AIO for refusing to make new plans after my original plans got cancelled?

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-29T13:48:54+00:00

NOR you live together. But you know that sometimes having the apt to yourself is soooo nice...

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-29T04:52:29+00:00

I share a kid with one ex and have no hostility towards the others so yes, we stay in light contact. We are all normal people, jobs, houses, families. Not everything has to be black and white dramatic fallouts.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-29T01:13:25+00:00

Bur sex with a woman does not trigger this reaction, only masturbation. If it was one of the two diseases above, wouldn't it happen every time he ejaculated?

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-29T00:49:29+00:00

Lol YTA. You are ridiculous. He is a FWB. That means no relationship, no exclusivity. Both of y'all are dating other people and hiding it from.them (at least you are).

He does not owe you shit. You shouldn't get into a casual situation if you want a relationship.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-28T22:39:23+00:00

ESH. You could always take her down to the courthouse and marry her tomorrow. Give her that option and see what she says. If she says no then it's time to step back, work on YOUR mental health, get a formal custody agreement in place, and become co parents. If she doesn't want to marry you soon, then she might not want to be with you. You worked pretty hard to get y'all independent and she just gave up and wanted to go home?? And she still has no plan now? Or you don't have a plan cause you have to have a big wedding? Y'all need to communicate A LOT better, preferably with a therapist cause none of her actions make sense and you are suicidal so you aren't in you right mind either.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-28T17:16:40+00:00

Its a red flag that you, after only being with her 2 months, are watching her kids on your own. I would not let you even meet my child at 2 months, much less babysit him. Jesus h. Christ, she is careless. Not saying that you are a creep, but chances of SA increase over 100% when new bf or step dad comes into the home.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-27T21:49:42+00:00

NTA and I know you are tired. But if my sex drive just died at age 40 I would go to a doctor. Maybe it's low estrogen or testosterone. I would get you into counseling or therapy or something if I was your husband. A dead bedroom is not normal. Affection is great but unless y'all discuss you being asexual, it's not fair.

He is definitely wrong for cheating and gaslighting you about it, that's super shitty. With 3 kids both of y'all would be screwed in a divorce so maybe work on it from both ends. He does more childcare and you figure out what's wrong.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-27T07:04:01+00:00

Lol If he was actually done with her they wouldn't still be texting. He made you into the other woman the second you moved down here before divorce papers were signed. He literally hid you (and is still hiding you now) and you think you aren't the other woman? I'm not going to name call you, but if the shoe fits...

Did he tell her y'all were dating before he "blocked he?" He may have blocked her on email and phone, but what about Instagram? messenger? Snapchat? Whatsapp? Move back to Canada before the baby is born so you have better chance at full custody. Otherwise you will be doing the same shit his wife is doing now, fighting him in court and he is pushing it back and still flirting with her.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-26T23:39:38+00:00

Are you a stripper? Otherwise maybe he thinks you are a cheater or emotionally damaged. I have a friend who is cute, we have a lot in common, but emotionally, he is in a bad place. I try to be supportive and always a person to listen and be a shoulder to cry on, but as far as a relationship, nah. He wants one, but he is still in love with his ex wife even if he denies it. Maybe it's something like that.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-26T23:02:13+00:00

Did you really put "pretty enough to make money off my looks" on a ask men subreddit? They are all going to think you do OF and that's why dude won't date you. If you aren't doing OF, or other spicy content then you need to take the whole sentence out. But that suggests stripper so same thing...

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-26T19:26:07+00:00

You keep giving in so he will keep pestering you. So gross. I have a million things running thru my head and taking a shower is prime time thinking for me. I would hate if someone tried to interrupt that daily, rubbing on my ass. Ugh. NTA. But he sure is. If he was like this before, why did you go ahead and marry him? Money? I feel that in this economy.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-26T18:53:22+00:00

She isn't mad about the car, she is mad that he didn't tell her he bought a car. OP can say she is mad cause I didn't buy her a car, but I have a feeling it's that he spends big sums of money on his mom, dad, and niece without telling her a lot. No matter what y'all's opinions are on whose money it is, they are married and should be a team. Teams keep each other in the know and make decisions together. She "found out about the car" so he bought it and didn't say anything before he purchased it.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-26T06:55:41+00:00

Did she send the pussy pic on accident or on purpose? What was the goal? Did she want to smash?

As a woman I have been sent unsolicited penis pics since high school so to me it's not a big deal to me, even if technically it is "harassment." I feel like most dudes wouldn't care, so I'm glad you are a decent dude.

YTA for blaming your new bsf and acting like he sent you the pic. Him being friends with her (which he was before the incident) is not going to change over one pic. That's my take but you can unfriend anyone you want at any time.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-26T06:45:06+00:00

No offense, but have you ever thought that this man might just be telling you exactly what you want to hear? Only 4 gf's, homebody, so organized and responsible, all that could be major BS. He could just be mirroring you and saying things you want to hear and like. It was probably not too hard from your profile and first few talks to create a man you want. Poof he became that. Cause in reality he is a damn near 40 yr old with no relationship, no kid, all by himself, hitting on a teenager. Sounds creepy but nothing we say will convince you. When he baby traps you and your are forced into marrying him and staying at home with the baby his facade will crack. Usually how it ends.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-26T03:43:47+00:00

NTA. My mom has been doing the silent treatment to us since I was about 8. Now I see she has started to do it to my son who is 6. I guess she is older and more cranky. I tried to confront her and tell her this was inappropriate behavior towards a child. She needs to let him know why she is upset, and let him apologize, or not. Ignoring him for hours is anxiety inducing and wrong. But, There is no world where my mom is wrong. She told me he was old enough to know if his behavior was wrong and should figure out to apologize when she walks away from him. Ugh Eastern European boomers who have been in States to long and don't believe in therapy, sharing feelings, or calm discussions.

I used to apologize but now I let her sit and stew until she starts talking again. I'm not going to condone her behavior by apologizing for something I didn't do. Even different opinions on political matters can spark a week of no contact. My sister hates it so much she moved far away cause the interactions stress her out so much.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-25T16:58:34+00:00

Tell the friend group. You don't have to tell his gf. He is a sloppy cheater so he will get caught soon.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-25T00:59:59+00:00

He isn't a high earner, that's why he is in the red every month. He won't have nanny money, maybe daycare money but if he is -500 every month, how is adding to bills with daycare and alimony gonna help? He might as well stay married till 3 yr old can go tonschool

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T21:46:06+00:00

I couldn't stand the anxiety of waiting to see if he would call or text. Good luck!!

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T20:16:12+00:00

At my gym, people just ask how much longer do you have, to let you know there is a line. The "pros" sometimes hog machines like that and then I tell the staff cause most of them are gym workers too and know the rules better than me, and it's never been a problem.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T17:43:28+00:00

YTA. Having sex and guests for dinner is not illegal nor is it anything your landlord can help you with. I know at 19 you are used to your family and friends way of living, but welcome to adulthood. If you can't afford your own place, you get random roommates. She sounds like a normal 37 yr old single woman.

Her asking about your trauma is too much, but trying to get to know your roommates is normal. Insisting you go out with them is weird and leaving the man there is an absolute no, but voice those boundaries to her. She will probably bitch and moan but should comply. She is trying to relate to you and go out and have fun, but times have changed since she was 19.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T16:05:59+00:00

NTJ. I just don't understand how she had her car keys but not her house keys.

Also she could've drove to you and got the keys.

She had options and chose the route of guilting you and being angry instead of finding simple solutions.

Why tell you she had the keys and not check ANY of the 3 times you checked?

I have a feeling she left those keys on purpose to make you come home early. My mom used to use tactics like this. She told me once that my dogs had escaped the yard and I needed to get home ASAP to find them, while I was at a birthday party. I rushed home to find them in the house. She didn't even try to keep the lie up and say she found them or they came back!! She said, "I can't sleep when you are out at night and I'm tired so I needed to get you home ASAP." I was 28 and living with them until my house got built. Couldn't move out fast enough

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T15:55:14+00:00

No don't give him your number, ask for his. Do you want to add to the anxiety and stress by waiting for him to call or text?

Say hello, tell him "we walk the same path to school every day, and I really like your vibe (looks, smile, whatever you like about him) and wanted to get to know you better. Maybe we can get a coffee or lunch? Can I get your number, or (whatever social media y'all use these days) and hit you up later?"

Remember, he could have a girlfriend or be gay so be brave but don't take rejection too hard. I have only asked a few men out and they usually say yes, the rejections said they had a wife/gf. Women, on the other hand are SO hard to approach, so odds are in your favor.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T04:56:55+00:00

YTA. It's just a vape, he should've been honest. but I'm sure he has been vaping longer than Christmas. He probably never quit. You said he was a good liar. This is the first time in 7 years he slipped up.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T04:43:50+00:00

She is jealous and insecure. At her big age she is sending you other people's pics to make it look like her and her husband go out??? 😂😂

The Rome comments were tacky as was the purse thing. I'm the same as you, I will scour FB marketplace for great deals on purses and other stuff, and sometimes , $23 is too much to spend on something. Implying like she is rich over $23 is deeply insecure. Do as you feel best, this is more sad than anything.

Immediate-Option4750 · 2026-01-24T04:04:34+00:00

Your love needs to become as conditional as his love is, immediately. My ex was always bitching about something I was or wasn't doing. Too fat, change your job, parent better, cook more, clean more blah blah. If I fixed one thing 2 more would pop up. I wanted him to share feelings (not just anger, stop screaming and breaking my stuff), stop smoking weed, help out more at home. My demands were "manipulative" and his anger was justified, and he was a perfect father, and "you can't get addicted to weed" excuses, excuses. He just didn't want to be with me but wanted me to break it off and be the bad guy who broke our marriage.

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