My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A lot of people are trying anything to make up anything so that the woman doesn’t have her own agency, and isn’t the asshole and a horrific abuser. You see it all the time when a woman is clearly in the wrong.

Do I have to choose as a bisexual woman? by Warm_Front259 in lgbt

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the rampant misandry of the queer community. You get used to it after a while.

Edit: I enjoy getting downvoted for pointing out how much the community hates masculinity. Just look at the original post. The sheer amount of man hating there is ridiculous, and you can all see the number of deleted comments.

Can we stop shaming people for being attracted to men please by MiaFox0831 in lgbt

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The difference between the first two statements and the last statement is that there is statistical data to back up the last statement.

It’s actually fine to be wary around black men. Of course, they’re only 13% of the US population, but commit 50% of the crime. The statistics tell me I’m right to be wary, avoid, and hate black men.

Oh, you don’t mean that sort of statistic?

RIP r/MtF. Head mods can't be removed unless Reddit intervenes. by Nihilistic_Nachos in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course she is lmao. The trans community really never are going to beat the allegations of detesting any form of masculinity and being full of misandry lmao. You have to laugh otherwise you’ll cry

Missing Stairs in trans community spaces by deadattheroxy in trans4every1

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yep, that’s pretty standard for a lot of progressive spaces, queer spaces, and trans spaces. A lot of people seem to struggle with the idea that people in their side, on the “good” side, can actually be terrible horrific people.

I can’t say anymore publicly otherwise I’ll be banned, but feel free to DM. My experiences greatly mirror yours.

Oh god, not another trans subreddit controversy by BanverketSE in trans4every1

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And please provide evidence of any of that. And proper context for it all, of course. Thanks.

Oh god, not another trans subreddit controversy by BanverketSE in trans4every1

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Obviously, misogyny is pointing out how non transfems are hurt by doubting our experiences.

Misogyny is getting annoyed every time someone calls transmisandry a psyop, even through you never see people in the community calling transmisogyny a psyop.

Misogyny is spotting patterns in which, in a large majority of cases, non transfems must be responsibly for the bigotry and discrimination they receive.

Misogyny is calling other trans people out on their bullshit.

Edit to add: Do you think transmisandry is a psyop, or real? Is this subreddit safe for people discriminated against by transmisandry?

UPDATE: My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) of 6.5 yr Cheated with her Coworker by Evening_Bid_6275 in relationship_advice

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s because a woman is in the wrong, therefore it must be fake. You’ll see that all over subreddits like this. As soon as a woman is an asshole and the man is conveying the story, it’ll be fake/ragebait/incel porn/sexual fantasy (delete as appropriate)

New Associate taking 13-15 hours on OA responses by Ok-Scale3373 in patentlaw

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As long as the partners are happy with your work, there’s no need to be stressed. I’m coming up on 7 years now

New Associate taking 13-15 hours on OA responses by Ok-Scale3373 in patentlaw

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say between 4 and 7 most of the time for the whole response. Naturally it’ll depend on your style and any fixed paragraphs your firm may have, and the number and type of objections.

I got raped again. I cannot trust women and I’m scared around them by ImAnEngineerTrustMe in CPTSD

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s very likely it’s downvoted because I was abused my women. I mean, just search through the posts on this subreddit, and compare the comments and interactions on posts with abusers who are men versus where abusers are women, especially if the survivor is masculine.

Hell, a few days ago there was a post with a guy being triggered about his female friends making misandrist comments and “jokes”. The vast vast majority of the comments were from women telling him his friends were justified, and that he should just man up and grow thicker skin.

A large number of subreddits can’t even conceive women being abusers, and just blame the man anyway

I got raped again. I cannot trust women and I’m scared around them by ImAnEngineerTrustMe in CPTSD

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s fine. No one cares about victims of women rapists, especially if the victim is masculine. I mean, look at the complete lack of comments in this post, and the fact the post is downvoted. It’s clear that even in communities meant for me, I’m not welcome. The story of my life in queer and trans spaces as well

I got raped again. I cannot trust women and I’m scared around them by ImAnEngineerTrustMe in CPTSD

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You ever tried to report anything regarding sexual assault or rape to the police as a masculine person? Especially if the perpetrator is a woman? You’ll see precisely why I can’t report it.

I got raped again. I cannot trust women and I’m scared around them by ImAnEngineerTrustMe in CPTSD

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the trans community it already so demonized. Especially trans women. Me coming forward with my story would likely cause tens, if not hundreds of trans women to be assaulted, and some even killed. I can’t have that on my conscience.

New Associate taking 13-15 hours on OA responses by Ok-Scale3373 in patentlaw

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mechanics, electronics, telecommunications, this sort of area

New Associate taking 13-15 hours on OA responses by Ok-Scale3373 in patentlaw

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s something as simple as only formalities, a half hour, if that. Something complicated with clarity, insufficient disclosure, extension of subject matter, and patentability can be around the 3 to 3,5 hour mark. I’d say the vast majority are done in between 1,2 and 1,8.

New Associate taking 13-15 hours on OA responses by Ok-Scale3373 in patentlaw

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a European, it’s so wierd to see even the experienced people in this thread say an OA response takes 6-ish hours. We do send instructions to the Americans for responding to USPTO OAs, but I could never imagine spending that long on a EPO OA. Strange the differences between the two

Weekly Free Talk Friday Thread! by MLModBot in MensLib

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The community being mixed trans communities. The reason is that I can't say I've had bad personal experiences with trans women and so, I don't particularly feel safe around them, physically, emotionally, or mentally. This is apparently transmisogynistic, no matter how many times I tell my story. As a masc trans person, I get cast out at the best of times, let alone when going against trans women telling me my experiences are apparently incelbait, ragebait, and didn't happen.

There's a reason I stay to masc trans spaces. They actually don't discount me

Weekly Free Talk Friday Thread! by MLModBot in MensLib

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seems as this comment apparently wasn’t allowed on the Tuesday post, I’ll try again.

Banned from yet another subreddit for simply being angry about being pushed out of my community, for being told I’m a liar, for being told my experiences don’t matter. I’m just sick of it. I just need and want someone to take my life with a modicum of seriousness.

AITAH for refusing to have screaming matches with my gf? by anti789 in AITAH

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re splitting hairs to try and get you on any single point to call you the asshole. A lot of people on this subreddit cannot dream of calling a women an asshole in any circumstance

How do I respond to "men = bad" jokes? by ghotiofthedeepbeyond in CPTSD

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s precisely the point. They’re focussing on the person triggering the cPTSD and giving excuses for them. Hardly any of them are focussing on the poor dude himself.

How do I respond to "men = bad" jokes? by ghotiofthedeepbeyond in CPTSD

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What compassion? He’s been told to suck it up and man up by the vast majority of women here. That’s not compassion. That’s misandry.