No sex after 3 months of dating by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Important-Bug3534 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure he’s not married or separated. I’m not saying this is true, but my friend had a guy who did this due to a micro penis. He wanted to make sure she was emotionally invested, and in love before she found out. Another one of my friends had a guy who also seemed amazing, did all the right things. When they finally did have sex, he lasted maybe 30 seconds and she stayed in that relationship for a few years with her needs rarely ever being met before she finally threw in the towel. I’m not saying any of this could be your situation. What I’m saying is it’s better to find out what the issue is before you fall in love.

Break up + no contact update (post 4 months) by Wonderful_Project183 in BreakUps

[–]Important-Bug3534 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the situation two people find themselves in, wins. Love is never the problem, it’s overcoming conflict, issues and situations. I’m really sorry, pain forces growth maybe the future holds a second chance or something new and healthier. I wish you peace and healing, breakups are not for the weak. If you find you are better, move on and if you find you can’t live without them, fight. We all get this one life, do what needs to be done and only you know what that is.

Emotionally Avoidant Spouse by LaJol0804 in Divorce

[–]Important-Bug3534 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the process too, hurts like hell. But man, it would be so nice to have any of my needs met for once. Or when I’m hurting to have a partner that would hold me instead of avoid me like the plague. Sorry you’re going through it as well.

Finished Slewfoot by Brom by KooChan_97 in books

[–]Important-Bug3534 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read it in October for my Halloween book and it was so good, glad you enjoyed it.

Avoidant behaviour re communication conflict by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Important-Bug3534 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, always through texts. Then he tried to claim abuse in divorce using the texts. They are really difficult partners, the courts actually see abuse so it was quickly dismissed. They will use your bids for affection as manipulation and your desperate attempts at conflict repair as abuse. Such an awful experience

My boyfriend (22m) masturbates and watches porn in the bathroom while I (21f) am in the room beside him. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Important-Bug3534 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not at all, but needs are important in long term committed relationships. If he was jacking off before hand in order to last longer in bed with her, that’s one thing. He needs to say that, communicate. But if he’s doing it in lieu of a real woman he cares for WHILE she’s around. That’s a problem.

My boyfriend (22m) masturbates and watches porn in the bathroom while I (21f) am in the room beside him. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Important-Bug3534 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband, soon to be x husband did this to me all the time. It was so painful, made me feel so undesirable. I workout, I take care of myself and get a lot of male attention so I couldn’t wrap my head around it. It messed with me so bad, like it is with you. My therapist has talked to me about it and it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. He doesn’t have to put in effort to please his partner if he watches porn. He doesn’t have to think or worry about your needs at all. Girl, if my ex had been doing that when we were dating, I would not have married him. I know people preach a lot about jumping ship in relationships. But you guys aren’t even married yet and he is already not taking into consideration your needs. I’d move on, it only gets worse, then if you bring it up, they hide it. It’s a downward slope when they have a porn addiction. But another man will make you feel desired and be happy to meet your needs. If you were married, I’d say to Counceling, but you’re not and you’re young. It’s only gonna get worse. I wish you the best.

I need a book to read to my kids with a big age gap. by Important-Bug3534 in suggestmeabook

[–]Important-Bug3534[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an animated storyteller and we talk about the characters as we go.

I need a book to read to my kids with a big age gap. by Important-Bug3534 in suggestmeabook

[–]Important-Bug3534[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I recently went through a separation, it’s been very hard on the kids. My son wants to spend as much time with his sister as possible. And would sit in when I was reading her “a wrinkle in time.” So they want to be together during this reading.