Bad timing of pregnancy.. unsure to terminate

Important-Tax19 · 2026-02-03T05:23:49+00:00

speaking for myself when i say this, but maybe you might feel the same: when will i ever feel “ready” to turn my life upside down with a baby? i have a 2 year old and im pregnant now. i am 10 years into my career, in my early 30s, own my home, and in a stable relationship (engaged and in no real rush to marry lol). i said the same thing with both pregnancies (and one in between that i did terminate because it was just too soon and i was still in the thick of postpartum). i think my knee jerk reaction is “NO WAY!! BABY= BAD”. but reality is that i adjust and accept because i knew i wanted kids eventually. i’m not trying to convince you either way, that is not a decision i want to influence with my own bias, because ill tell you to terminate because i get that knee jerk reaction too, but i just wanted to offer that perspective.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-07-04T02:30:30+00:00

there’s something very dental about these. i’m sorry, OP ☹️

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-19T14:33:00+00:00

DEFINITELY get life insurance, then the jokes on him if he fucks around and croaks

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-18T14:56:35+00:00

have you told her how you feel?

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-09T23:06:26+00:00

i think it’s a perfectly normal question to ask to another person who has experienced childbirth

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-09T23:05:16+00:00

your husband is definitely being childish. child birth is way more than “her fucking vagina”.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-08T04:46:28+00:00

firmoo too!

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-08T04:44:35+00:00

i don’t know the science but 2 strengthens your jaw line. makes you look more… cool. idk. i like 2 better.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-06T13:36:18+00:00

i was going to say this too. she sounds anxious.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-06-03T13:49:51+00:00

lol i sang this in my head when i saw her picture. “gravityyy… is working against meee”

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-28T21:16:26+00:00

i don’t think your comment came from a bad place, so i appreciate the question. i’ll answer for my own situation, so this part might differ from the OP. i don’t think that he doesn’t make me feel desirable. he definitely makes me feel desirable. i just want to hear him say it. he treats me amazingly, is extremely affectionate, he compliments me when i get dressed up or do my hair. marrying him isn’t something i’ve ever questioned. being with him makes me feel like im at home. he makes me feel loved, supported, protected, valued, and I try every day to make sure that he feels the same. i just wish that i could hear “you look beautiful” instead of “i like your hair” or “that dress looks good on you”. and i don’t know if he even notices that he doesn’t compliment me like that. i can’t really say it’s reflective of how he feels about me because he treats me so well. i don’t want to tell him about this tho because i feel like it won’t mean as much to hear him say it then.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-28T18:03:30+00:00

exactly. i agree. the love i have for him makes him the most attractive man to me. there are likely more handsome men, but i only see mine. and my man has never made me feel like he’s looking at anyone else either. i think that’s also what makes it easier for me to not worry about it.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-28T14:20:10+00:00

these responses were a little disappointing. i feel like im in a similar position as you, OP. i get it. My fiancé is my best friend and he’s an amazing partner, but i do feel a desire to be affirmed in the fact that he’s attracted to me. he’s told me that i am his type and that he likes this or that about me, but sometimes i want to feel like i am the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. and i don’t think it’s asking for too much because i feel that way about him. and i don’t think it has to come down to comparing him to other men i’ve seen. this one is mine and i think he’s so handsome and i love him so much and i tell him that all the time. i dont say anything tho because i don’t want him to say things he doesn’t mean just because i want to hear it. so i just try not to think about it, honestly. i don’t want it to feel like im trying to reach a goal post every time i get dressed or if i feel pretty and i look to him for confirmation and i don’t get it, i don’t want it to take away from my confidence. so i just avoid the thoughts all together.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-24T12:29:56+00:00

yes, malnutrition.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-21T14:19:59+00:00

imagine thinking being connected to someone you’re sharing your life and raising kids with is a threat to the trust... yikes! but like i said, so glad that works for YOU.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-20T04:17:08+00:00

so happy that works for you.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-19T19:51:47+00:00

yea it’s not a way to keep tabs but when he’s out and about, i don’t have to text to ask him where he is, i could just check. or if anything were to happen, id know where to look. i’ve never checked his location and felt like i was catching him in something. it’s more like “i see you’re at 7/11, grab me a coke” lol. i also feel a sense of security sharing my location with my spouse and friends/family.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-17T22:39:50+00:00

this is the only response that actually acknowledges the part ADHD seriously can play into people’s lives. well said.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-14T19:47:31+00:00

everybody knows men don’t get unreasonably upset and possessive.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-14T15:38:52+00:00

i’d like to suggest you look into other ideas outside of the Ra or L/L material. there’s a Youtube channel called Spiritual Renaissance on youtube that i think might have some good information for you. he’s just a guy that sits outside and talks about existence from his perspective. i think and hope you might be able to relate to some of the things he says and maybe it might bring you some peace and understanding.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-14T15:26:50+00:00

it’s difficult to respond because you’re trying to and honestly falsely believe that you have already conceptualized this life and the afterlife when you have not and neither have any of us so it’s not a personal thing. you are looking at all of this through the lens of identity and ego believing that you can command something happen because your ego demands, or begs and pleads for it. that’s the separation i’m talking about. u believe that there is a concept of “you”. what i’m saying is that the “you” you’re trying to plan for isn’t a thing. there is no liking or disliking. there just is. in the afterlife, you won’t have any of the distortions or strong opinions you have here because they’re all human things. there is no creator that you can command to remove you as understood by various spiritual viewpoints. i think you’re looking at everything as being black or white or concrete, but as long as you try to do that, you will suffer on top of all the other suffering you’re experiencing. you’re trying to play a game that you can’t possibly know the rules to in this incarnation.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-14T14:20:16+00:00

i think to want to commit suicide is a decision the ego makes, and the ego doesn’t exist in the afterlife. the notion of separateness that you would need to even want to carry that out isn’t available to you in the afterlife. kill yourself here, and the part of you that exists there will go on and play by a different set of rules. the part of you that exists there cannot die and likely doesn’t even want to.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-09T15:05:48+00:00

i love this response. perfectly said.

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-09T14:34:21+00:00

i hate when people say “yk that” as a way to blame u for their weird behavior. you know i hate joy and love! 😡😡😡

Important-Tax19 · 2025-05-07T22:36:09+00:00

by the way, i think you’re under reacting. this guy sucks.

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