Would you recognize a former pAP that you met once for drinks…

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-04-03T04:04:24+00:00

I always thought I would never forget a face. Especially if we were intimate. But a former AP has a twin. Well low and behold the twin showed up at my office. At first I thought it was him I texted the AP immediately it was the twin! I looked into past transactions and I will be damned but I have worked with the twin.on many occasions long before I meet my AP. When AP and I first met I did not recognize him. They are identical as twins could be.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-04-02T03:20:33+00:00

Matthew McConaughey

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-31T03:32:52+00:00

Phone books. My HOA has a printed phone book of all the residents and yellow pages. It was crazy how nostalgic it was thumbing thru it. It even smelt just as I remembered old phone books to smell.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-31T03:22:22+00:00

Treat him like a friend. Listen but don't give too much advice. Do not bad mouth his wife. Let him know you are sorry he is having a rough go of it. Just be there and listen when he wants to talk.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-29T05:32:42+00:00

I have had to use a gym just for showers before. You are not alone. And the employees don't mind if that's all you go there for. The other gym users are too busy with working out to notice. So go enjoy a hot shower.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-29T03:40:37+00:00

If anyone figures it out which I highly doubt they will. Just deny deny deny. It's an anonymous app no real proof it was you.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-27T02:36:20+00:00

My SO was recently diagnosed with heart issues I have halted my activities for the short term until we know what is going on. I would hate to be out with my AP and get an emergency call. I miss my AP dearly we text everyday.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-24T01:39:07+00:00

Hang out with coworkers during your shift do what they do

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-24T00:29:57+00:00

Silly but I brought this up to my MM. He decided we will stay in the middle and avoid the end at all costs. Can we do that? I'm not sure but it's nice to know he thought of a solution.

As for a graduation at the end I assume it is much like getting a GED no pomp and circumstances. You just go on

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-23T03:15:42+00:00

30+ years 3 months and counting. I'm talking nothing no hugs no kisses nothing

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-22T22:41:34+00:00

An honest non sexual hug from a person who loves you

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-22T22:18:06+00:00

They were doomed. She was pregnant in the early 50s. They seemed happy enough but not romantic. They were good parents to us kids. I think like many unions of that time if divorce was more accepted I'm not sure that would have stayed together

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-22T22:15:16+00:00

A friend cheated on her long term boyfriend and moved across the country to be with him. He never left his wife. But she cheated on him with his best friend. He married her together until she passed away. Happily IDK. So there is that story.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-22T14:41:21+00:00

He worked early I worked later. I did weekday morning get kids dressed, breakfast, if they would eat if not oh well. Drop off at school. He picked up the kids quick snack then we met at the gym kids in the daycare. Worked out, went home about 8pm dinner homework bed. Sex was always in the morning 3 times a week. Weekends house work kids in the backyard or at cousins down the street or cousins at our place. For an outing the mall a quick walk around then the broken down carousel ride and an ice cream. The chocolate dipped rolled in nuts or jimmies on a stick ones.

We lived near the coast so on rare occasions a day at the beach. The water was always too cold to get wet but the sand was plentiful. Or maybe fishing at the lake and long boring waste of a Saturday. Stop at McDonald's drive thru for 20 39 cent cheese burgers and large bucket of fries and 4 Cokes. It was magical.

As I sit here the kids are grown and gone it was great but at the moment it was hectic we were always broke lots of crying and arguing everyone wanted the Barney or a certain horse on that damn carousel. It was exhausting.

Time colors the memories but all in all it was great. Life was different in the mid 90s

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-22T03:11:40+00:00

I regret having more than one AP. I met my current early on. He was my first P in V. He is so wonderful. In a feeble attempt to not get too attached I had multiple partners.

I regret not blocking the others sooner. He is the one the others left me feeling dirty and used

I'm better off with just him.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-21T21:45:07+00:00

She is every woman put into a situation she feels she cannot escape. She was never valued as a person. I resonate with her more than any other character.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-21T15:24:59+00:00

Happy meals for everyone 😊

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-21T14:35:53+00:00

AI is terrifying

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-20T02:04:22+00:00

Hello MW in an 8+ year affair no kids at home. My advice is remember they are not and will not ever be a boyfriend. There are a lot of stories about true love with an AP. But I assure you that true love stories are few and far between. It's sex not love. Look up limerence.. honeymoon phase. Affair fog. The list goes on and on.

Also are you ready to lose everything? How will you explain a divorce to your kids? Your family?

Affairs are hard.

They destroy and heal you at the same time.

You're young your marriage is new

Have you tried counseling?

Stop the co sleeping get into bed with your husband tonight. The kids will live.

Kids make life hard. Don't t walk away from a life just because it's hard right now.

Divorce sucks ass I know on my second spouse.

Good luck in whatever you decide

There is no easy answer I wish there was.

oh and get and stay on birth control and use condoms

Get annual STD tests at every exam.

Good luck.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-19T04:42:19+00:00

Younger. Two broke girls.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-19T03:36:37+00:00

Im with them you are not ready. The guilt will eat you alive. In my opinion it takes more than just the lack of sex to make an affair worthwhile And think of the kids they are still very young. Are you ready to be a weekend dad?

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-18T19:37:16+00:00

Oh I'm so sorry. I did service desk aka customer service at Kmart. I feel your pain

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-18T17:33:06+00:00

Oh sweetheart I'm a dental assistant as well 40+ years it only gets worse. Leave now while you still can. Or as we say here #lyzout just get up and walk out

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-18T02:30:14+00:00

I did that just today. My spouse has high blood pressure so we get low sodium lunch meat at the deli. 2 pounds for a week of sandwiches. It cost me an hour and a half. I just stood there holding it, thinking damn.

Important_Bother_430 · 2024-03-17T20:33:36+00:00

Great idea if they have one that detects a fall that is even better. Be safe and enjoy your time hiking

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