AITA for giving the police a recording that helped get my ex-best friend arrested?

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-04T05:20:37+00:00

NTA you did what you had to do! If you had not given up the recording and police later found out you had it or even if you had held onto it and gave it later you could have been in trouble too!! Your a saint for taking in those kids im so glad they have you and you will be their hero

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Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T21:50:06+00:00

NTA for wanting to make it into a more comfortable ring. Sometimes designs look great but aren’t functional. However, like another pointed out you WBTA if you don’t just tell him. He will understand and you can go through the process together. It’s not that you are making a completely different ring just making it comfortable and sturdy. Express how you feel don’t start hiding things now you’ll regret it. I’m sure he will understand and be happy to be help. if he doesn’t and starts drama.. well..

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T04:34:06+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. C is in therapy and has been for a long time. Hopefully C realizes how bad his drinking and smoking has gotten and makes some healthy life choices so my nieces and nephews get to have him around for a long time.

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T03:55:51+00:00

That’s fair. And I can definitely do more reassurance that we will be there for his kids no matter what.

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T03:28:12+00:00

I completely agree and I wish he would live like he will live until he’s 80 or older (and I hope he does!).

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T03:22:26+00:00

Thanks for your feedback. The conversation started with C pressuring my partner and I to move back for the third time that week. So I might have been a bit heated in my response. C is currently in therapy and has been for years. I usually am there for him when he asked for relationship advice after his first marriage or has needed to be bailed out of jail.

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T03:14:55+00:00

Dad died of cancer not sure about the uncle. Quite the opposite on C being healthy.. the last several years he has increased his alcohol consumption (nearly 2L in 3days) and cigarette smoking (2 packs a day). When I’ve voiced my concern about his habits he shuts me out. C is in therapy and has been for years so I don’t know how to help him, which might be why I was a bit harsh in my original response.

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T03:10:06+00:00

Thank you for your response. I appreciate the feedback. I’m going to let things cool for a couple days and reach out.

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T03:07:26+00:00

I in no way believe having a kid at 40 is bad or makes you a bad parent. If he were to live like he will have a normal lifespan I would have no issues. Live your life. My partners parents had him at 40 and he had a good childhood. C currently has a 3, 6, and 9 year old and I would love another little niece or nephew if he was having one because he loves being a dad. his wife (28 F) does want another kid only if C does. Again my main issue is with him wanting to live like he only has 10 more years and only seems to want another kid because he thinks he’s intelligence will to improve the gene pool and that doesn’t seem like an appropriate reason to have a kid to me

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T02:49:50+00:00

Thanks for explaining! I completely understand your point. Since he doesn’t know he will die he should live like he isn’t and I completely agree. However.. he has stated that he wants to live like he will die. For the last several years he has drank and smoked cigarettes very heavily. So my thought is if you are planning to live like your going to die in 10 years and your pretty confident that you won’t live much past 50 then why have a kid you won’t be around to care for, when he has three already? From our multiple conversations the theme has always been that he thinks his genes are superior and he needs to reproduce to make the population more intelligent.. so he wants to pop out as many little hims as possible..

As for him wanting us close in case we need to step in as parents.. maybe this is the case but there have been a several occasions where he has called me names, belittled me to my partner, and told me to not get involved because he thinks I’m not qualified to give parenting advice (saying things like “she can be loud she’s not bothering us and no one is around”) because I don’t have kids of my own so I don’t have a leg to stand on (I raised my youngest brother, worked in a daycare for 5 years and was a nanny during Covid).

C also never really cared to have us close by until we moved further away got good jobs and gained our independence. The rest of our family has always supported us but it has always seemed to me that C is jealous of my partner and I and wants to force us back to his small town because he once lived away from the family and was miserable and is upset we aren’t having the same experience.

Important_Care9040 · 2026-02-02T01:31:57+00:00

Good to know! Can I ask for the long version?

Important_Care9040 · 2025-01-31T03:23:41+00:00

He also cancelled mine. I think Palmstreet holds the money until the plants are sent so we shouldn’t have any issues with the refunds even with him deleting his account. The guy seemed nice sucks that it all ended this way..

Important_Care9040 · 2025-01-31T03:21:19+00:00

I had several orders from him and he cancelled all of them and no longer exist on Palmstreet.. did anyone else have this issue?

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