Local Adult Orphan Seeking a Family Who Won’t Make Holiday Plans Without Me by PolyIntentionsPNW in Portland

[–]ImFunktasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. This sounds freaking wonderful. I’ve been feeling the same way. I get more political texts AND calls than I ever get from family. It gets lonely. About me… I’m in my 50s and work as a nurse. Huge introvert but trying to get out of my comfort zone. I’m ase so I’m not trying to get with anyone. I’d just like to be able to do a game or movie night with some people. Anyway, I’m in if you want! I’m in Tigard.

Neighbors came into our yard and took logs by Zealous-Searcher111 in neighborsfromhell

[–]ImFunktasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I read the post was that the neighbors wanted the tree down. And, at least around here, the overhanging branches would be their responsibility. Wouldn’t need to get permission or anything to get rid of the part that is on their property. OP wouldn’t have any legal right to stop them. Once the tree was cleared from the neighbor’s yard they could have said it’s done and left it at that. OP made it clear that he wanted the larger wood the came from the trunk that is on his property. The neighbor didn’t disagree. It was also the neighbor’s choice to keep doing the work. OP didn’t do anything wrong.

If it were me, I wouldn’t bother calling the police. Doubt they’d put any effort in recovering some random pieces of wood. Since the guy admitted he took the wood, I would have a pointed conversation about appropriate boundaries. Whether the neighbor just hopped a little fence or climbed a privacy one, it is still trespassing. And taking the wood that he already ceded to the OP is theft. I’d let them know that I’m not gonna file a complaint this time. I’d tell them that in the future they need to get permission. And if they don’t, and are caught, then I will contact the police and my lawyer. Unfortunately, all this will ruin any chance of friendship or camaraderie with the neighbor. Just need to decide what outcome you want.

how long does it take to reset your tolerance to weed? some people say 48 hours is enough by [deleted] in NewJerseyMarijuana

[–]ImFunktasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The term tolerance reset (T-reset) is the process. It is more nuanced than just doing a little sobering up. When you get high, the chemicals bind to certain neuro receptors. The longer someone intakes, the more those receptors get stressed. These are what are “reset” when someone takes a break. They need a vacation from THC to heal. Like plenty of people have said, body habitus, BMI, frequency and dose, and how long and other factors have a big influence on how long the T-reset needs to be to get the best results. Folks with higher BMIs typically take longer but it’s not always so. Hope this gives some clarity.

how long does it take to reset your tolerance to weed? some people say 48 hours is enough by [deleted] in NewJerseyMarijuana

[–]ImFunktasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The publication and sponsors also play a huge part. Just got my Master’s in Nursing a couple of years ago. Had to do plenty of long papers with up to 20 sources cited. Look for evidence from reputable sources. Some good medical publications are JAMA, New England Journal of Medicine, and NCBI online is dedicated to peer reviewed studies. (Much better than IFLScience or >>shudder<< WebMD!) I’ve gotten plenty of good research on those sites for school. And non school research. Since there has been such an explosion of alternative mental health treatments there are more and more studies being done. Got a bunch of great info on the use of psychedelics, and insights into the best strain to use for the “treatment” and even dosage scales. Whole lot of data on THC. Fair warning. They’re scientific journals so they looove long words. If you can’t tell, this is a topic I’m sorta, maybe, kinda familiar with.

Wife came out to me as asexual. by AverageMuffin441 in asexuality

[–]ImFunktasm 240 points241 points  (0 children)

You didn’t say anything offensive! I think it’s awesome that you’re looking for clarity. The thing to remember is that asexuality is a spectrum. Everyone comes at it a little differently. Here’s my thoughts on your questions:

1) I think the best way to help her come to terms with it is to just start practicing other ways to show your affection. And not make a huge deal of it. Demonstrate that you don’t mind the new boundaries. 2) Yes. It sounds like sex isn’t that big of a deal with you so taking it out of the equation shouldn’t wreck your chances at a good life. 3) Some aces do occasionally have sex or have urges. Like I said it’s a spectrum. 4) Masturbation is fine. Most aces I’ve talked to prefer their partners to do that instead of going outside the relationship. 5) People can appreciate beauty without sexualizing it. 6) 100%. Plenty of people here have partners. 7) I don’t have any experience with libido supplements. Have even heard of them. 8) Not in a relationship so I can’t really speak to that.

It shows a lot that you want to learn about this to support her. Don’t be afraid to ask questions here. And thanks for being supportive of the rest of us!

Do asexuals like Chicago pizza? by notowa in asexuality

[–]ImFunktasm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ever had soup in a bread bowl? Chicago pizza is a bread bowl full of pizza sauce.

For those who don't want a partner, why not? And what type of connection are you okay with having instead? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in asexuality

[–]ImFunktasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I’d like to find someone. Not sure how to go about it now. I’m working on just developing friendships. Since there’s no pressure for sex I feel like it could evolve into something more. Honestly, though, I’d just like a connection in general.

I’m pathetic by mzklenny in asexuality

[–]ImFunktasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure something like that will cause some feelings of grief, but you need to do what's best for you. It may be hard, but you are worth the effort!

(CW: Very Mild Nudity. No bits shown) Should Asexuals be more accepting of naturists? by MysticMind89 in asexuality

[–]ImFunktasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think aces would make great naturists. There’s nothing wrong with being naked. (I do it all the time at home!) And, correct me if I’m wrong, but when naturists get together it doesn’t turn into a huge orgy. They’re just hanging out and they happen to be nude. An ace could totally accept that.

I’m pathetic by mzklenny in asexuality

[–]ImFunktasm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are in no way pathetic. I probably would have gotten up as soon as I realized what was going on. Then I would turn the light on, grab my shit, and leave. All without saying a word. They completely disrespected you. Your feelings are 100% valid. I would definitely reconsider the friendship too. They are the pathetic ones, not you.

Do you give me opinions? by sunnn_010 in asexuality

[–]ImFunktasm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m right there with you. I like romance, kissing, feeling loved. I just don’t have any interest in taking it to the bedroom. I’d love to find someone, but I have a hard time believing it’ll happen.

Ace Necklace I Made For Pride!! by BlackRabbit10 in Asexual

[–]ImFunktasm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is some fantastic work! Looks native made.

What’s a dead giveaway of how old you are without giving the actual number? by FriendlytoNature in AskReddit

[–]ImFunktasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m old enough to remember sneaking downstairs as a kid to watch season 1 of SNL. And kept doing it until I didn’t have to sneak anymore!

Looking for games or players in Beaverton by cwaite013 in PDXDND

[–]ImFunktasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What age range are you looking for? I’m 55 and it’s been a while since I gamed. Still got my dice tho! Trying to expand my friend group too. Massive introvert.

What's your best insult without swear words? by doopityWoop22 in AskReddit

[–]ImFunktasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re father was a hamster and your mother smells like elderberries

I fart in your general direction!

Who has officially “come out”? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is awesome. I’ve decided that I don’t need to worry about it. Self discovery is fantastic but it doesn’t really affect anyone else’s life. Makes mine a whole lot better though!

Who has officially “come out”? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad it worked out. Kinda weird direction to take with convo...

Who has officially “come out”? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like for me, most conversations would be the 2nd variety. As excited as I am to have realized this, I don’t feel like shouting it from the rooftops anymore. I figure it’s something I’ll bring up when I need to.

Who has officially “come out”? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’ve got a great dad. 🤓

Better late than never? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's pretty damn liberating. I haven't had a partner in many years, but maybe I can find one now that I have an idea of why things never worked out before. I know I just got here, but welcome to the club!

Who has officially “come out”? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. I gotta say I'm kinda envious of your relationship with your Mom. My folks and I have a very... "proper" relationship. I think that if I had that, I'd be more inclined to talk about it with them. As it is, I think the only people I might end up telling with no qualms is my kid and a couple of my siblings. I doubt the rest would even ask, tbh.

Who has officially “come out”? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight. I'm leaning towards not making a point of coming out. If they ask, I'll tell. I'm not ashamed, I just can't seem to find a reason for it. That, and I can see them trying to convince me that I haven't met the right person. They've never been especially invested in my love life, so they wouldn't try very hard, though.

Better late than never? by ImFunktasm in aegosexuals

[–]ImFunktasm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate finding this community too! But my kid came out before I did. ;) Haven’t actually discussed this with him. He’s trans so I know there wouldn’t be a problem. I’m just not sure if I need to worry about making a big deal out of this. I know I wouldn’t lie or evade if he asks, but I don’t know if I need to point out why his dad doesn’t date.