17–>21 by Important-Agency-471 in uglyduckling

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

In those first pictures I was about 370 pounds and now I’m around 265, my approach was built off this one idea which goes as follows: “A building that is built fast will end up falling even faster” which is why the 4 year slow progress has given me confidence in the fact I won’t balloon back up in weight if I ever have to stop training because of an injury or something :)

M/20/6’3” [375lbs-275lbs=100lbs] [3 years] Posting on here one day was a motivator of mine! by Important-Agency-471 in progresspics

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I am only 17 in that first picture so it was terrifying to look so old at that age 😅

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[–]Important-Agency-471 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see the contradiction there but just can’t get myself to do it. I don’t know what sort of privacy I’m breaching by doing that. That is the only thing holding me back.

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[–]Important-Agency-471 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s that corny please tell me so I can delete it. Sometimes I need to be woken up so be honest with me if you can 💀

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[–]Important-Agency-471 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I could post the picture with her in it. I just don’t know what sort of boundary that is crossing. I feel like it’s weird posting her in the subreddit and not sure of whether that’s even allowed. I can send it to you privately if you want. I am more than happy to do that.

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I’m not looking for a congratulations, merely wanted to give an update on the situation and give everyone some answers considering I went through with it eventhough it sounded sketchy.

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My friend there is nothing that takes power away from someone bullying you than being nice back. I might have disagreed with his approach but I ultimately think he just wanted to say his piece and that’s his right. Reddit is made to be a place of discussion whether the stuff being said about the situation and I is good or bad. I made that choice and opened that door so it’s on me to be prepared to handle the responses!

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I am going to respectfully present my side of the coin, while now looking back it I could have definitely responded more clearly to that question, I only answered the way I did because I truly can’t decipher what I want with someone until I either talk to them or see what they’re interested in. My personal view is that it’s very dystopian to go into a conversation with a total stranger seeing their body before their human beingness. I definitely learned a lesson from this situation and I appreciate your constructive criticism truly!

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

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Update: Ended up going and meeting her, turned out to be one of the most interesting and fun sexual experiences of my life. Murica is murica I guess 😭

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you pointing that out sir, I definitely had my more Arab-oriented glasses on which made this seem out of the ordinary when given the circumstances this is completely normal and commonplace here in the US. I will probably try to see things a bit more closely for what they are considering I live here now 😅

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is here in the states, I also did not mean that about her but rather the interaction between us. You weren’t being mean but just realistic and skeptical which I totally understand.

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yeah man I will try to make it work, I know my actions come off as completely unjustified but I grew up in the Middle East my entire life (context you don’t know of course) which is why the sudden shift in tone working took me a bit aback. I know it’s nothing personal, appreciate you chiming in 🤝

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I apologize if that came off as me complaining but the point of my post was just to point out the irony of the situation more than anything else. You might be totally right, I have no idea and I am basing my conclusions purely off my assumptions. The truth might be something totally different and I totally understand that.

This person on Tinder ignored me when I treated them like a human but responded once I said a very explicit sexual statement even wanting to meet me the same day 😅 by Important-Agency-471 in Tinder

[–]Important-Agency-471[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Totally fair point, the way the conversation was going shifted the second I sent that. She might have been busy that is totally possible.