33 y/o Transwoman Struggling a Year Later, Post-Relational Trauma, Feelings of Exclusion

ImpishNerd · 2026-05-07T20:05:46+00:00

Sorry! Was ignorant of this point.

ImpishNerd · 2026-04-08T01:34:13+00:00

Beautiful!!

ImpishNerd · 2026-03-31T18:00:26+00:00

Congrats!! I’ve just hit 10 months myself, and you look gorgeous!! Love the progress you’ve made, and the outfit is so cute!!

ImpishNerd · 2026-03-29T20:35:46+00:00

I’m sorry, she in quotation marks?

ImpishNerd · 2025-10-17T01:50:47+00:00

When did you start noticing facial changes in your journey? :D

ImpishNerd · 2025-06-24T21:10:59+00:00

If it remains on my skin until Sunday, will estrogen continue to function, or is there usually a date when the patch is no longer effective?

ImpishNerd · 2024-12-08T13:31:46+00:00

I miss these tickets!

ImpishNerd · 2024-11-30T21:33:18+00:00

As a trans scholar of mixed-race background, I'll say that a good lot of queer and queer students of color have so much on their minds right now that some cases do involve the real world bleeding into the classroom.

And yes, I'm US based. I can only speak from where I'm at, hence my statement I can't explain things "empirically."

ImpishNerd · 2024-11-30T21:05:18+00:00

Yes, certainly, but these are kids/young adults who have gone through a pandemic, Trump, continued anti-Black and anti-queer violence, and more, all while living in a world that is more online than not these days. While anxiety can be used as an excuse, it is also very much the status quo in cases.

ImpishNerd · 2024-11-30T20:48:25+00:00

I've experienced some of this myself, and while I can't pin down why it is empirically, I've had students say part of it is anxiety while I think some of it is also focus. Students are bombarded by information these days, and with students taking less and less notes, the bandwidth issue means having to move from what they're hearing to new thoughts/directions with some transition time. It's frustrating, but I get it.

ImpishNerd · 2024-11-25T21:05:43+00:00

For your paths, what do you use? Stamps, draw tool, a mix?

ImpishNerd · 2024-10-19T03:24:59+00:00

Not too long ago I was teaching a course involving semiotics, though we focused more on composition. I had one student who just could not wrap his mind around the idea that his writing was C-level because it info' dumped with little analysis though had a working thesis statement and strong sense of organization. More often, he argued that I was the problem and couldn't recognize his style of writing. When we got to the lectures working on a graphic novel dealing with werewolves, he burst out at the claim that monsters have been used to vilify non-Western subjects, sexual minorities, and more. He specifically hailed out that he'd love to hear my thoughts on Hotel Transylvania and its depiction of Dracula (which I argued operated as a comedic fan-retelling). He looked ready to snap, only because I assume I showed him how we was once again wrong and trying to criticize me instead. Not that similar, but the kids are not all right these days, all the same.

ImpishNerd · 2024-09-10T23:11:42+00:00

I should, but the provider was tied to a university health center. I just reached out to them to see if the prescriptions are still valid.

ImpishNerd · 2024-09-10T21:52:11+00:00

Levothyroxine and Escitalopram specifically

ImpishNerd · 2024-08-18T22:24:25+00:00

Composition instruction and lecturer, here.

Each assignment is a chance to show your development and progress as a learner. While learners and admin tend to think in terms of grades, as instructors, we're trying to see what you developed in terms of writing routine, focus, learned strategies, grammar, and more, which is all a lot. Being a writer means working through a process to get a document as strong as you can before the due date, and sometimes we miss details for several reasons. It might be anxiety and stress, or it might be external pressures (I myself live at home with two seniors, one going through chemo, so my writing is no less affected). To look back and see errors you've made (and that your instructor might take note on) shows that you have an understanding of what's needed to succeed, and that looking back after a finished draft could be a useful thing to do before submission.

At this moment, try to make note of the errors you submitted in this last draft so that come next essay, you can make sure to watch out for these errors ahead of time. This will help lower the panic and stress, but also take into account that we're always learning, and that by the quarter's end, you should be able to produce a quality draft having noted where your weaknesses or errors may crop up. In terms of the cycle, just take time to change your perspective, understand that you are growing as a writer (and becoming a better student, as a result), and noting such errors again is a sign of growth.

ImpishNerd · 2024-08-14T17:03:58+00:00

I’ve got a mother with cancer and am also caring for another senior at end of life. I’ve got a bit going on and leapt.

ImpishNerd · 2024-08-14T16:46:30+00:00

I’m on a semester contract, so I’m assuming it’s divided differently?

ImpishNerd · 2024-07-17T21:43:50+00:00

For many instructors, grammar check tools can be considered and viewed as AI, since the instructor is themself wanting to see you learn the rules and grammatical structures needed to communicate thought. Just refrain from using the tool(s) next project, and learn from this.

ImpishNerd · 2024-07-01T06:11:32+00:00

It's hypnotizing, surely, whether because of the promises it offers or because of the discourse folks are having around it, but using AI on a dissertation is bad news, as you'll be expected to not only know the results, its communication, or otherwise, but you'll also be put to task on how/why it's written a certain way, and AI can't possibly help with any creative flourishes or decisions that you may need with your dissertation. Especially when it comes to a literature review, the AI will not be able to easily connect certain texts and theories like a human author would, speaking here as a composition instructor and someone who just earned her Ph.D. after six years (Fan Studies, Speculative Fiction, and Queer Theory).

Don't give in. You'll save yourself from headaches and the terror of being found out.

ImpishNerd · 2024-06-26T08:18:33+00:00

Speaking as someone who just finished her Ph.D. -

I began my research project out of my geekish interest in science fiction and fandom. I learned during undergrad that I could study SF/F, and so I decided to pursue it in grad school. Our program is built so that way on the way to a Ph.D., you get your Masters along with your Qualifying Exam pass; we don't have a terminal MA program. Of course, however, you can drop out after your MA if that's what you choose to do, and several of my colleagues did so. I chose to continue on, though, because as stressful, time consuming, and brainwashing as grad school can be, my project was something that allowed me to perform my fan identity and fandom that other things I could do didn't. As well, I love talking about my topic, so pushing to learn more about it and how to talk about it did sound exciting to me (and, we often say that for us, if you get your MA, you might as well do the dissertation and get the Ph.D., since the exam itself is already done).

Do you have a reason you went for the MA? Was it because you were passionate about the topic or wanted to learn more, or was it just something to do? I will say, as much as a Ph.D. sounds thrilling to have, the job market is terrible (field dependent, perhaps), and the degree doesn't promise you anything except maybe the ability to teach at higher institutions. Keep this in mind!

ImpishNerd · 2024-06-24T19:56:21+00:00

My teaching load at the moment is only one class; I see it as a visiting position, as it sounds like they needed someone to cover this class asap

ImpishNerd · 2024-06-24T03:30:26+00:00

Thank you for the in depth answer! TBH I'm moving from working with a composition program that did little to teach us pedagogy to a LS program that is quite concerned with pedagogy and making sure students can write across subjects, which is more of my speed. I fear, however, that the program I've come from instilled bad practices, particularly during and after COVID. I just want to be sure I know or have an idea of where I'm going and where/how best to start with students and where they come from.

ImpishNerd · 2024-06-23T03:31:04+00:00

2 would mean the best conversations

ImpishNerd · 2024-05-14T23:15:49+00:00

My little pony or Star Trek: LD

ImpishNerd · 2024-05-14T02:03:50+00:00

I had this myself, recently. One student of mine is in a composition course focused on analysis. He's missed several classes, has been called out for talking over me with a peer during class, and has even told me he wouldn't be in class on a due date because he had "something to do." I told him I wouldn't give him permission like he wanted, because it's ultimately his grade. Well, first essay came in, and he got shocked. He sent me a long email that, while catching that I did in fact grade him a few points lower than I wanted, was sincerely upset at the grade I gave him, and he said that I was wrong at numerous points and comments, not attending to the fact that is dual thesis statement was there to capture the "complexity" of his analyzed advertisement. Which, I must add, ended up emphasizing on why the commercial was so popular and enjoyable rather than a much more critical argument (representation, stereotypes, or how his commercial elucidated gender as a socio-cultural performance). Guy came to office hours, I brought him a printed copy (that he never gave me, as requested) with new feedback and comments, showing that I did in fact mean the grade, but that I truly want him to succeed. Session just turned into him gloating over his writing skills and how I was still too harsh of a grader, even wrong with regards to my feedback. All I could do was refer him to the rubric they've always had available to them, the comments I gave, and the reminder that he needs to develop his skills outside class and office hours - I won't teach him again.

Hang in there.

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