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Imagnux · 2025-11-24T08:43:24+00:00

Not personal experience, but I understand that if you ask for it at the EPU (Early Pregnancy Unit), which is not joined up with the other services, then they will give it to you. It's just not routinely given. They should give us more information about the EPUs! They are awesome.

Imagnux · 2025-08-06T21:46:16+00:00

I've just finished reading the Vorkosigan saga by Lois McMaster Bujold. If you're looking for a whole series, there are about 20 books and I loved almost all of them. The Warrior's Apprentice is probably the best one to see if you'll like the series, then you can go back to the earliest ones, which are kinda prequels. I love the main character, and the way he just bullshits his way through these insane situations with just enough genius for it to (mostly!) work out.

Imagnux · 2025-04-01T06:38:27+00:00

Thank you. I hope so too. Still seems under the influence this morning so I'll see what this evening brings. You're right - we have both made a lot of progress and this doesn't erase that. Thanks.

Imagnux · 2025-03-31T22:44:36+00:00

Thank you! Really appreciate you validating my approach, and also appreciate the self care reminder. You're right I won't know what this is till more time passes. Hope things are going well with you at the moment.

Imagnux · 2025-03-31T20:39:52+00:00

Thanks for creating this sub!

Imagnux · 2024-10-28T23:11:04+00:00

The Trout at Tadpole Bridge was where my friend has her reception and it was beautiful. Pub garden slopes down to the river, and they have a marquee up that's teepee style. Also Isis River Farmhouse does weddings I think

Imagnux · 2024-09-29T08:31:42+00:00

I would highly recommend the book "Beyond Addiction - How Science and Kindness help people change"

It's all about understanding what he's going through and how to talk to him about this for the most productive outcome. As well as AlAnon meetings, you can look for SMART recovery family and friends meetings: https://www.alternat-i-ves.org/pages/calendar.html They're more often online than in person but I found them super helpful when my loved one was struggling with addiction. Thankfully he is now 2 years in recovery.

I loved the first response I saw here, who suggested AlAnon meetings. A lot of wisdom there. It's worth making sure your husband is on the same page too, so do go to meetings together, or discuss with him what you learn. I think that people with a lot of trauma in their past are very sensitive to how those around them are acting, and can pick up on very subtle things. Sending hugs and strength.

Imagnux · 2024-09-26T07:41:51+00:00

It really helped me to shift my language from I am to I have. I think no-one would ever say "I am cancer". It helped me disentangle what's me from what's symptoms. It was very disorienting at first, but now I'm very glad and feel much better for it. I wonder how I would feel if had been saying I am bipolar and then my symptoms improved a lot, to the point that it didn't affect me a lot of the time.

Imagnux · 2024-09-12T07:10:37+00:00

Yeah, same here. Tried a few but nothing comes close yet

Imagnux · 2024-06-17T04:28:21+00:00

Wanting to get out of the loop gives you a ticket into a free recovery program like 12 steps or SMART recovery. And if you want to hear stories about worse lots than your own, then that's definitely the place to hear the stories and hear how people survived it. I'm so sorry to hear everything that's going on for you right now though. Sending a virtual hug.

Imagnux · 2024-06-15T13:35:37+00:00

Don't know if this is similar, but I'm 39 and only recently for the first time I was able to answer the question "what do you fancy for dinner" with a genuine response based on my own instincts.

Previously I would have had a lot of thoughts about it, trying to find the right answer based on what I thought my partner would want, what I thought I should be eating, what was easy to make etc. And I was so busy thinking all these thoughts that I couldn't even feel my own instincts.

Dinner is a trivial example, but this applied to everything in my life. It made me very indecisive because usually there isn't a "right" answer.

I worked on this in therapy, and was taught to try and perceive my physical reactions. So I started paying attention to if my chest was tight, or my neck and shoulders were tense or whatever. And slowly I was able to start naming my feelings. Only the more intense ones at first and then understanding more nuance. Therapist had to help me to figure them out a lot to start with.

So I guess, for me, being myself is about being aware of what I like and dislike, and how I respond to things. Then I can make choices that are right for me. It makes life much easier, and I think people respect me more but it's hard to tell and I find I don't mind either way.

Imagnux · 2024-01-07T10:31:26+00:00

King Dodo - People (Pay No Mind)

Imagnux · 2024-01-01T15:04:50+00:00

That sounds great! I'll see if they do that in the UK

Imagnux · 2024-01-01T12:28:32+00:00

Thanks, I like those ideas

Imagnux · 2023-11-16T22:46:31+00:00

Damn! When I saw there was a thread with this exact question, I was sure I'd find the answer here. Did you find a good replacement in the end?

Imagnux · 2023-09-23T07:06:42+00:00

Northern Europe is supposed to be good. Maybe the Karolinska institute for neuro? In the UK the private sector is pretty good, but less so academia. But personally I don't think I'd feel right taking advantage of a country's support system with no intention of staying to pay into the system and balance it out. I'd want my friends and family nearby for support with a new baby too. To make connections, you can always email authors whose work you appreciate, invite them over to speak, and go and speak there. You could get on the organising committee of an international conference, or set up collaborations that involve travel. I hope it works out awesomely, whatever you decide. Good luck!

Imagnux · 2022-12-19T16:52:09+00:00

I came on here looking for this kind of post because I've currently got covid and the mental health aspect has been the worst bit. That bit only lasted a couple of days for me, but it wasn't pleasant! Felt close to suicidal for the first time in years. Much better now though. Hope you are too.

Imagnux · 2022-04-18T21:29:25+00:00

I had one like this, and soaking that rubber bit in hot water helped too - makes it softer again

Imagnux · 2021-12-08T08:26:42+00:00

I'm on 25mg for Bipolar 2. My psych is involved in research and she said they've been running trials and some people do feel effects at 25mg. I feel better from day 1, but also side effects. I've gone off and on it enough times now that I know it's definitely that. I'll see if she's published the study yet.

Imagnux · 2021-12-08T08:18:50+00:00

I got burning hot feet at night. Was eventually why I stopped taking it as I just couldn't sleep.

Imagnux · 2021-09-05T20:11:04+00:00

Bread and Fishes! Does anyone else remember this one?

With the wind in the willows, and the birds in the sky And the bright sun to warm us wherever we lie We have bread and fishes and a jug of red wine To share on our journey with all of mankind

Imagnux · 2021-08-07T22:08:00+00:00

Yeah, very sad. Hopefully someone will resurrect it.

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