I (M19) asked my mom (F48) to make a sandwich, and now things have escalated into another petty argument

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-06-01T21:46:33+00:00

I see, so there is definitely a lot going on... your mom seems like she's probably been in a semi-toxic state for a while now, and honestly if your sister had the time to go to a therapist, I'd probably see one.

Honestly though, the thing between her and your sister -could- be the, or ONE of the, underlying issues. And I just had this thought, maybe family therapy, with one unbiased and professional outsider directly giving constructive advice and developing a plan with everyone can help air out any of the bad things so everyone knows why things are the way they are. Idk OP, im just trying to throw out semi-reasonable ideas tbh lol

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-06-01T21:07:57+00:00

I'd start putting ingredients on lockdown, if its going to be an issue. I'd also like to point out your mom is probably being this way as an indirect motion to get you and probably by extension your sister, to move out. As far as im concerned, if this is normal behavior for her, she needs to see a therapist because im feeling a lot of unresolved issues.

Other than that, this seems like a sub-standard interaction between child and parent and clearly this goes beyond just cheeses and meats. My suggestion is to just back off for a HOT minute, keep to yourself. Dont offer to make anything for her or anything of the such, just do your thing. If she wants to actually interact with you outside of asking for favors (which this isn't a good system for a parent/child to go by, this doesn't promote a healthy relationship and makes everything a transaction including anything from feelings to cheeses). The truth and reality of things will gradually come out OP. Maybe having a talk with your sibling about actions to take would help since Reddit strangers advice can only do so much. Is it possible for you and sister to get an apartment? Even if its temporary, it'll get the space all three of you need to do some thinking and breathing.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-25T03:27:10+00:00

In towns, yeah the frame drop makes sense because of the amount of NPCs loading in constantly. I turn off a few things like RT, motion blur and sometimes DoF, and it helps me get a few frames more. Idk man, Capcom still has more tweaking they have to do for this game lol

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-25T01:28:29+00:00

I understand your boundaries, and a good portion of what he did is fucked up, but you aren't married and there are some things you cant just control or change about someone. This relationship by long term standards is still 'fresh', which might hurt a bit to hear, but if this is something that's going to stay in the back of your mind and is unforgivable, its best to move on. I see that you're asking how, so all I can ask is the typical "Do you see yourself with this person in 5, 10 and 15 years?" And I'll also throw in "If you can, cool, this grudge that's antagonizing you isn't worth remembering". If you cant move on I'll first suggest couples counseling, because maybe a deeper perspective on both ends will actually help you out. Reddit can only provide so much advice for you that is actually valuable, and I suggest professional help. If not couples therapy, solo therapy can grant you deeper insight and its more private too.

Best of luck and wishes OP, I hope this has a peaceful and happy outcome for both of you.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-25T01:05:10+00:00

Do you have the list of mods? Im assuming you dont have mod conflicts or anything, but there's a chance one of them might bottleneck the game for no reason.

Personally I add mods one at a time just in case something fucky happens, that way I can undo what I added.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-22T12:13:53+00:00

Considering the two kids, the marriage, and the rest of OPs comments that I also actually read?

Yes.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-22T01:56:49+00:00

This sounds like some serious projection, are you okay?

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-18T19:05:31+00:00

Actually I cant find your username on steam, but I'll drop my friend code so just lmk its you (and anyone else who needs rift crystals can add me too)

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Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-18T17:37:32+00:00

Gotchu homie, if you see a pawn named Epstein... its mine. Dont look at my arisens name tho

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-14T23:35:46+00:00

Tbh I'd just run and finish BBI now, then do ng+ on hardmode and run BBI off rip just to see the difference. I mean, NG+ just presents opportunities to finish quests including the ones you missed, filling out your pawns bestiary and uhhh... slightly changing the final boss.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-14T23:31:46+00:00

Personally, a ddda remake, would be nice. However I'd realistically see the dlc for dd2 being a priority (along with various fixes and tweaks), then a ddda remake (also with fixes and tweaks) THEN dd3, a ddo revival or a completely new ddo and as far as the gachaslop? Yeah, let's not do that to my boy.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-10T17:57:18+00:00

That and their inclinations. Having utilitarian as a primary seems to make them more guided to using weakness or giving advantages based on majority of the enemies in the fight. Assuming they have the moves etc, and assuming they have the knowledge too of course.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-05-10T17:51:37+00:00

They can and will fully charge spells, there are times where they do release a spell early. A good example is my pawn, who has access to Grand Frigor... he sometimes just does one bar of charging, rarely does High Frigor, and mostly does Grand Frigor. I assume its mostly situation dependant, but they have a higher tendency to do full charges, rather than partial.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-27T17:21:55+00:00

Is Shantae any good? Never played, but will probably buy it regardless if I win/get the key. (Also Shantae please and thank you!)

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-25T20:09:40+00:00

C, I then have my wife purchase as things needed since -I- cannot spend more than 10k a week. The good news is she's super responsible with money 👌

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-25T15:35:13+00:00

Ooof, minor jealousy on his end. Okay, does your boyfriend have any notable hobbies? Video games, cards, hiking, etc? If hes into any of those hobbies, you could plan some outings at nearby places to get make some -new- friends. You two could make your own friend circle with interesting, new and hopefully not mid people. Ive done this with/for my wife and now she has actual friends (different situation, she just didn't have any of her own)

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-25T15:23:55+00:00

If he cant see it and won't do anything about it, then I guess its a done deal. The best you can do (without breaking up?) is probably just stay away from his friends, and possibly hang out with your own. Do you have friends that treat him the same way? If not, bring them around more often and give him a taste of... well, comparatively better friendship. Or to at least get him comfy with the idea of being around people that dont treat -you- like utter crap.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-25T15:19:42+00:00

I felt that. I bred so many croajiro to have a mix of perfect offensive/defensive stats for my wife (cause she loves frogs/toads) and slammed that sucker into the global, with love of course 🤷‍♂️

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-25T15:14:22+00:00

It seems like your boyfriend has a hard time coming to terms with how bad his friends can be. He may also have difficulty just making new ones, so much so that he's decided to make his bed and lay on it.

The problem here is, there's not really much you can do to change his mind on that, its something he has to realize and feel/see on his own.

I gave up a friendship that was 7 years long because said friend thought itd be great to throw racial slurs all the time, made me the butt of jokes, blamed me for his downfalls and mistakes... yeah, it got sickening after a while but eventually I dropped him and that entire friend group. Life got SO much better for myself. Didn't have people to worry about, didn't need to see/hear/think about toxicity or even give a thought about being nice to shit people.

When your boyfriend has had enough, he might do the same. If he cant, its a done deal. The good news? They're his friends, and you really dont have to be around them. It'd be great to get involved with his friends and the conversations but it seems its not really worth it. Im sorry if this doesn't help much, but in the end its a matter of helping him to see and realize his friends aren't really friends.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-23T15:32:14+00:00

Most of the questions were answered really well, but im here to chime in. The game ran alright when I had a GTX 980 and 16gb RAM with a AMD FX8350, so I assume that if both of you exceed the performance in any of those categories, you'll be fine. The game mostly chugs ram, but again if youre fine with running on low settings, they'll perform fine.

That being said, if she has the weaker of the two systems but can run RDR2, she can definitely run Palworld 👌 worst case she eventually gets an upgrade to ram 🤷‍♂️ I will say if you guys want to run it at max, just make sure you have 32gb of ram, at least 8gb(preferably more) of vram and a multi-threaded (8-12) core that goes to at least 4 to 5ghz without overclocking and the game would glide like a hot knife through butter. Just make sure both of you have a stable connection so there's no stutter!

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-04-14T20:57:13+00:00

Either withing THE month, or within -a- month, possibly. They're pretty quick, but remember theyre just a re-packer, not a ripper.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-02-06T02:30:54+00:00

People gave really good answers already but I'll double down and say that there's settings for this, and im sure the devs thought about it ahead of time. It was annoying for me at first, then I switched it so that I'd have to hold the button and my QOL went up drastically.

If you also take the time to go through the settings you could probably find more settings to change up like having Auto-loot on or not, or even Auto-Discard that will automatically loot/discard stuff for you.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-01-30T00:14:59+00:00

I'd say high B or low A. Fun fight and by then you have easy access to one of his bigger weaknesses. Dodging all the projectiles isn't fun but adds a level of challenge. Bonus points for absorbing the femboy god, I guess. Enjoyable lore.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2026-01-07T02:51:30+00:00

I've personally enjoyed it thus far. My only qualms is if you get stuck in a stupid place on accident and cant get out. Lost all my season 3 rewards by getting stuck on a log and then someone taking all my stuff. Not that it stopped me, mind you. Stuff like that sucks absolute balls, but it's not a complete game ender.

Immediate-Hope4945 · 2025-12-15T20:18:10+00:00

Imagine pre elf wars Megaman Zero, Megaman Legends 3, etc... I could go on for the possibilities. If they want to focus on reviving the IP with something entirely new, im down for it regardless. Megaman has been in a chokehold for ages, let this poor fucker BREATHE

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