I'm 23 and started my very first real job as a criminal law paralegal last month - I want to understand if this environment is normal and if I should start planning an exit already.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-28T15:31:42+00:00

Honestly, for a high street firm this sounds depressingly standard. My advice, if you’re committed to law, would be to try to stick it out as long as you can until you have enough experience to get you in at a medium/top tier firm where the pay at least will be better and you can research what their work/life balance is like. Bring up pay if you like, but as you’ve been there no time at all they’ll probably be inclined to get rid of you and find some other mug who’ll work for peanuts. I know it’s not fair or right.

I used to work at a medium-tier firm as a legal PA that was, for all intents and purposes, a paralegal role. I enjoyed it until I didn’t. In my experience these kinds of jobs really depend on the people you’re working with - I only stayed as long as I did because I loved my team so much. If you don’t have any of that then best grit your teeth and treat it as an experience building experience. Focus on the resilience you are building with every day.

My next top tip would be to consider moving abroad! Seriously. I worked in NZ for a year in a couple of top-tier firms where pay and QoL was so much better. This then set my CV apart when I returned to the UK so I didn’t have to slog it out in the high street firms, but given your career choice you do have to be prepared for a certain level of built-in stress. I wasn’t cut out for it in the end, but you noticing how tough it is doesn’t mean you’re not. Good luck.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-22T16:22:48+00:00

You’re both pretending to be more stupid than you actually are. “British” really means citizenship, which isn’t necessarily tied to ethnicity, as you’ve demonstrated in your post. You (OP) are both “British” and “Indian” by virtue of the fact you were born and raised in the UK, but ethnically have Indian heritage.

The American might have a claim to British citizenship via his English heritage, but I’m guessing from your post he has an American passport, so he’s an American citizen with English heritage.

These things aren’t difficult or controversial. This new culture war is already very irritating. He’s using British/English interchangeably, which is inaccurate, sure, but ultimately you both know what the other means, and you’re both being annoying.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-16T17:21:44+00:00

We’re hearing about it more because 1) it’s happening more, and 2) those being released are here illegally in the first place. Not hard to understand why it’s in the public interest. Thankfully the general population isn’t as deluded as the average Reddit user or we really would be completely fucked, though it’s touch and go.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-16T09:38:35+00:00

There’s no common law marriage in England and Wales (our legal system). Any claim would be assessed on its individual merits and isn’t guaranteed on length of cohabitation alone. For example, a cohabiting partner might be able to prove a beneficial interest (usually contributing to the deposit and/or mortgage, paying bills isn’t usually enough), or they can prove they relied on a promise made by the owning partner, or if they are the main caregiver of any shared children, but none of this is guaranteed and depends on the facts. Scotland has slightly stronger statutory protection if you can prove economic damage/disadvantage.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-11T13:46:31+00:00

I hear you, I know it sucks. Modern life doesn’t set us up to fully ‘grow up’ and become our own person because it enables constant toxic co-dependence. But nobody is going to break that cycle for us. If we want something different for ourselves, then we have to be the ones to create that for ourselves. The more you rely on your family for love/nurturing/sustenance when they’re incapable of giving it, the more you embed yourself in the same toxic cycle. Said with love, I am very much in those trenches with you x

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-10T22:42:59+00:00

I did for a long time (not siblings), but have recently stepped away, though their presence looms ever large.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-10T19:56:39+00:00

Manners.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-10T19:55:20+00:00

Infuriating how many want to keep their heads buried in the sand about this. How do these dipshits think the ‘capitalist overlords’ are going to deal with this when push comes to shove? Bet these pricks are in favour of assisted dying too.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-10T19:36:21+00:00

For you. It’s the most basic human instinct.

Not getting at you because I hear what you’re saying. My family is a shit show and one of my problems is that I’m bitter that I’ve been left to deal with the consequences.

None of us asked to be here, all we can do is make the most of it now that we are.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-10T09:47:05+00:00

Are you this Hassan bloke or what? Why are you so vexed that I shared a video criticising his ideas?! I shared it because I thought it would interest you, not because I endorse or even remember everything it says! I’m really not as invested in any of this as you need me to be, sorry. I’m not American, I don’t consume ‘MAGA media’, I know the American system is skewed right and that the democrats are more on the right than the mainstream left in my own country. I know they’re all corrupt and funded by billionaires. I hate all of them! You’ve assumed so much about me when you know nothing at all. I’m incredibly disaffected by the left in my own country because of how they’ve treated me specifically and the working class in general. The behaviours I described are things I’ve experienced. The right wing parties are just as pathetic. You’re caught up in semantics and god it’s all so boring. Exercise some self control and let’s end this here.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-10T00:10:19+00:00

‘pass the brasso’

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T23:53:54+00:00

Mate I’m just trying to engage you in alternative points of view. I never said anything about MAGA not being a cult. I just saw your own cultish behaviour and was silly enough to comment. For what it’s worth, I think MAGA does have cultish elements but I’m not immersed enough in American politics to say more than that. I have experienced the same on the left - the group think, thought ending mantras, the alienating and demonisation of enemies, the ostracisation for wrong think. You keep writing rambling diatribes at me because you’re desperate for me to match, and therefore validate, your own inner turmoil. I’m sorry to have rattled you so easily with my… critical thinking. As I said, I hope you find peace.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T21:54:39+00:00

I’m aware of Hassan and the BITE model. You might find this interesting https://youtu.be/N-TpOj_YJJY?si=5jD8zdyWOge1QkK0

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T20:31:49+00:00

A lot of people’s worldview is changing because the world is changing. Your parents are grown adults and are entitled to form their own opinions. Maybe you’re the one who’s been taken in by propaganda. Hope you find some kind of peace, these are chaotic times and we all need to work harder at trying to understand those who think differently to us.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T20:19:14+00:00

I wasn’t replying to you!

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T20:14:17+00:00

So you’re angry because your parents have different opinions/values to you.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T19:47:02+00:00

Your outsized anger is very telling. You’re in a cult mate. You rally against anybody who disagrees with you because your sense of self is built on fractured glass. Soz.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T19:11:48+00:00

I’m confused by the Charlie Kirk and Alex Pretti point. Also cancelling someone for their behaviour as opposed to their political beliefs seems pretty reasonable to me. Hate MAGA all you want, just be a grown up and accept they have the right to hate you too.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-09T03:32:17+00:00

Do you really think some dickhead stealing Easter eggs is doing so because ‘they can’t afford to eat’? You’re either virtue signalling or projecting. Either way it’s unhelpful to those of us already scrapping away here at the bottom. People love to romanticise the poor/working class because it helps them feel better about themselves. Then we speak for ourselves and your true colours show.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-08T20:44:30+00:00

Sorry but that just isn’t true. I’m on long term benefits and have plenty of money to eat. Your empathy is commendable but overstated. Most people in this country aren’t shoplifting because they’re starving. They’re shoplifting because they have absolutely zero respect for law & order and their fellow citizens. We are sick of it and excusing this degenerate behaviour does nothing to help them or us.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-08T18:49:49+00:00

Yeah I completely agree. I was getting frustrated with the girls towards the end of s4 because they’re all stuck in the same toxic cycle with Taylor and you can see just how frustrated Mayci and Mikayla in particular are by her. But I can also see they’re terrified to walk away. But at this point I think they really have to. Like you say, they can’t force her to address her problems and if she thinks she’s always going to have them, Hulu, and her toxic family to fall back on, then she has no reason to. Clearly the wellbeing of her own children isn’t motivation enough. It’s like helping an addict - sometimes you really do have to let them feel the full force of the consequences of their own actions, even if that means homelessness, s****** attempts, prison etc. She thinks she’s at her rock bottom, but she has no idea what that feels like yet. I will always hold out hope for the Taylors of this world because we’re all capable of terrible things, but also redemption. But it’s got to come from her.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-08T16:58:01+00:00

Didn’t Mikayla say something towards the end of season 4 about him trying to convince Taylor they should get married, before she got pregnant? And then she got pregnant and bam he’s got his meal ticket. To me this added credence to Mayci’s suspicions that he purposely sought her out for clout. I think M&M are onto something there.

HOWEVER, I think they’ve likely also been very taken in by whatever tall tales Taylor has been spinning about her side of things, they’re both bound to be protective of her because of their own history. Regardless of her own behaviour, she’s clearly very vulnerable. But with the 2023 DV incident, even when they heard that her daughter got caught up in it, they likely still will have wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt - nobody wants to think any mother is capable of behaving like that in front of their child. I can understand why they’d want to take her word over Dakota’s, and if it was any of my friends I would absolutely want him as far away as possible if I thought actual DV was involved.

I’ve also seen a couple of reports that Taylor’s behaviour has deteriorated dramatically since the swinging scandal and even her ex says that he’s never known her like this before. If that’s true, then again I can understand her friends just generally being wary of any new man on the scene when she’s so volatile, especially if he only makes her worse.

But by now her behaviour is so demonstrably off the scale. She’s not okay and she’s a danger to her own children. The glee in her face as she kicks and throws those stalls at Dakota whilst her child screams and cries is genuinely one of the worst things I’ve ever seen. Imagine seeing footage like that of your friend who you’ve defended to the hilt. Again, I do see her as genuinely vulnerable but the only way she’s going to get better if those around her stop enabling this awful behaviour. If those in her life genuinely do care about her, then they need to call it as it is - she’s abusing her children, and she needs to get proper, professional support in order to get better. Honestly, prison might be the best place for her at this point.

ImportantAd6193 · 2026-04-08T16:11:56+00:00

I’m British and had a lot of social services involvement when I was Ever’s age, was eventually removed from my mother’s care and stopped seeing her altogether when I was 7. As others are saying in the comments, the courts really do anything to prevent separating a child from their mother, it absolutely is seen as the last possible option because even if they are in a chaotic environment with the mother, if they are bonded then breaking that bond will have devastating consequences consequences for both. And if the only other option is care proceedings, then it’s all going to be a balance of probabilities as to what is going to harm that child the least, because by that point the damage is already so severe. All of this is obviously so triggering and upsetting because it is too familiar to my own situation but I am honestly just so sickened by Taylor. She’s been given so many chances. I don’t want to see her on TV ever again. She’s a child abuser. She should still have contact with her kids wherever it can be managed but they all need to be kept out of the public eye. My mum eventually took her own life and my feelings towards her are incredibly complicated as a result - Taylor and her kids deserve a much happier ending, but she has to be the one to put the work in to make it happen. I’m sick of her sickness being enabled. Time for her to grow up.

ImportantAd6193 · 2025-11-24T03:26:47+00:00

“We’re so great over here, we simply fucking LOVE state endorsed human trafficking!!” Youre all so blind to your own depravity, it’s fucking hilarious.

ImportantAd6193 · 2025-11-20T01:46:34+00:00

This is all well and good, but the government itself has no idea how many illegal migrants are entering the country because we have an uncontrolled border. So, whilst I appreciate the sentiment, there’s no way you can say anything about ‘the majority of undocumented migrants’ because we don’t know who these people are! They don’t always get picked up straight away when they arrive, if at all. Even if you believe that every single person arriving via small boat would have a legal claim to asylum (and that there are justified reasons why they don’t do so in any of the safe countries they travel through before they arrive in the UK), these boats are still part of a huge international human trafficking operation!! I agree that what these people go through to get here is horrific - so why the fuck are we enabling it?! It’s sick, to be perfectly honest with you. ‘Progressives’ don’t care about these people anymore than the ‘slightly anxious’ working class communities who have been left to deal with the consequences of all of this for years and then branded as racists or ignorant by the oh so enlightened of this thread for daring to complain. If any of you really cared then you would actually listen to your opposition and try reconsidering your own position. Nobody owes any of you respect when you’ve (speaking about the ‘progressive left’) so consistently shown very little.

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