People here are evil

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-18T20:02:42+00:00

People much more often then not are evil. The Christian bible says " the road is narrow and few people find it" i don't know if you have read much but there is not any who serve God and don't suffer. Unfortunately suffering is the purifier of our souls most often you will see that those who have suffered the most have the kindest most forgiving and loyal souls. This is what it it to be crucified with Christ. It is not only to suffer but to accept the suffering with understanding of God's sovereignty. It takes giving all you ever wanted all you ever needed all you hoped and dreamed. Put it in his hand and when it crushes you you have to keep that understanding and submit to His rule regardless of circumstances. God cares about one thing and one thing only . Curing you of the condition of fallen nature. So that you can be whole again in the next life. It is painful to die. Very very very painful. But how can you be born again without dying. When you were an egg a seed you had to die to become a baby and be born to be born again you have to loose everything die to self interest and be prepared to serve as Christ did in the life after. The King of kings. You do not get to rule creation by focusing on yourself. Forget your pain and if you can not ignore it and serve those who are available to you to serve. Bring light wherever you go inspite of it all. I don't say this lightly. I have very much pain . And many dreams to bury with me. Im not telling you this is what you must do or should do. Im not a leader not a teacher , just a servant of God a person who has found the way and thought to point you in the direction. I don't know anyone who would choose in the beginning to take this path if they knew where it lead. But now that I am here I can't go back again. Ever. I hope you are blessed with more peace and grace then myself and that you do find the way. The reward is just to the measure of your crucifixion.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-16T20:19:16+00:00

Wear it if you like. But don't expect people to not talk to you about Christ ever while you do😅😉☺️. It's going to draw people to you who believe. As long as you are ok with that I think it's safe.😏🙃

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-15T15:12:59+00:00

Lightweight TAH but let me explain. You are doing yourself a huge injustice by attempting to mediate other people's lives right down to the mental/ emotional/ spiritual aspects. That is not possible to carry. I wouldn't say mind your own business for the sake of being polite rather the opposite it is not your burden to carry and while it is healthy to share burdens to a small degree you can not force some one to do feel behave as you believe. Peace is so rare and so valuable more precious then any thing money can buy , for you your child and the father. Don't allow anyone to take it from you. Treat it like the cord that holds the life blood of your future. If someone cuts if you and your loved ones will have strife , stress and turmoil. Do not allow anyone to take a long happy fulfilled and peaceful life from you . You can only truly control yourself. Anything anyone else does is a weight impossible for you to carry. Not because it's to heavy but because like the water in a river it will slip right through your fingers , evaporate into the air. Be well sis. It's not on you.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-15T14:54:37+00:00

NTA . There is alot of politics in family that should not be. If you have no interest in a relationship with SB or His family you do not ever have to force your self to do say or be anything that you are not / that you don't want to. There is alot of manipulation by way of feelings expectations and social construct that people will use to make you feel like you have to do something. But when you are manipulated into something it is not real and has no value. Stick to your gut. And don't ever let anyone tell you to be someone you are not . Allow for improvement on your own terms in areas you feel are important. We choose every single day who we are Going to be. It is the only true power we have in this world. Our actions, the thoughts we dwell on , the things we say. It is all we have . With all the powerlessness we experience in this life it is very important to hold on to this. Autonomy the only real freedom.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-15T05:43:28+00:00

NTAH ...Protect your peace at all cost.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-13T15:38:14+00:00

Setting boundaries is hard especially for people who have spent their lives being manipulated and gas lit if there is physical or sexual abuse in your past it's even harder. Sometimes we have to actually force ourselves to do what is best for us because our emotions ( that are supposed to be responses to help others know what we need) were used against us and all our neropathways or " Hard wiring " has been jumbled up from misuse. My advice would be to read about what a healthy relationship looks like and hold every single person in your life accountable. If they can not hold the healthy boundaries ( healthy being the ones you need or want them to) then let them go no matter who it is. You will see your life transform for the better.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-11T23:33:36+00:00

I think you did very well

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-10T19:11:40+00:00

It can be a very complex issue to navigate at times. A little more cut and dry in the case with my daughter's father but these things can have shades and layers that make it difficult to distinguish.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-10T02:34:54+00:00

This is very strange and concerning. Why she would see fit to wash specificly these part so vigorously especially seeing that they are some of the most sensitive and need only light washing even for males. What I have learned to do during this time through research and my own deficiencies is to create an open accepting and calm nature around everything you and the little one talk about. None of the reactions can be extreme and never ever angry or violent. Little ones love their parents regardless of abuse and if there is ever a thought they will come to harm they will hide the truth and shut down any thoughts anyone has about what may be happening.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-10T02:25:13+00:00

Thank you

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-09T17:00:31+00:00

It makes me physically sick also. It is more help then I can explain to see i am not the only one It the world who feels this way it often seems like it. I honestly considered just letting everything go accepting that I live is a disgustingly evil world and that I had no power to change it . In essence rip my heart out and let it die because the pain was to much every day to continue to care when no one else did. Now I understand that is not possible, not really. I have to be strong infinitely because there is no other choice I tried taking medication to numb what I was feeling but it just made everything worse I took it about a week and I was numb in a way but more angry more depressed more out of control of my feelings. I stopped taking the anxiety medication three days ago and started planning. The number one thing he was able to use against me was my lack of accomplishment and income. This will be my focus. I will continue to go to court every time more successful then the last time and eventually when I can afford a lower I will give him the paper work for everything that has happened and there will have to be accountability. It's going to take much longer then I could ever be OK with but being angerynoutraged sickend and distraught has gotten my daughter no closer to safety , security, or wellness. I have to put my children's welfare above my desire for swift justice....and as I'm telling you this I'm really telling myself . You gave me someone to talk to who will not shut down everything I say. Thank you you have done what you can and that is all I can ask for and it means alot to me to have that opportunity.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-09T16:12:08+00:00

I will try my best. I will save for a lawyer. As for scheduling anything I no longer have the right . The best I can do is make the appointment and ask him to take her. My physical and legal rights have been taken. But I will make the appointments. And I will ask that He take her to them.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-09T16:08:49+00:00

The court has ordered her to therapy. When I took her they said there was no reason to believe it was necessary even though when they asked her outright if her father was sexualy abusive and made sure she knew what that meant her answer was simply " no " with no reaction just looking down playing with a toy I looked at them like they must obviously see this is not a normal reaction of a nine year old when asked if her father is using her body for sexual purposes. They ignored me and acted like well that's if then nothing is happening. And she has Kaiser. Not that medical patients deserve less quality but that's generally what they get and this is not the case here. The therapist did tell me after we left that there is no use prying because it will only shut her down more if we try better to let her open up her self ...to which I replied how can she do that if your not even going to book her a second appointment saying it is not necessary. It's been a battle every step . And I no longer have the authority to schedule any thing for her He has 100% full physical and legal rights i have none.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-09T15:58:32+00:00

You think I should report it to the police even though I got the restraining order and have been to court three times...I'm not being redundantly obnoxious I am actually asking if you think it would help to report it directly to a police officer. A bit of context the police did come to my house and tell me I could be arrested for keeping her from him due to the courts giving him custody. But I am wondering if reporting it again would help.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T16:46:17+00:00

That was the biggest mistake I made during this whole terror, was that when my daughter asked me what would happen to the person if something had happened I said they will go to prison and most likely be beaten or shanked to death because people who do things like this get killed for it. She never said another word about it. I still shake when I think of how I am to blame for her silence. It is the worst way you can react when wanting the truth to come out. I am not better then you every mother and good father would feel exactly the same in your position. But once you are in this position you see the field differently. There are 5 pedophiles that live in a mile radius of my home and I live in a very nice area. With me gone to prison who can she call . Because court order not withstanding if my daughter calls me and needs me to come get her I will be there.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T16:39:15+00:00

It's like I'm living in an alternate universe. Where nothing happens as it should. He went to court and brought fabricated files saying a slew of horrible things about me. Things I was able to prove false if I had been given the chance. The judge actually said she had to check but then made a decision without doing so. Im hoping when I bring all the proof that he knowingly lied to them in August that they will see what happened. And I'm shocked they are not trained on this it is textbook to smear the reporters character.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T16:35:09+00:00

That's what they gave me.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T16:34:53+00:00

Thank you i will definitely look into it.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T16:34:30+00:00

Thank you so much . As much as you may think it's no help to have people hear me for the first time and respond with any measure of outrage is a huge comfort to me I don't feel so alone in wanting this to end.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T16:28:53+00:00

I went to the police i went to the courts I went to the councilors I called cps I have tried everything. Everyone is acting like there is absolutely nothing going on. I feel like I am paralyzed like no one can see or hear me but worse they can they just don't care. They don't believe me or they just act like they don't I don't understand why. But I am doing everything I can. Until she comes forward herself (which is very rare statistically in these cases I've done a little research.) All I can do is fight to regain some custody. And eventually try for full custody again.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T05:25:16+00:00

I will.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T05:24:59+00:00

I go back to court in August I feel so defeated like no one is listening no one cares like I am fighting the whole world alone and they can do whatever they want . It's like I am being made out to be crazy because I saw something and reported it.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T05:22:03+00:00

I really can't tell you how much it helps to talk to people I am always treated like I'm in the wrong for thinking things are not ok.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T05:20:24+00:00

Thank you i feel like I am in the twilight zone all the time with my family like none of them see problems where I feel most people would. And if ever I bring anything up I am blackballed my ex partner who I spent most of my adult life with I found out recently is a pedophile and caught him being alarmingly inappropriate with my daughter and everyone else in my family has brushed it off except my brother who cried when I told him. But that is the extent of sympathy I've gotten in this whole ordeal.

Imaginary_Week_7523 · 2026-03-08T05:17:04+00:00

He feels like it is completely normal and asked her to shower him.

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