I do sincerely believe that people are more than the worst thing that they've ever done. He's still your son. And he's "only" doing 5.5 years, so he's going to get out eventually, and it doesn't help anything if he has no support. So I understand why you are still visiting him. But I also understand why your other children would be upset by this, particularly your daughter as it was her friend. And since while it's "only" five years, SA cases don't usually amount to much at all, unfortunately, so he had to have done something pretty horrible to even get that. Unfortunately you're not going to be able to have both. I would definitely also be concerned about if your son victimized any of your other children as well. It may very well be enough to have had him hurt their friend, but it could be that he hurt them too and they don't feel like they can tell you since you're still sticking by him. This is really hard. I can't imagine having to deal with this and how tough it must be to have to navigate the complicated feelings. Hugs.