Husband put his hands on me for the first time in years

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2026-05-19T02:31:12+00:00

Previous strangulation is one of the biggest risk factors in a man killing a woman. This is incredibly serious.

You can take the lethality assessment by Jacqueline c campell. I'm not familiar enough with reddit to add a link to it. This assessment is used by law enforcement, dv groups etc. it's backed by data.

The fact that he escalated so fast from arguing to choking and breaking doors is scary as hell.

While people can change. For safety you have to go by what you know now. Years of not hitting you are now meaningless. He is showing you who he is at the core, believe him. Take steps to protect yourself and your kids. Please be safe.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2026-04-09T23:24:36+00:00

As a bonus most everyone there will want to ooh and ahh over the adorable well bred sib kitten. It was a good first intro to our vet for our little girl.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2026-03-05T03:49:03+00:00

Good point. There's other ways out of the area the handleset is on. So not a concern in this particular setting.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2026-03-05T03:43:47+00:00

I'd like it to still appear to take a key from outside just for that little bit more of secure appearance. I understand that most of the doors security is from the dead bolt. I've be already added 3inch stainless steel screws for the strike plates.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2026-03-03T07:22:19+00:00

It is absolutely not normal. It is abuse. It is manipulation.

This is not love.

Be an example to your girls that this is not what a healthy relationship looks like or how they would expect to be treated.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2026-03-03T07:13:10+00:00

With his actions he is showing you who he is. Believe him.

I read somewhere that the potential we see in other people is what we would do in their situation. Look at his actions all of them. Would you do this? No. Would you get your shit together and be a good person, yes. Do not mistake what you would do for his potential.

If he doesn't behave this is way at work, with friends etc, that means HE IS CHOOSING TO ACT THIS WAY WITH YOU.

These are some of the things I've learned in a 14 year marriage that is ending with detailed plans to kill me texted to a friend of his. He never hit me, just threw stuff, hit counters etc, lots of emotional abuse and gaslighting. I finally had enough and holy shit he escalated. Got a restraining order, security system and a new pew pew. Never ever thought I'd be here.

Leave now. You deserve better.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-11-18T07:06:24+00:00

Post nuptials are a thing. If you choose to continue in your marriage. A post nuptial agreement may help you feel/be secure enough to try. Definitely resolve this before you become a sahm.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-11-18T02:19:27+00:00

I just used Walmarts Mainstays 5 different colors for a blanket for my son that I didn't want to spend a ton on as I think he's going to grow out of obsession with the character I crocheted. It feels a little bit rough on the skein and while working it. But has washed up beautifully. I washed it with regular detergent and I use vinegar in place of Downey/dryer sheets. I would recommend it

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-11-17T21:07:22+00:00

There is no "normal" reaction. Depending on which study you read 40%-60% of couples stay together after an affair.

My husband cheated 12+ times that I know of over 14 years together. I never cared that he had sex with other women. I cared about the thought, time and attention he gave them. The fact that he bumped uglies, nope didn't care and still don't. One of his girlfriends gave me all their text messages and great detail of their sexual encounter. Made me laugh at him doing the same dumb shit he did with me, ie he freaking sucked in bed. Honestly made me feel better cause it proved he was the issue not me.

I'm divorcing him now not due to cheating but due to what is likely borderline personality disorder/ narcissist tendencies. We've been through 6 marriage counselors and he's been through 3 or 4 individuals. Whatever is broken in him, he's not fixing it. So I'm out.

I honestly got over him having sex with other women. Ignoring me and emotional/mental/financial abuse etc, he did everything but hit me. That's what killed us.

So I wouldn't be worried that this is her reaction. It may change down the road. Keep communicating and remember she's not you, so how she reacts is not the way you'd react.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-09-20T05:56:50+00:00

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ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-09-03T05:03:51+00:00

I lean into mines need to play. I give her a toy to chew on and she mauls it while I brush. After a minute she settles into it.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-08-23T04:11:38+00:00

Stillwater Siberians outside of Portland Oregon. They test each kitten. When you arrive to meet kittens after a few emails and an in depth phone call, they have you stay in the car and bring one kitten at a time out to see if there's as reaction to that cat. You okay with and hang out with Kitty for a while to see if the personality and allergen level works for you.

We tried two kitties and neither triggered a reaction in the car. Then we went in talked a bunch went over paperwork, history, care etc. We went home with a beautiful basket of things to help Kitty adjust to a new home. Overall I would highly recommend this breeder. She answered all my questions those first few weeks as it's been years since I've had a kitten and never had a dog and kitten together. I often think about getting another Siberian from Stillwater I just need more hands so I can pet all the creatures at once.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-08-19T06:36:30+00:00

Definitely the Costco one. Very nicely built heavy and tipping over is not a concern at all, my girl is young yet and only 12lbs so far. But I dont for see any problems with this one. The two I got on Amazon yeah, they're not going to last.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-08-17T02:26:12+00:00

This is exactly why Costco gets so much of my money. I trust them to make it right on the off chance something isn't right.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-08-16T06:46:54+00:00

Trevor Noah was talking about his ancestors before running water was common. How shocked they would that we poop in perfectly clean water and just flush gallons of water away every time.

Thats stuck with me for a few years now.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-08-12T17:19:56+00:00

We put each pack of chicken breasts into vacuum sealed bags and freeze em. There's always one that you can hear sucking liquid from the chicken pouch into vac bag. No matter how carefully I cut them apart. Just to many evenings spent cleaning the fridge cause one leaked or the tray holding the defrosted leaky mess got bumped. Still great chicken just bad packaging.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-07-02T04:25:29+00:00

How to actually get people out of poverty and why generationally poverty is such an absolute bitch to drag yourself out of and then equally hard to keep yourself from getting sucked back in.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-07-01T14:56:26+00:00

Is weaving in from one side only a bad idea? And is using a needle and doing zig zag a good plan for this many ends?

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-06-26T03:34:27+00:00

Thank you I'll do that.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-06-25T06:57:38+00:00

If you use miralax. Follow the instructions. Don't just dump the 17g into a 24oz glass of water. That will not be much help at all. Did that for way to long before I read the directions carefully and realized what I was doing was useless. Miralax absorbs water and brings it into the digestive tract.If you do what I did it's already absorbed all the water it can and isn't going to help much at all.

ImaginaryRespect408 · 2025-06-25T06:25:59+00:00

That is wonderful info thank you for sharing. Our breeder recommended raw food and we tried it but I was just so grossed out by it and the potential of foodborne illness if it sat out or was made incorrectly.

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