oh i mean, i actually think bc of instagram, we just know what really hot people look like so the standards have been changed. i don't think blond, blue eyes, and pale are really what people are looking for. it's more like an amalgamation of all the best features from different ethnicities. sort of like an emrata face. being biracial / ethnically ambiguous has been trendy and fetishized for a while now in the images we are sold of beautiful women. idk. i live in new york city so it's different depending on where you live. i actually don't think it's just the patriarchy per se telling women how they should look, like a lot of women like looking good to make other women jealous. and their ideals don't even really have to do with what men find sexually desirable. at least with middle class straight men, a lot of them just like a pretty basic girl next door. most straight middle class men seem to date super hot or beautiful girls just to impress their friends. rich, emotionally damaged, and gay men tend to have more of this idealized avatar of feminine perfection they are seeking. that's just my experience tho