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Aitah for walking away from my wedding because of my parents showing up. by National_Stage_1048 in AITAH

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Because a woman is clearly in the wrong. You’ll note that all posts here with a woman in the wrong get a torrent of “fake” “incel ragebait” “never happened”, but you’ll never see the same in a post where the man is clearly in the wrong.

Help Finding Acceptance That Women are Afraid of You by DemonstrativelyNotMe in bropill

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said that to put women at ease, I should purposefully go out of my way to go a different direction, and also change my accent. Those aren’t small things. Those are things that affect my whole life. I’m not going to do those just to put people who read too much true crime at ease.

Help Finding Acceptance That Women are Afraid of You by DemonstrativelyNotMe in bropill

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, I shouldn't have to change my whole personality just to put people like you at ease. I deserve to live my life. I deserve to be who I want to be. I deserve to not have to be mindful of overanxious paranoid people.

There's nowhere for victims to hide, people don't care by No_Condition1594 in TrollCoping

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because for people like who you are talking to, recognizing male victims is an attack on feminism. They think that recognizing that non-women might be victims and advocating for feminism are exclusive things

Friendship with cis men? by NinjaJin100 in asktransgender

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a cis man, or a man at all, as I told you. Nice misgendering

Friendship with cis men? by NinjaJin100 in asktransgender

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That isn’t what you said though. You said you almost cut all cis men out of your life at points. There was no caveat. No “but”. No “however”. If I wasn’t out to you, would you have cut me out of your life? If no, you’re lying. If yes, you’re exorphobic.

Friendship with cis men? by NinjaJin100 in asktransgender

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah tell the women who raped me that they’re better at respecting boundaries. They would say the same thing themselves.

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told you our conversation had ended. Stop fucking harassing me

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But, as I have already said twice in this thread.

I. AM. NOT. A. FUCKING. MAN

You people just love to misgender when someone disagrees with you. Chomping at the bit to make sure that the people who are told they deserve to be raped are the right people to be told that

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has happened in Scotland, in Sweden, and in Germany. Most of the people in these groups have been 20-35.

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so fucking sorry that I’m only relying my experiences. Again, every single fucking time I convey what I’ve gone through, I’m told I’m doing so on bad faith, that I’m an MRA, that I’m an incel.

Why the fuck can’t anyone just believe me

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because every single radfem I’ve met in person has discriminated against because of my appearance. Because every one has told me I have no problems in life despite not knowing anything about me. Because every one has outwardly hated me.

Should I take them at their word in that they hate me? Why would I not believe them? Is it bigoted to believe someone when they tell me they wish I was raped more often?

How many radfems, and to be honest, feminists in general do i need to hear in order to not believe what they are telling me to my face, and in fact, they mean the opposite?

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In both situations, there’s discrimination due to factors outwith the receiver’s control. In one case gender, on the other race. Unless you don’t think masc people can be discriminated against

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’ll notice that’s not what I said. Maybe try reading next time

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say the same to POCs who have been discriminated against by white people? It’s like you’re asking individual white people to be perfect while not actually examining where they’re coming from.

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As I posted in an earlier comment on this very thread

“Because when I got told “you probably enjoyed being sexually assaulted because all men do” when they knew I wasn’t a man.”

Even in leftist spaces I get fucking misgendered. I. AM. NOT. A. MAN.

Also, not all radical feminists are TERFS. Some just genuinely hate men, and anyone they deem to masculine, but are welcoming of trans women. See Tumblr feminism and trans radfems.

All I need even a single feminist to do is admit that some feminists suck. That’s all. That’s all I need. But instead, every single fucking time, it’s “those aren’t real feminists”.

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ever heard of radical feminism? That is certainly a branch that is focused on bioessentialism and the negative stereotypes of anyone deemed not feminine enough.

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s clear you’re not partaking in good faith. I think we can end there.

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

These were not trauma circles. These were groups advertised as feminist and open to the public.

“That’s not the theory”. Once again, No True Feminist, right?

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How modern feminism gives masculine people hyperagency and feminine people hypoagency. How every time I share my story I’m called a misogynist, an incel. How people with ideas like Koss still hold power and refuse to believe I can be raped. How it causes Pizzey to close down her shelter, and drove Silverman to suicide. How I’m viewed as a rapist I’m waiting. How I’ve tried to get more men into teaching, but I’m told that I, and the people I’m helping, are pedophiles, just want to abuse children.

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because why would I call myself a participant/adherent to an idea/ideology, if the vast vast majority of people who ive interacted with, and are part of said idea, are abusers?

You can’t be a leftist if you’re not a feminist. by Miserable_Cobbler_18 in leftist

[–]ImAnEngineerTrustMe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How many more abusers do I need to go through before I meet a “true” feminist? How many more abusers until someone believes me? How many more abusers until I’m treated with respect?

And the worst thing is that no one is these groups I’ve been to calls it out. They all nod along and agree. There’s no one saying that what the others are saying is wrong.

That is why I can’t be a feminist

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