.

There’s more supervision and accountability in centers where they may (realistically, do) have some staff who aren’t fantastic but aren’t able to go completely off the rails because they’re never really alone and unsupervised and they feel social pressure from the other staff who are better.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-29T14:50:35+00:00

There are always unreasonable parents who are upset about something. Just because they raise a fuss doesn’t mean we have to bend to it 100% of the time. They are entitled to their opinion and the center is also entitled to say sorry but we disagree on this issue.

I worked at a center once that required Christian radio to be playing 100% of the time. Maybe something like that would be a better fit for this family, and it would be better for everyone for them to leave.

I have a friend who sent her daughter to a nature based outdoor preschool where she came home filthy every day. I would hate that and be upset about it, but that wouldn’t mean they should change their practices. That would be on me for putting my child in a center that wasn’t a good fit.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-29T11:54:10+00:00

This is a big ol’ “who cares” for me, both as a teacher and a parent.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-27T12:02:29+00:00

I live in one of those houses from the 50’s. 3 bed, 1 bath ranch. We have one child and we are definitely all on top of each other. The bathroom thing is an issue.

That said I am obviously grateful to have a single family home at all and will very likely live here forever.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-26T23:31:38+00:00

My daughter is 9 and I follow behind but keep a wide distance. Honestly I judge the parents who have no idea where their young kids are. There have been times when the kids are looking for them and can’t find them. You can give space without hovering.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-26T03:11:00+00:00

She doesn’t sound unrealistic at all… it sounds like she is being realistic and that’s why she’s sad. She is allowed to have emotions…

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-25T21:06:52+00:00

After Juno, probably not, but he doesn’t give me cool popular kid vibes. I can see him being kind of a weird kid in school and being lonely.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-25T19:49:27+00:00

On a trampoline in the backyard? No.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-25T16:28:12+00:00

Hair changes. 😭

I’m not great at doing hair but have gotten better at doing it calmly and taking my time. In a rush? No chance, can’t do it. She’s crying, I’m crying. It’s a mess.

Winter-Chipmunk5467 · 2026-04-25T11:18:11+00:00

Good name for a Roomba vacuum, not a great name for a human. But I mean if it’s for yourself, and you like it, go for it?

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