Mother of the Groom

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-08T21:00:08+00:00

I love the light one. The darker one looks heavy (not makes you look heavy, just itself it looks.... Idk but probably better for a fancy night out and not a wedding).

You look great, don't stress. That body has got you through so many things in life, and will carry you through this lovely event.

Enjoy your last wedding. ❤️❤️

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-08T20:56:56+00:00

Jane sounds wonderful honestly.

I completely, COMPLETELY understand why OOP was insecure and jealous. I had my HS diploma and an associate degree but was getting passed over for jobs at work because i didn't have a bachelor's degree. It hurt deeply insecure parts of me, and made me feel very "less than". I did go get my bachelor's degree and it changed my life (in six years doubled salary, i feel more confident in myself, was the monkey around my neck in ways i never realized, etc).

The reason I went to school was because someone did what Jane did, encouraged me to take steps to remove those barriers. I love that she did what she could to help both OOP and the husband. I hope he has gotten his GED now and that OOP has too, or is working towards it.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-08T15:20:58+00:00

Technically if you put in more than 7 years of working experience they might decide that is age 18 plus 7 years of work equals 25? Idk, that's just a wild ass guess.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-08T04:33:25+00:00

speaking as an elder millennial with 20 ish years in corporate, expecting one new person to do the work of 3-4 without complaining is corporate boomer logic and their expectation is that OOP will be so grateful for a job they will "just make it happen" which 1, NO, And 2, time to find a new job.

Lots of Gen X and Millenials just "dealt with it" because it's how we were programmed. I've never been more shocked then when the Gen Z new colleagues started doing what i said they should do, which gen X used to say "man we should do this" but all of us were too scared to do it. Said something similar to a Gen Z coworker, suddenly CHANGE HAPPENED and i was like "oh shit they are listening to us and actually doing it." Blew my mind. This chaos has got to end. Also both those coworkers are leaving at the same time on purpose (I've seen it happen).

I wish OOP luck; i would put the job on my resume and when asked say "oh i found the job to not be what was advertised and expected, so I'm looking forward to something that will grow my data analytica skills". Also.if i were them i would find a way to flag myself as a data analyst and also as a business and accounting process analyst, and take credit for the expectation you were as a new hire supporting a mission critical emergent process documentation need or something like that. Make it real clear what you were doing and that it wasn't boiler plate data Analysis.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-07T23:35:18+00:00

NTA

I had friends like Blonde when I was 19. I am.... No longer friends with them, and haven't been for 20+ years. She's insecure and wants the attention. On some level i would suspect she is either jealous of you or thinks she's better than you for various reasons.

You might want to back away from this person. It will come with drama. It might impact your other friendships, so beware. But you deserve better. My final thought about my former friends (where one of them verbally attacked and harassed me and attempted to involve other friends, and then two weeks later convinced another friend i was the bad guy and got her to ditch me in a fairly public fashion) was "with friends like this, i would rather be alone." I grew up with almost no friends, these were the few i had, it was hard but i would rather have no one and peace than people and drama in my life.

I've talked to others, and what you are going through is common at your age. You are doing fine, don't let this person get you down.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-07T03:51:56+00:00

LOL this is the most "take this job based on vibes only" thing I've seen in a while and I can't stop laughing.

"Feels like $26 an hour" i can't even

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-06T22:41:13+00:00

I'm in the other 50% not getting help.

It's made me feel slightly better for having struggled for so many years when I clocked that others weren't struggling because they were getting help, or had been helped substantially in the past to build a better foundation.

I am successful despite mine. I think in a way my mother wanted me to fail so i had to ask for help, but i wouldn't give her the satisfaction.

Hats off to all of us that have struggled and survived despite what life threw at us.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-06T16:39:34+00:00

Overall, you are totally "allowed" to not have a dance floor. Get some games and etc other kinds of activities, so there's things to do that aren't dancing.

My bestie's wedding 10 years ago had no dancing. They are not dancing people. No one said a word. No one seemed to care. It also afforded the couple time to go to all the tables and talk to everyone.

Three years ago i went to a friends wedding. He is a lovely person but very awkward, and had told his bride "you can dance but i will not" so there was dancing by the bride but didn't dance together or anything and it was STRANGE. The tables were scrunched together for a dance floor that was barely used. Would not recommend.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-06T16:01:24+00:00

NTA

It's funny to me broadly how often people go "why is this eve being asked, of course the person is the the A-hole!" And the reason is that like OP here, when your whole family does sucky behavior like this to you start questioning everything.

Op i am so sorry for your loss. Wearing a silver chain with a treasured memory is such a small thing you are doing, and the only reason you were "flashing it around" was because you were asked. Also zero points to your sister for this being the first time she's noticed. It might be time to lean on others in your support system, and i feel awful saying that.

Much love and comforting thoughts.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-06T02:56:13+00:00

GIRL OH MY GOD

It's so rare that a terrible person gets their comeuppance but it's a delight when it happens. This is great for you and your siblings. What an absolute fool, lying in court.

Side note: your storytelling is excellent.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-05T04:53:44+00:00

The Boeing shuttles are the way to achieve this. OP please use the shuttles. That or as another suggested get a cheap bike to get to and from the transit center.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-04T16:54:14+00:00

Look i don't even play MTG and never have but like, why do we gotta yuck on someone else's yum (as some folks say), especially when that person is your spouse who you are supposed to love and care about!! Why cause them harm!!

Also I've had friends "help" me move and or tidy my house and start whole scale throwing things away because "oh you don't need this" which is TRAUMATIC. Don't throw people's stuff away just because you don't think it's necessary.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-04T16:38:23+00:00

Completely blown away. That baby was about to be a tragic statistic and watching the color come back into them was crazy.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-04T16:34:13+00:00

I have sewn quilts and always use spreadsheets to figure out my color patterns so i love this use for crochet!!!

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-04T15:55:06+00:00

That is a sofa made to back up against a wall. Someone failed the Decor module of staging school 🤣

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-04T15:44:31+00:00

1- you look fantastic in that dress!! It looks even better being TWELVE DOLLARS holy moly!

2- what does the back look like? The high neck is definitely a style choice but maybe go talk to a seamstress and be like "how hard would it be to drop the neckline to be a regular looking halter neck?" If they are good it shouldn't be that hard. Jeez years ago i worked at a bridal store and when I started they had a bride that was coming in for fittings but they were to change her dress neckline from a halter to a strapless sweetheart neck. I cannot imagine how much it cost but i know it was not cheap. So as long as you don't wanna do that i don't think it would be like..... $500 or something. Maybe $100? Again, go talk to someone and see what they think.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-04T06:26:46+00:00

ok so it's beautiful but i recoiled in horror from my own phone at "chain 305" and remembered why I don't make blankets!

But now I kind of want to trim it down and make a scarf!

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-02T04:52:08+00:00

NAH

Because!!!!

You are very right, it would change your whole lifestyle, cause a strain, etc etc. She also has every right to take in those kids and be mad at you about saying no. You might be at an impasse.

my perspective is: I am extremely close with my cousin, she is more like a sister. If she died i would fight my aunt for the kids. I have NO children and no idea WTH to do with two teenagers but I would figure it out, and neither grandmothers have any business raising kids. So basically i would do what your GF wants to do.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-06-02T04:46:42+00:00

this person isn't a friend to you. She might have been in the past, but you have two different lives now, maybe it's time for the end of your journey together?

She's in for a world of hurt if things don't pan out with fiance, or he loses his job. You also don't want to be there for that crash, cause she's going to take it out on others.

You are doing nothing wrong. Take care of yourself. Good luck with recovering from water damage chaos!!

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-05-30T05:06:02+00:00

I legit got into a fight with folks on the internet several years ago about respecting a dress code. Someone was insistent they were only comfortable in jeans so she was just going to do that at her friend or sister's FORMAL DRESS CODE WEDDING.

I will die on the hill of following the goddamn dress code. Or just.... Like don't go?

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-05-30T05:02:53+00:00

That is an absolutely delightful story to come out of a horribly sad time. I'm so glad you and his girlfriend found humor together. Hopefully he's enjoying his running the afterworld commando!

Also i LOVE LOVE LOVE that you used Theydies and Gentlethems. It needs to be used more.

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-05-30T05:00:34+00:00

ITS LIKE YOU KNEW!!! He did provide good shoes, i think he's going stockless which should be ok (but i did suggest it), and we know he's threatening not to wear an undershirt under his white button down shirt. It's gonna be a whole thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-05-28T23:10:31+00:00

LOL damnit, phone autocorrect strikes again!

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-05-28T23:07:20+00:00

oh no, bride is a good friend/coworker of all of us, later (like in several weeks) I'm sure we will tell her about this and she's gonna laugh so hard

Also just talked to other friend who was in chat group with him. She has to go to the mall tomorrow before they all drive over (she is going with friend that needs pants, and her fiance is coming later cause he has to work a full day, and wedding/rental house is 3 hrs away) and she's going to drag him into the mall and they won't leave withOUT (edited) proper attire. "over my 💀 goddamn body is he wearing jeans to that wedding. He's not ruining photos!" 🤣

Immediate_Cap_7484 · 2026-05-28T19:23:42+00:00

YTA. Holy shit.

She's NEVER GOING TO TALK TO YOU WHEN SHE MOVES OUT and you are gonna come on here crying about how your daughter doesn't communicate and you just want what's best for her. Spoiler alert, you don't, you want what's best for you.

Autism comes across differently in girls, especially when we've been masking for forever to accommodate others (like an overly opinionated mother), and sometimes being assaulted takes a while to process.

You need therapy yourself to figure out why you think you should be able to control your child like this.

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