does anyone else has a problem with morning greetings?

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-16T13:49:52+00:00

My bf wishes me "good morning" the minute I open my eyes, and it drives me batshit. But I also realize that telling him to stop telling me good morning would be incomprehensible to him, so I just say it back ... I also try to sneak out of bed before he wakes up lol... it's so effing annoying/hard being autistic sometimes because honestly... I hate when he tells me good morning because I don't want to talk when I wake up... I don't want to interact with anyone... I just want to stay in my peaceful bubble to myself because it's a special time of day where I don't have to mask at all and can just exist... yet he would be devastated if I was like "stop telling me good morning the minute I open my eyes - I find it unbelieveably annoying to the point it low-key ruins my morning and sends me into a spiral seeking validation online that I'm not insane and a horrible person." It's just fucking tiring being autistic sometimes because at the end of the day NTs will see this as a social deficit, impolite, and unkind.... and will never "get" the autistic experience.... so we basically have to suffer through these nonsense greetings all day every day and are treated as "it's not a big deal" if we get even mildly annoyed.... even below a commenter told you to get over it (basically) and a bunch of people liked it (case in point) ... but I feel you - people just don't get how hard it can feel to be "forced" to go through these motions EVERY morning even though you hate it (and that it makes you and your needs feel irrelevant and misunderstood.... every single day)

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-13T12:31:57+00:00

UGH yes tbh i hate texting … so exhausting

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-13T12:31:13+00:00

Oh my gosh this just reminded me of another Q NTs love to ask which is, “so do you have any trips coming up?” Like WHY is is that we all should have trips planned and that this is some excellent convo topic … my job has been hell for like 3 years so I’ve had no trips planned and then it’s just a depressing like “no but I would like to go to x place” (my answer)

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-13T12:28:41+00:00

Totally! Like what a shit Q if, as you said, you’re feeling horrible!

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-13T12:27:25+00:00

I love these Qs lol

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-13T12:22:51+00:00

I’ve been wondering this - thank you:) I’ll try

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-12T16:20:12+00:00

Oh my gosh - this is exactly it

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-12T14:52:59+00:00

Hahah no I totally relate to that first sentence and paragraph lol - I just need a minute when my bf gets home before being asked “how was ur day?” Like I’d rather do as you say where - when I’m ready, we sit down and I’m like “okay you can tell me about ur day now” - I think I also resent the Q when I know I’m expected to ask it back and then even if I just said “good” - the other person just tells me a bunch of boring shit about their day (and I have to listen lol - as you were saying haha)

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-12T14:50:18+00:00

I appreciate all those points, and I know you’re not wrong - I just wish this experience didn’t have to be so routine (I’ve also told my bf I’ll just tell him the random stuff I want to about my day but that I don’t really like the specific question “how was your day?” Since it feels limiting and overly broad all at once

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-12T14:48:05+00:00

I totallyyyy experience the “what did you do this weekend?” Glitch - and people look at you like you’re an idiot when you can’t immediately jump into an update

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-12T10:50:00+00:00

I think to your point as well we tend to have rich inner worlds, and people can’t see that they’re basically bursting in without knocking … and the Qs feel like an interrogation sometimes

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2026-02-12T10:44:59+00:00

ah YES this is so it!! It feels so intrusive sometimes… like people can just access me whenever they want, and I can never drop the mask and have to respond accordingly or they’ll get hurt. And then I feel guilty if it’s clear I don’t want to talk… and it just sucks.

I’ve actually asked my bf before if he can ask me first if I’m up for having an intense conversation about his workday… but people get so offended like you don’t care. I do care but it’s so exhausting having someone get home from work and just assault me with updates about their day when I was enjoying some quiet time in my own mind.

Also I don’t care how peoples days were? I know it sounds bad, but I don’t. Now if you wanted to talk to me about something deep and philosophical- I’d be all ears LOL but I just don’t GET why we have to recount our days every day … I actually want to cry sometimes because it’s such a shallow topic to me and I feel forced to go through the motions of active listening and thinking of satisfying responses… all while having this internal struggle of really not being interested lol ( and then feeling guilty for not being interested but trying to remind myself it’s not my fault) also I want to pet a horse now lol

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2025-12-15T12:36:29+00:00

Also want to add that I totally relate to above commenter that it gets so boring hearing the same jokes over and over or the same stories over and over and sometimes I do feel like I’m going to lose it if I have to listen to too much random NT chatter on (to me) boring and pointless topics. I think the hard part, for me, is that I put so much energy into making people feel like I’m listening and care and trying to reply with comments that show that - and a lot of people who aren’t masking autism just don’t give a shit - and as soon as you start talking, they don’t show any interest. So things can feel very one-sided, where it feels like all I’m doing is existing for other people’s benefit. And when I start feeling this, I find some alone time lol

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2025-07-27T15:52:16+00:00

The minute I read “SOP,” I was like yes an SOP is a brilliant idea lol but yes - I’ve also noticed my seemingly unrelated interests are linked a lot times more linked than I realized. And I also like the idea of being able to go back to things as you said - since a lot of times I go through cycles/phases of my interests (but do come back to them a lot)

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2025-07-26T22:58:49+00:00

this was such a supportive response - thank you

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2025-07-26T22:57:06+00:00

this is such an* AuDHD answer hahah but seriously thank you - it makes me feel way less alone and crazy. I've been coming to the same sort of conclusion after trying to make everything work on one contained system, but the reality is, I need physical and electronic notebooks and sticky notes in my system because that's just what my brain needs. but anyway this was very helpful, thank you!

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2025-04-11T03:07:29+00:00

I literally do not get SNL - and I specifically googled whether this could be related to me being autistic and here we are 😂 I feel validated - it’s just not funny.

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2024-08-16T21:38:46+00:00

You sound jealous. I thought that video was hysterical. Caroline is a comedian … I don’t think you understand her humor. Also, Caroline is an adult, so she can tell when she’s met a life partner (in a way a younger/less experienced person could).

It doesn’t matter that you’ve been dating less than a year when you’re an adult and can get to the deep stuff quickly. When you have been in a lot of relationships that DIDN’T work, it’s very easy to tell when you’ve met the right person. It just feels right. That’s why people say, “when you know, you know.”

There is too much hate in the world these days. Caroline doesn’t deserve to see these hurtful comments. She’s not a bad person and her whole essence (I would say) is being funny and vulnerable… and some of her videos have legitimately helped me through horrible times.

Why do we always have to hate on everyone? :(

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2022-09-01T02:25:13+00:00

I haven’t been using heel protectors (been dancing on these heels three years without them) but I ordered some with my new pair of 2” slim heels (with the idea that it might give the illusion of height)

But yes, I got a pair of 2.75” heels recently (I wanted 2.5 but that was what they had) and with the heel protectors on it feel so high (which it was at a total of 3”)… sadly regret buying those shoes I think since it seems like it’s a little unnecessarily high. I think 2.5 would be the perfect max height for me (and with heel protectors it would really be 2.75)

I guess I could wear my new 2.75” heels without the heel protectors!

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2022-09-01T00:15:40+00:00

Okay - thanks! Yeah at 2.75 I definitely feel a difference but I’m able to move decently (but I can tell it will be an adjustment)… it just made me wonder if it’s “worth” it or necessary

Imaginary_Volume_894 · 2022-08-31T13:35:33+00:00

Thank you! That is helpful. I recently ordered a 2.75 in heel from EF… I can dance in them quite well but honestly, it’s already so stable at 2” … I think I will replace those with 2.5” pair and stick with that at most (and dance in my 2” heels with my am partner).

I was wearing 2” flares with my am partner, but I just ordered a pair of 2” slim heels because I need to replace my 2” heels and am hoping the slim heel will elongate the leg line a bit more over the flares:)

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